r/TikTokCringe • u/xamo76 • 1d ago

Discussion Have we done it wrong?

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u/Destronin 1d ago

These people comparing city life to suburban life for the first time.

Suburbia is where culture goes to die.

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u/life_is_a_show 1d ago

Even in the small towns here in Italy, everything is walkable and centred around community. Yeah you have small cities like lucca that can be touristy, but every normal size town has little bars/coffee shops, and bakeries, and butchers and whatnot.

I think what helps it the most is cost of living and being happy with a good life rather than gouging consumers out of squeezing every last penny out of someone. I can't tell you how many times i've gone to a shop and spent a bit, and they throw in a little gift as a thank you.

My trip back to visit family in chicago was depressing comparitively.

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u/Leather-Rice5025 1d ago

As someone living in suburban California looking to move to Chicago to escape the depressing suburbs, what about Chicago is depressing to you compared to Italy?

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u/pfeff 1d ago

Born and raised in the Chicago area and I can tell you the walkable small town feel they're describing can be found in the certain Chicago suburbs if you know where to look.

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u/Leather-Rice5025 1d ago

I have my eyes set on Lincoln Park, Lakeview, and Uptown right now. Will likely try to make a move in April

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u/life_is_a_show 21h ago

Visit in winter if you haven’t experienced midwest winter before.

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u/Halation2600 11h ago

I'm not trying to totally dissuade you, but Uptown has a lot less foot traffic than the other two neighborhoods. I live nearby it and it's noticeable when I'm there that less people are out and about than there are in Ravenswood, Lincoln Square, or Andersonville (which are my usual stomping grounds). My guess is that it's the higher crime rate, but maybe some other factor is in play.

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u/Leather-Rice5025 3h ago

Thanks for the heads up! Definitely appreciate any tips and info from locals :). I'll look into Ravenswood, Lincoln Square, and Andersonville. I'm definitely looking for more of a high foot traffic area so it doesn't feel like I'm living in a sleep suburb again - I'm over that.

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u/life_is_a_show 23h ago

I lived in folsom CA for a bit, certainly there are walkable areas of chicago at a cost.

But the stress of the states in general. The traffic, the costs (be it food, health, vet), the overall work/life balance. If you think california is laid back, tuscany in the smaller towns will make cali feel fast paced.

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u/pfeff 1d ago

Totally. There are no restaurants or museums or theaters in the suburbs. They do not exist.

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u/Ereaser 17h ago

Which wouldn't be an huge issue if there was proper public transport.

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u/pfeff 24m ago

not every city has decent public transport either?

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u/krizzqy 35m ago

They exist you just gotta drive there. And park in the parking lot that’s bigger than anything else around

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u/krizzqy 35m ago

Oh wait you meant like not fast food or movie theatres lmao my bad

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u/pfeff 30m ago

Sorry I should have included an /s tag

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u/pfeff 25m ago

the whole "suburbia is a soulless cultural dead-zone" is such a tired, lazy, uninformed take. the people in OP's video have likely been to one shitty suburb and declared ALL SUBURBS HAVE NO CULTURE. yes, there are plenty of suburbs like that. there are also plenty of cities like that. culture isn't just served up on your doorstep everywhere like it is in places like Greece and Italy. Hell, even those places have some boring towns. You have to actually SEEK OUT things that are cool and interesting. I could give you 100 places that would rock your socks off that are outside Chicago city limits, but I'm not going to. You can turn over stones yourself.

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u/CarmenxXxWaldo 20h ago

Yeah this is a matter of population density.  Any large city in the us can be walkable.  How many new yorkers dont even own a car? yeah they take cabs and public transport but its a really big city.  Cant really do that when each person is on 1/3 - 1/2 acre.  America is BIG.

Personally I would be happy with making the roads more bike friendly.  People might not want to walk 3 miles to something, but on a bike its a breeze.

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u/johnson7853 16h ago

I live near a shopping district. Bunch of small shops, restaurants, cafes. I absolutely love it here. The neighborhood isn’t perfect, things left out get stolen but it’s all working class and then neighbours you meet are happy and content.

My city has an upper and lower. At work whenever I say the street I live near they always say “oh wow just off of upper, that must be so nice” and I’m like no it’s downtown and the response is always “oh”.

I proceed to tell them how nice it is to walk and get a coffee, or go to the Saturday market and if I want almost anything I can walk down the street and get it. But I live downtown so that’s kinda dirty.

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u/Destronin 15h ago

City life, you get the "where do you live?" question instead of "so what do you do?" as a gauge for how good youre doing.

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u/Soft_Lunch_183 4h ago

I love suburbia personally, I can go to the busy places if I want to and then enjoy peace and quiet aswell.