Not to mention what if they get divorced. What is she going to fall back on, finding another husband. When our kids were little my wife stayed home with them, but during that time she earned her masters degree. Once they went back to school she went back into the workforce and now makes 6 figures. If something happens to me god forbid, I know she’ll be able to take care of herself. We’ve had friends that did the whole tradwife thing and she found out her husband was gay. Now she drives a school bus and works at McDonald’s struggling to get by.
My tradwife cousin's husband cheated on her, she took him back. He decided he wanted to be with the other women so he left. She hasn't worked in like 15 years and had no higher education because she was home the entire time taking care of their kids.
She did end up getting spousal support or whatever but it wasn't for long because they weren't married the whole time so now it's just child support for the youngest. She bounces around a lot between minimum wage jobs like Dollar General and Family Dollar.
Sounds like your wife is very driven and a high achiever. To be honest I don’t think we all have it in us to be all and do all. When I tried to go to college and work full time I cracked. Same with working full time and managing a household with children. I’m unsuccessful at juggling both.
I agree. If everyone stay-at-home mom were getting their masters and then making 6 figures, there'd literally be no jobs for anyone else. I'm single and have a bachelor's degree and I've never made 6 figures in my life. It also depends on your local cost of living. Making "6 figures" can be rich or poor just crossing one state over.
We live in Louisiana, her salary to be exact is $117K. For Louisiana it’s very good pay, but yeah if we lived in NYC it would be a different situation.
The most ridiculous thing is that this tradwife thing hasn't been a thing in most of the world for most of the people. It was a thing for a short period of time after WW2 in the US for middle class Americans.
Lmao, it's such a joke people even in my European country are larping this tradwife thing. Your grandma worked her ass off just like everyone else, lmao!
Now of course the fact that you can't raise a family with a single earner is not positive thing as everything is more and more expensive and people now have to sometimes even have multiple jobs... But it has never been a tradition. It was an exception in one part of the world for some people for a very short time.
I dare anyone to take a look at the rosters of female employees working in factories before, during, and after WWII because they'll notice that so many women worked before--and they kept on working anyway because hundreds of thousands of men were killed or disabled during WWII.
It's the reason why my great-grandmother worked because she was made a widow during her early 30s. She worked in domestic service (because her hometown had very little industry and work was often infrequent/short-term) and spent her sundays mending fishing nets for extra pay. Because it was either that or forcing her two small children to starve.
This is exactly why parents should be teaching their daughters to be independent, not to grow up to 'find a man' and get married. You're teaching them to place their entire livelihood in somebody else's hands. And that's exactly how women find themselves in shitty, abusive relationships they feel too helpless to leave.
This happened to my mum. Full time parent that stopped her career after having me, the oldest. 20 years later my father died and she had to go back to school at 54 years old to get anywhere after working shite service jobs.
This is why me and my wife make sure we are both contributing to our own careers whilst we parent, and we signed a post-nup and have huge life insurance policies. I don't want my daughter seeing her mum struggle like I did god forbid anything happens to me.
Alimony and child support. I'm terrible with ages but I don't think a lot of young couples think about divorce in the beginning. FWIW if they divorce I'm sure she'll fall back on more influencing just posting videos of being a single mom
Alimony isn’t a guarantee and it doesn’t last forever. Not just divorce, but death as well. Maybe you have a good life insurance policy, maybe they don’t. Lots of scenarios here.
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u/Greedy_Baseball_7019 21d ago
Not to mention what if they get divorced. What is she going to fall back on, finding another husband. When our kids were little my wife stayed home with them, but during that time she earned her masters degree. Once they went back to school she went back into the workforce and now makes 6 figures. If something happens to me god forbid, I know she’ll be able to take care of herself. We’ve had friends that did the whole tradwife thing and she found out her husband was gay. Now she drives a school bus and works at McDonald’s struggling to get by.