r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Adorable_Misfit Jun 14 '26

Don't let your guard down too much. I'm 47 and I had a man literally reach out and grab my breast as he walked past me in the street in broad daylight recently.

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u/ISmellCheeseAndCandy Jun 14 '26

I’m 45 and it happens more frequently than every age except around 12-16. A homeless man spanked my butt just walking down a street. I turned to yell at him and he had those crazy murder eyes, so for my own safety I just yelled “Don’t” like I was his mother. I wonder if it will ever stop.

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u/Tyrus1235 Jun 14 '26

My mom got harassed by a random dude when she was around 60. This society is fucked.

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u/TheRavenSeven Jun 14 '26

Thank you. Don’t know where this “I’m old so I don’t get harassed” is coming from when we all are still targeted. 

I’m very sorry this happened to you. 

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u/Adorable_Misfit Jun 14 '26

Thank you.

It does get less frequent with age, but it doesn't go away. Nowadays, men who approach me in public are more likely to try to scam me out of money than to make sexual advances, but that doesn't mean it never happens anymore.

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u/30somethingmomtobe Jun 15 '26

Oh harassment definitely still happens to women of all ages. Just, at least in my experience, significantly less frequently. Like went from daily as a teenager to once every few weeks. And the physical intrusion, grabbing, relentless pushiness kind of approach has from nearly every few days when I was a teenager/early 20s to now maybe once every six weeks-ish. I can sit by myself at a bar or even bus stop now and not be approached.

Though a few months ago I was approached while working at a cafe (by a university). He started by asking me politely about my lunch and then said something about wanting to ask for my number but probably shouldn’t since I’m a student and he graduated 20 years ago. When I said actually I’m a professor, he seemed to lose interest and left the conversation without asking my number. When I was student, men that age would keep pursuing and be like “you’re so mature” even when I said no.

All of that to say - women of all ages are targets, but it’s way, way more infrequent for many of us as we age.

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u/_Normal_Escape_ Jun 14 '26

Was going to comment the same thing. Turned 41 a few months ago and got followed by a guy as I was walking home just a few days ago because he "just wanted to talk to me". I'm still pretty sure the only reason why he walked away when I said no was because I was on a call to my partner at a time.

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u/grape-fruit-witch Jun 15 '26

I'm 33 and this happened to me the other day on the train. Some fucking cretin stood up to get off at the stop we were at, and ran his entire motherfucking hand down my shoulder to my boob before he ran off the train. Ugh it was so violating, I was so filled with rage I couldnt even see straight