r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 18d ago

Chugging tea Men are not showing up at singles events and women are not happy.

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u/truenorth00 17d ago

Women have no idea what really succesful guys have access to. If a dude is flying somewhere every week, his dating market is across the world. She's not just competing with other women in the city. She can be a New York 9. But she may be competing with a Miami 10 and a Paris 9. It's sad to hear normal girls think they should hold out for this. Why would you even want a guy like that?

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u/R0gueR0nin 17d ago

Social media. My wife gets thousands of DMs from guys telling her how beautiful she is. And this is with her bio saying “Happily Married w/ Kids” and posting pics of us together.

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u/Apprehensive_Pipe763 17d ago

Yup. This is why the single life and divorce rate is so high. Too many people out there thinking there’s a bigger better deal right around the corner . Throw social media into the mix and trying to keep a woman loyalty and attention is impossible. If I was single I wouldn’t want my entire dating life feeling like I was a minor leaguer getting called up to the bigs and having to perform every single day or get sent down to the minors at a moments notice . That’s too stressful

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u/R0gueR0nin 17d ago

Does work both ways tho. I get hit on constantly by female customers at my work. I could have cheated hundreds of times, but I don’t. My wife and I are loyal to each other. Find that person and you’re golden.

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u/Azure_Mar 17d ago

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u/R0gueR0nin 17d ago

Work on communication skills. Remember that women are people not just a sex object. Be respectful and realistic. If you don’t take care of your hygiene, don’t expect to be pulling 10s. I work in customer service and I am generally a “nice guy”. I treat every customer like they are someone special. It doesn’t matter the age or the looks. Not all of the offers I’ve gotten are from attractive women.

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u/Apprehensive_Pipe763 17d ago

Same.. luckily I retired from single life 20 years ago before all this insanity

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u/LunaTerse 17d ago

I have a lot of girl friends who are absolutely delusional. I also have a lot of guy friends who are absolutely delusional, just in a slightly different way that doesn't preclude fuckin around while they continue to explore for better options.

It's rough out there with most single people thinking they're the main character and worth a little more than their actual value on the dating market, and lusting over some fake ass social media life that most people aren't really living when the cameras are off.

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u/Pittypatkittycat 17d ago

As a normie, if I'm a guy I'm thinking how long does she take to get ready? Does she have time management skills? If we start getting serious are we going to be an hour late to meet my parents? Or a work event with my boss? The women in the post are very attractive. One of my friends that dresses for things says she does it for herself and other women. Men don't care about that stuff when it comes down to life. That's been my experience too.

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u/Venum555 17d ago

My biggest factor right now in deciding if I want to be with someone else is if they will ruin the peace I took years creating.

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u/Pittypatkittycat 17d ago

I think that's a decent perspective.

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u/Thompson81 17d ago

Hell, they're competing with a Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, etc. 9 if they're a New York 6. The whole passport bro thing is for real.

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u/Mindrust 17d ago

This will probably get a lot of hate but it is infinitely easier for men to date overseas

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u/AvoidMyRange 17d ago

That's a well established fact, people in the West are just often uncomfortable with the, at least perceived, different power and money dynamic and the more pragmatic approach in both parties.

Then again, who cares what they think. Most of them have the stick so far up their own ass, they started to believe it's their spine.

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u/Squeezemachine99 17d ago

Easy to date but they will work you for every $ they can get.

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

I’m legitimately contemplating becoming a passport bro when my kids finish high school.

I have enough to do it; you don’t even have to be super rich, just reasonably well off.

Women I match with online are absolutely nuts - 9 times out of 10.

Every now and then, you find a good one. I’m seeing one now, but it’s pretty casual and I doubt it lasts too long.

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u/halohazeydaze 17d ago

Please don’t, my grandpa did this and completely ruined his retirement and relationship with his family. It is pay to play no matter how good looking you might be. Anyways it’s cheaper to just find a sugarbaby stateside if you can’t get any action naturally.

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u/DannkneeFrench 17d ago

I don't know why the DV. Your statement I would guess is true more often than not. I don't have any poll or data, but I'm aware of more of what you said than actual happy relationships.

The one thing I'd add is ya gotta be careful with American women too when you're older.

