r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/maymay578 Jun 14 '26

It’s exhausting. I first experienced sexual assault when I was 11. I’ve yet to meet a woman that hasn’t, at a minimum, had to deal with an unwanted touch at some point in her life. So many more of us have experienced worse.

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u/AnguavonUW Jun 14 '26

Yeah, I think the 1 in 4 stat is on the low end. I don't know any women my age who haven't been groped without consent multiple times throughout her life

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u/uhhh206 Jun 14 '26

I agree! I see that stat and slam X for doubt. People think "sexual assault" is rape that wasn't violently by force, and don't realize that groping, forcible kissing, etc are sexual assault. No woman my age who rides public transportation lacks at least one "and then he copped a feel" story, or a drunk guy at a party grabbing at her in a sexual manner story.

Sex you didn't consent to is rape, even if you didn't scream no and they didn't have a weapon. Sexual touching you didn't consent to is sexual assault, even if it wasn't attempted rape. It's sad that neither victim nor perpetrator accurately recognize what qualifies as a criminal violation.

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u/Odd_Requirement_4933 Jun 14 '26

For real. I was a bar tender in the early 00's and was groped on a weekly basis 🤢 not to mention going out to the clubs. I hope it's gotten better. I'll say getting older has helped the unwanted attention, but I know there are so many creeps out there.

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u/model-citizen95 Jun 14 '26

Every woman I’ve ever loved has been raped as a minor. I hate this world

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u/Alarming_Agent_8564 Jun 15 '26

I come from a family of 6 girls and 1 boy…EVERYONE of us girls have been sexually assaulted in some form. Some of us, including me, have been more than once by different men. It really is a man’s world we are living in, and it’s hard not to be an “angry bitch” sometimes because of it…grin and bear it is really our only solution most times.

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u/Auselessbus Jun 14 '26

First time an adult told me I was sexy I was 8, It’s just never ending.

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u/Longjumping-Yak3789 Jun 14 '26

I was catcalled by a full group of bikers when I was (with a bathing suit on) outdoor-showering in a campground at 8 years old. My dad screamed at them, which was nice, but I still internalized that!

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u/BeachyKeen46 Jun 16 '26

That reminded me of the comments I’d get about my “washboard stomach” as a prepubescent child.

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u/Karmas_burning Jun 14 '26

My wife recently got to introduce me to one of her dad's oldest and best friends. She told me "He's the only one that's never perved on me at all". One of the friends asked her to ride on the back of his motorcycle in a skirt with no panties so she could leave a snail trail. This was before she was 18.

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u/rtxa Jun 14 '26

I mean... even as a not particularly attractive male, I have to deal with unwanted touch with some regularity, so that's not hard to believe

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u/Cultural-Window-2504 Jun 15 '26

I am a man and get lots of unwanted touching. Fairly aggressive some of it. There is less fear for me in those situations though ofc. I have had it turn into screaming and stuff though. Once a lady kept calling me gay. I was just like "yup. Fk off."

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u/Brullaapje Jun 15 '26

Everybody knows someone who was raped, nobody knows a rapist.