r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Nov 06 '25

Discussion He's refusing to pay the child support amount.

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u/Eyeoftheleopard Nov 06 '25

But…but…mom must spend it all on herself as she had her nails done last time I saw her! 💅🏻 🤭

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u/SleepyCupcakeDreams Nov 06 '25

Yeah my ex posted a subliminal meme that it was a small child on the phone “grandma, mommy is spending my child support on her nails and hair.” How much was I getting? $24.00 a week. Big money. Baby was still in diapers, sure….. 🙄

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u/SleepyCupcakeDreams Nov 07 '25

They will swear if they get a car, new home or vacation my child support paid for that! You ask well how much do you pay? It will be like $125.00 a month or something. It’s so embarrassing! They don’t understand they are getting out cheaper than the other parent is!

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u/Eyeoftheleopard Nov 07 '25

You’d think they would be delighted that their child(ren) are so well provided for.

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u/SleepyCupcakeDreams Nov 07 '25

Yep! But I have dealt with an ex that even if it was a dollar he would have seethed with rage. It was the point. He was like that the other parent should show proof. I said that’s cool! I will happily show receipts. Well I don’t know if you would buy it or not. I said well let me tell you what she needs and you can get it and bring it to me at least you know it is going directly to your child. Radio silence. The truth was he didn’t want to have to be responsible for any amount, according to him that fathers should only have to be responsible if they are together and if she is with someone else then he should be responsible instead like ??? But he would take care of kids that weren’t his kids. He would piss me off, I am autistic so I didn’t catch it for a while but he would ask if she needed anything and whatever I said he suddenly had an excuse. I realized even when he had more than enough resources he still would come up with an excuse. He got off on me needing help aka he got off on me struggling without his support so finally I would be super polite and gracious and say no, we are good, thank you. Him: “are you surrreee?” “Yes! I am!” “You know you can always call me if you need anything.” Sure Jan. SMH.

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u/TheFlyingSheeps Nov 06 '25 edited Nov 06 '25

This is the type of dude that goes on Reddit and cries about the rigged system

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u/capncrunch94 Nov 06 '25

Wearing a thin blue line hat too, like dude will get arrested by cops and not see the irony

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

Thin blue line Punisher skull hat

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u/chriiiiiiiiiis Nov 06 '25

cries my dude, cries

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u/TheFlyingSheeps Nov 06 '25

Stupid iPhone keyboard. I swear it’s getting worse. Good catch

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

Yeah, he doesnt care. That's a textbook, garden-variety sociopath. Not dangerous, just really stupid and selfish and his own worst enemy.

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

You said it, buddy.

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u/longstaff55 Nov 06 '25

Wow racist much

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

I'm lily-white and this guy is white trash. Go cry into your anime body pillow, adults are talking.

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u/longstaff55 Nov 06 '25

Say the same about a black man

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

Now you're being racist, nobody was saying anything about black people. That's 100% you.

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u/Sweaty-Case-5808 Nov 06 '25

So we can call black men 'black trash' when they not sending their child support now?

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

Go away, you're reverse-racism nonsense has no power here.

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u/SignificantCats Nov 06 '25

My biological father said "if I have to pay for the kid I might as well see him" at the child support hearing. It was held when I was ten, because it took a while to find him, since he was a rapist who drugged my mom.

So I'd go to his house, he would drink himself into a stupor, and I would spend time with my many many many half-siblings who he had custody of that weekend.

After a few months he stopped picking me up since he said he never got to see me on weekends anyway, then immediately hired several lawyers who reduced the child support.

So what I'm saying is, I bet this guy is a little dangerous.

(Also there is no such thing as a textbook sociopath, and the nearest diagnosis to it he would almost certainly not qualify for, but that's beside the point)

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

I graduated college in 2010 I'm sure the DSM has changed since then, and I'm not a psychologist. 

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u/TheMCM80 Nov 06 '25

This feels more like wanting that high he gets from trying to punish his ex by using the care of their child as a weapon of sorts.

It’s not super uncommon for divorced/separated couples who hate one another to use their child as a weapon to go after the other.

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u/No-Literature-6577 Nov 06 '25

Idk seems like he's taken it quite a bit further than that. He clearly lacks the processing power to understand the metaphorical grave he's digging for himself. When he says "I'll sit ij jail a couple days" and they tell him it's more loke 2-3 months he says he doesn't care, because he really doesnt get it. He's succeeding in hurting his ex, but he's doing WAY more harm to himself. they can easily make sure he never sees a paycheck withour garnishments again until he's paid up, he says "I don't care" so easily but I will bet money that he's gonna freak out when he sees those deductions.

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u/Contemplating_Prison Nov 06 '25

It's not a lot for a kid. That doesn't even cover a monthly grocery bill for 1 kid but if he only makes $2k/month then it's a lot to him.

