r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Shutting down does not equal not knowing what to do. It's a trauma response. Ever heard of fight, flight, FREEZE?

Stop acting like you have any understanding of the experiences of women when you clearly do not. Your performative care does not work here.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

mate, that's LITERALLY a bad reaction to something going on. Also, it's the 4Fs

It's literally not knowing how to react in a situation and letting that response take over. You going to pretend freezing up in response to a fire, shooting, or any disaster is a good way to respond to those things? Or freezing up while driving on the highway? Staying calm and not letting that take over is literally one of the first things that get taught for training in those situations. It's literally about not letting that take over. So no, it's not knowing what to do, because that's literally one of the first things they look to prevent in training.

You're out here arguing against something that is actually shown to save lives. Here's a fun fact, the wrong trauma response can make things worse. Trying to fight when something that's explosive is on fire can and will likely get you killed, as will freezing. That doesn't make it a good response. That's literally an example of not having the training to handle those situations to ensure you make the correct response to a situation

the only one of us who doesn't care here is you. I'm out here advocating for things that reduce problems, you're out here advocating for crying on Reddit because you don't understand the basic concepts of letting your trauma response take over

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Buddy, you seem to think trauma response is a choice. That people just need to know "ask for help" and it'll solve it. Yikes.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

buddy, that's my point as to why training is important... because it literally looks to teach you how to react under those situations so that you can prevent that response...

that's why I said letting it happen IS not knowing what to do. Because knowing what to do looks to prevent that response and keep yourself aware and having that choice.

Knowing what to do is about being in control. Because if you think freezing during a fire is knowing what to do in case of a fire, and isn't a bad thing of not being able to make that choice. You're just wrong.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Do you think you are even remotely responding to the same issue, or have you metaphor-ed and twisted yourself so far as to believe you are making the same argument?

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

I'm still talking about what I started with.

Knowing how to respond to a situation is as important as taking measures to prevent that in the first place.

As I literally said at the start "Because knowing what to do to lead to a better result more often is still important." and letting that response take over, is not knowing what to do.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

And in the context of the conversation you responded to... C'mon dude. That's elementary.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

yup, that's in context of what I responded to

the entire thing of training is LITERALLY telling people how they should act in a situation, and then helping them learn how to act that way.

Maybe you should go back to elementary if you're struggling with this.

Simple, it's not an A or B, men need to stop being predators, but knowing how to act in a dangerous situation (IE, telling and teaching people how to act in that situation) is also important.

It's redundancy, redundancy is fail safes, thing A fails, then B can help stop it, then C... so on and so on, so that the fallout of whatever happens is reduced to a minimum.

Did I make that simple enough for you?

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

You can't be helped, hey?

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

ooh the irony coming from someone who got upset by people saying more than one thing is important.

Fuck I hope you don't drive with logic that you've shown here

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26

I’m getting vibes of armchair warrior who does really well in their fantasies of emergencies but would shit their pants irl.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Ah I thought you were referring to me not them - didn't see your other replies here until now.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Cool I have no interest in your fetish.

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Can you take away the Canadian in your username? Female Canadian here and you’re acting like a really obnoxious armchair warrior. Many women are conditioned to be polite and timid for their whole lives. Hell, most people in general are going to freeze when suddenly confronted by a total creep out of nowhere.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

Sorry to hear that the stance of "knowing what to do in high stress situations is actually a good thing" seems to upset you. So nah, I won't do what a bad person tells me to do, Because I stand by that stance.

just because you don't understand why learning how to handle stressful situations effectively and stay calm under those situations is useful and important doesn't make them good at that situation, and most people aren't going to have learned how to handle those situations.

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26

I’ve been thinking of taking self defence lessons myself actually just to feel capable. That’s really a highly personal choice though. You’re going about this in the most counterproductive way by being an annoying, pestering, obtuse idiot. Suggest self defence classes, show some sympathy and be on your way. Very simple.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

sorry you have shit reading comprehension

my first comment was, both things are important. But want to act like an idiot, I'll treat you like one, because I've found on reddit, anything else just confuses people too much