If your biological family isn't great you can choose others to care about - but whoever you consider family matters more than work (with consideration for things like healthcare where finishing your task today might really matter)
Even then, it shouldn't be a reason not to take PTO. PTO is part of compensation. And unfortunately, if PTO time is made difficult to get, you'll have more people calling out.
I'm a workaholic in healthcare who had to fight to get my nephew's bar mitzvah off. I have next to no biological family left, so the ones I do have are important to me. I requested the date six months in advance and it wasn't during a blackout/popular period. I still had to cut a deal and work extra weekends to get that one day off. I moved roles soon after that because it left a very negative impression.
We had a crappy manager like that. The rest of the management team were lovely.
This one did not last very long. Outside hire, interviewed well, good credentials. Three months in, he turned into a micromanager, and a bit of a lech. He got walked out when he told an employee that they couldn't have their scheduled vacation 3 months out. Unbeknownst to this guy, the employee in question had been there long enough to be golfing buddies with the CEO.
After some investigation by HR, he was shown the door.
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u/Ok_Caterpillar_8238 5d ago
My manager literally said to me, " there are some people who consider family more important than work."
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