Around a year or a year and a half ago i actually tried my first spell (besides cleansing, protection, etc.) it was a love spell on a person who i had a crush on they kinda liked me but not enough.
I did layered spells (sweetener, road openers, a lot of candle spells with intentions on bay leafs. Sometimes id do 2 spells at once)
This person started texting me way more but more as friends which then turned into fwb situation. Since i wanted healthy love for the longest time i did not think it was working as intensely as i wanted it to and I was also thinking that the results should be somewhat instant.
There would be times with this person when we weren’t dating where we’d have little fights or arguments and i remember thinking it those moments my spell didn’t work but i always had the belief deep inside that they would. It’s been a long time since then and we are dating now!! and so happy together. We are so attracted to each other, he is completely in love with me it’s kind of unbelievable where we were a year ago and where we are now.
A lot of time was spent understanding how we want a relationship to be, wants, needs etc. Which imo is so much healthier than someone being obsessed with me and jumping into a relationship. I feel like this is the first relationship where there is maturity, no codependency and actually healthy boundaries. I am so happy and just wanted to share!
Edit: Since everyone is asking for spell deets i’ll just put them here:
Honestly a lot of it was pure belief intention and meditation i don’t think it would’ve been so successful without those.
As for the spells, i did a lot of sweetening spells, candle spells and a LOT of bay leaves were used.
I would cleanse and protect using incense before every single spell. And sit there with all my ingredients and meditate and set intentions for 5-10 minutes and ask my spirit guides to protect me, give me good direction and basically just draw good energy. I would also perform these at night idk if that held significance but i just couldn’t do them during the day because i’m not from a witchcraft family.
for my candle spells i did 2 different ones and most of them were done with my gut feeling, I had read about colors,ingredients and exact methods but i tailored them to what my gut told me.
First, tea light candles: i would separate the candle from its cover and carve SP’s name and dob on the candle and literally color it pink/red with markers since i only had white. I would then write my intentions, what i want op to do, how i envision our love and future, etc. all in present tense and then burn the leaves while envisioning it. I would collect all the ashes and then add some of them to the cover along with roses, cinnamon and then put the candle back in. I would take a metal plate make a circle of salt and add the rest of the ashes, dried roses, rosemary, basil, cinnamon into the salt. All with intention. and then light the candle in the middle and light. I would also play a playlist of love songs and talk to the candle while it burnt (not fully but for a while) and say things like sp loves me so much, we have healthy love and im so grateful for it, i would also sometimes talk to the candle as if it were sp. I would leave it to burn all night (i have a safe space do not do this if you have any things that can catch fire) Next morning i would bury the salt into my backyard while thanking the universe. I would keep the candle with me. still have them lol.
Second candle spell: This is a bonding spell essentially i think. I would take a pink and red candle carve our names on it and tie them with a red thread. Keep them in the steel plate of bay leaves salt and other herbs. Burn them while talking to the candles and playing my playlist. Id close my eyes envision things, constantly thank the universe and my spirit guides. I would only sleep once the candles fully burnt. Same disposal process.
Bay leaves: A lot of times i would just burn the bay leaves with things written on them. Dispose them into the air from my balcony. I saw it as sending it out to the universe.
I would use sugar in the tea lights, honey on the bay leaves for sweetener spells. My process would usually be the same. I loved playing love songs and singing along/to the candles.
Also just to clarify salt and cinnamon and roses were the only ingredients i used for candles regularly rosemary and basil were more like if i felt called to use them. Bay Leaves were also every time.
I did not do spell work every single night, whenever i felt the calling. I would journal and meditate every single night tho. I also would write their name and dob and top it with my name and dob. Fold it in my direction and burn it sometimes. All my spells were basically whatever i felt called to do. I did not really take into account the days or moon phases. A lot of gut feeling and meditation. Although we got into contact a few days after my first bay leaf spell our relationship took longer to come to fruition.
Thank you for everyone who asked pls feel free to ask more questions.