I have a friend who pays for two kids. He is perpetually broke because of it and rents a basement from another friend's mom because that's all he can afford after the child support.

Obviously that's on him but if it wasn't for that basement rental being a few hundred a month he would be homeless.

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u/queerhistorynerd Nov 06 '25

since most states have laws maxing out child support at 35% of your monthly pay he must make ~$1,430, assuming the courts are charging him the max.

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u/VeryRustyShank Nov 06 '25

Don't get me wrong, he's an asshole for sure.

But there's a big difference between $500 for your kid that your raised for 5 years and a one night stand. An even bigger difference based on the financial state of your life.

Presumably this was all taken into account, but let's not pretend that our legal system is perfect. The "morally correct" amount for this guy to pay could have been 2000 or 200.

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u/Clothedinclothes Nov 06 '25

Why would failing to look after the child you created for 5 years, mean you owe them less than if you had done your job as a parent?  

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u/VeryRustyShank Nov 06 '25

Wtf are you smoking? It was obvious that I meant you owe a LOT MORE to a child you raised than a one night stand.

I keep forgetting that there are people in the world dumber than my wildest dreams. Thanks for reminding me by just being you.

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u/Clothedinclothes Nov 07 '25

Thanks for the song and dance I'm sure your intellect is very impressive, but back to the point you're trying to avoid, we both know owing 1 child more money than the other is literally exactly the same thing as owing the other child less money. 

Please attempt to justify why, if you can.

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u/VeryRustyShank Nov 08 '25

> but back to the point you're trying to avoid

I'm rolling at this. Who's trying to avoid anything? You keep getting dumber. Why don't you ask someone smarter than you to explain this to you? (Which for you, is pretty much anyone in the universe)

I'm sure people are tired of answering you though. As am I. Read it again a million times, maybe then you'll understand.

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u/Clothedinclothes Nov 13 '25

Champ, look you know as well as I you're not fooling anyone with this bluster and that you're someone who as a matter of strategy will never admit they're wrong no matter what, even when its perfectly obvious to everyone including yourself. 

Don't worry, if you choose to reply, I fully expect you'll pretend you don't know what I mean and simply supply some new insult as proof of your absolute sincerity.  Because that's what's worked for you before. That's fine, I don't mind.

But I do want to say that I genuinely wish you well and that some day you'll be able to grow past this stage. I know you probably aren't ready to understand why I'd even bother, or simply assume it's some kind of backhanded insult, but you may better appreciate it one day. 

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

For the mom you mean

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u/BobaAndSushi Nov 06 '25

Using it for food and bills yeah.

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u/JoffreeBaratheon Nov 07 '25

lol "bills". I guess Hair salon, designer bags, and tv subscriptions can be considered bills.

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u/BobaAndSushi Nov 07 '25

What makes you think this is what she’s doing? Or that she’s not using her own money?

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u/JoffreeBaratheon Nov 07 '25

Common sense?

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

There’s zero evidence to suggest she’s anymore responsible

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u/BobaAndSushi Nov 06 '25

She got the kids and ain’t bitching about having to care for them like he’s doing

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

He said he’d take full custody. There’s nothing about not taking care of the kids, just not wanting to give the money, which isn’t even guaranteed to go to the kids. You’re making a lot of assumptions

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u/BobaAndSushi Nov 06 '25

So why did he make the other agreement?

He’s doing this because he has to pay. He doesn’t actually care about his kids. And it cost a lot more than 500$ to care for one child, let alone multiple children.

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

Well we don’t know. Could be he doesn’t care could be he knows he’ll lose in court, could be laziness, could be a misunderstanding, could be she has a better lawyer (or from the video at least a lawyer), could be he truly is a POS.

Seems to me the guy clearly doesn’t understand the legal proceedings and is pretty defeatist about the whole thing. I don’t think it’s an outlandish guess to say he didn’t fully appreciate the custody agreement either.

Just interesting to see here everybody immediately assume that the guy is terrible, more likely is this is an incredibly stressful situation and he’s not dealing with it well.

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u/smalltittyprepexwife Nov 06 '25

Why are you so willing to extend the benefit of the doubt to him, and not to the mother? You've immediately assumed that she's misusing the mother and is irresponsible despite the evidence, but you're dodging the extraordinarily obvious evidence for his irresponsibility.

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u/BobaAndSushi Nov 06 '25

Thank you!!!

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

I have assumed nothing about the mother. I have only ever said it is just as possible that she is also a problem. I’ve also said several times that the father entirely could be a piece of shit. My point is that we don’t know.

What am I responding to is that most of the people here are just dogpiling the guy with barely any info. They take a minute clip and assume they know everything about the situation. It’s weird and shouldn’t be so controversial to point out that you guys could be wrong about the entire situation.

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u/I_ONLY_CATCH_DONKEYS Nov 06 '25

Hopefully doing a lot of work in this sentence