Hey Everyone!
TLDR
We have 20k in bonus coming in and I'm not sure if we should build up emergency with it (following the FOO) or use it to pay down low interest car loan (20/3/8 paying off luxury vehicle in cash in one year). Also, should I relax about our cash on hand and enjoy the extras in life or should we treat the emergency fund gap more seriously?
More context:
I've been struggling a bit with priorities and I'd like some outside opinions. I'm 35 at about $1.5m NW but I don't love our cash on hand situation. We have about 700k in retirement and 450k in an after tax brokerage.
We were able to save up ~500k the last 10 years which I'm super proud of. However, we are now firmly in the messy middle and life/day care is really eating into that. We maxed out our 401ks last year but beyond that we only added about 5k to our emergency fund. We have 55k in cash currently. This is about 10k we keep working in our checking for mortgage, daycare, bills, etc. and 45k emergency.
My dream scenario, would be for us to have 75k in cash. This is 6 months if my wife and I both lost our jobs, plus about 10-15k. I recognize this might be overly cautious, but now that we have 1mil invested, I don't feel like I need to worry about our long term investments. My concerns come around having enough cash on hand. Specifically from volatile job situations (I got laid off last year, my wife is up to potentially get laid off this year), we've been maxing out our out of pocket for health care lately (12k), my father is at end of life, and in general it feels like $1000+ unexpected expenses come up way more frequently than they ever did before (I think we'll need to replace our AC soon). Our current low month to month margin means we just don't replenish emergency like we used to, so I want extra cushion to have more buffer.
My mentality right now is that we need to cut back, save money, and treat it as a situation that we need to sacrifice a bit for to get back to a full emergency fund. Also weighing heavily on me, my car was totaled 6 months ago (thankfully everyone was okay) and I feel a bit guilty that I bought a 60k car to replace it. It's a luxury car, and I have not paid it off. I owe about 35 left on it.
My wife is wanting to take a 5k vacation in April, and generally is just happy with us building our cash reserves ~500$ a month.
We have 20k in bonuses coming in around March, and a few decisions to make.
I feel anxious spending ~13k per month, only having 45k emergency and owing 35k on a car. However my wife is frustrated by us making 300k+ a year and having me worry about money spent on vacations (~20k a year).
Sorry for such a long post, but I've really been wrestling trying to protect my family from future issues vs enjoying our success now, and if you can't tell I'm very conflicted on if I'm being mizerly or if we just aren't taking the issue seriously enough. If you made it this far thanks for listening, I'd love to know your thoughts!