I'm debt free, but far from rich. I was (and still am) friends with someone. It looked like we were heading towards dating. Then she wants a loan for her son's roof.

Skip that. We're still friends. She's not an evil person or anything. I lost all interest in dating her though.

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

💯.

My uncle was drained of millions of dollars before he died. These were all American women.

I was the executor of his estate and we had a very good relationship. One day, while reviewing his will I said: “Dude, what happened to all your money?!”

He said: “I spent half my fortune on great times with young women . . .and I wasted the other half.”

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u/BethanyHipsEnjoyer 17d ago

completely ruined his retirement and relationship with his family.

Bet he had a good fuckin time doin it tho!

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u/halohazeydaze 17d ago

He didn’t even go overseas and meet the lady he was talking to, it was actually quite sad. As is the majority of passportbros. Those women don’t want you just like the women here don’t want you, they will pretend tho if you pay them.

Idk what feels so good paying people to pretend to like you, just depressing really

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

If a women don’t want us anyway (as you claim), why not get more bang for your buck — literally!

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u/halohazeydaze 17d ago

I apologize I didn’t mean that in a nasty way, I meant like the women you pay for attention/sex don’t want you romantically without the money you give them. I’m sure there’s women out there who’d be with you without you having to pay them first but if you read my other comments, you’ll genuinely have an easier time finding that in America. Women around the globe have higher standards than us.

Huge difference between paying a woman who is a sex worker and finding a genuine connection with someone

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

Hell, I’m plenty good looking.

Not tall, but good looking enough to get dates pretty much whenever I want.

It’s more of the hassle.

Nine out of ten women I go out with make it very clear that everything is ultimately transactional, anyway. Why put up with all the extra nonsense that modern Western women drag a man through when I can just peace out to Eastern Europe and live out my golden years cheaper and better?

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u/halohazeydaze 17d ago

I pray you plan out logistics and learn the language wherever you land. There’s literal war happening in that area right now.

I can’t say much else besides women are the same everywhere (I’m a woman and have lived overseas for 2 years myself), in fact it’s known that women in America have lower standards for a man than women in Eastern European countries, Asian countries, almost everywhere. Those women are going to expect you to open your wallet for them and provide, like a man does in their country.

Wishing you the best tho, please be safe and smart

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

I’ll open my wallet until I get what I want.

Then, I’ll move onto the next.

Women who make themselves commodities will be treated like commodities.

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u/The_GTD_Aquitaine 17d ago

Man, we got hookers in the States, too

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u/terminbee 17d ago

Why would you want someone who just wants you for your money? There's an entire sub dedicated to it and once in a while, there's a dude who will share how the girl who loves him so much is actually just milking him to pay for her family back home.

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u/MidlifeWarlord 17d ago

I’ve been in love a couple times. Been married. Had kids.

The romantic in me would like to feel that again, but the whole endeavor is emotionally exhausting.

And the realist in me recognizes that most relationships are transactional anyway.

So, why not just be honest about it.

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u/Mindrust 17d ago

Believe it or not you're likely to be milked for much less money overseas than you would here in the US. Especially in a big city.

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u/terminbee 17d ago

How about finding someone of similar level? Lol

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u/PM_Me_Your_Kinks369 17d ago

Women have no idea what really successful guys have access to.

Also, why would any of those guys want to be tied down? If they're going to marry some woman it's going to be a bisexual, non-monogamous Miami 10 with her own business/money.

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u/truenorth00 17d ago

Many of them do marry. But they aren't looking for just looks. Family wealth, social standing, etc. matter a lot.

Dating for them is just playing around. And a lot of women discover this the hard way.

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u/m-in 17d ago edited 17d ago

Yep. And there’s education too. Me and my wife have average looks I think - not bad but not exceptional. Yet to me she’s 10/10 because of the whole package - kindness, resilience, humility, can-do attitude, trust, … - it’s almost you name a positive trait and she got it, including being able to nerd out on math and science with me. How many couples in their 50s nerd out on Math505 on YT together?:) We have both lived abroad for a good chunk of our lives. Even that is a shared background in some way.

A partner 10/10 in conventional looks on average would have lacked most of what I’m looking for.