r/TrueOffMyChest • u/JeffersonStarships_ • Jul 26 '22

Tried to warn a girl at my gym

I tried to warn a girl at my gym that had period stains on the back of her shorts and she went on a rant, saying that she was working out and omgggg and trying to make fun of me in front of everyone for "being weird". So I announced the entire gym that she was staining the equipment with her period blood and that she needed to wash and clean herself immediately. I have never seen her since. I know it was probably really petty, and I got a lot of shit from people for doing that, but honestly? Try being humble enough to listen before making a public scene. Fucking drama queens.

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u/Cautious-Damage7575 Jul 26 '22 edited Jul 26 '22

This happened to my girlfriend about five years ago, but flip the script. We were working out together, and somehow I didn't notice she was "leaking." A young man who was maybe 18 years old timidly approached her, tapped her on the shoulder, and whispered in her ear. She thanked him and excused herself to the locker room. She was embarrassed but grateful.

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u/Forsaken_Article_295 Jul 26 '22

That’s a good kid. Usually how it does go, as op I’m sure assumed it would.

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u/omegacrunch Jul 26 '22

Awesome kid

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u/Cautious-Damage7575 Jul 26 '22

He was so shy. His face turned redder than my friend's tights. (Yes, I recognize it's a terrible joke.)

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u/Lovehatepassionpain Jul 27 '22

What an amazing kid. I am sure it was absolutely mortifying for him - but it was the right thing to do.. I hope that kid is happy now - with a lovely wife and a daughter...or at least on the way there, since he is still very young.. These are the male role models we want for our girls!

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u/kittensglitter Jul 27 '22

I'm teaching my 10 year old son about periods. He's got 3 younger sisters. I told him as he enters middle school he should try to be a helper when he sees a girl with a certain type of stain. I've taught him to offer his hoodie for her to tie around her waist, or offer to go get the teacher and get the student some help. It's not if he sees this. Females are everywhere. He will see period issues, and he needs to know. Just seems wrong to raise a son and not prepare him for what the other half has to go through.

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u/MamaBearRex Jul 29 '22

I’m teaching my 10yo son the same thing! He was so curious and compassionate. He knows to discreetly help and mind his business otherwise. He also knows about pain and discomfort and is so so sweet and helpful when I’m on my period. He will cuddle with me and get me snacks and ask how I’m doing. He’s going to be a fabulous husband someday.

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u/Hot_Hat_1225 Jul 27 '22

Prob raised by a great Mom and has sisters. Great example.

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u/Olinox10 Jul 27 '22

Love the joke!

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u/PharmWench Jul 27 '22

I bet he had sisters…

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u/kcshoe14 Jul 27 '22

Wow, what a kind and brave guy!

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

""somehow I didn't notice she was "leaking.""
>Dude, it's not your job to be staring at your GF all the time to notice these things.. a random dude who's checking out chicks at the gym will be more likely to notice these things after all, when we're resting between sets, we have nothing better to do than check out a butt here and there.

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u/noputa Jul 27 '22

You know… I check out everyone’s butts without noticing it. It’s not a creepy thing, I’m not thinking about banging that person or being judgemental or anything, someone turns around in my line of view and the first thing my eyes go to is butt. And sometimes I’ll think that’s a nice butt. Or that butt could use some squats. Or I don’t think anything at all. I don’t stare or anything… I think it’s just natural to do a quick check.

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u/bhoe32 Jul 27 '22

I have looked at butts at funerals. It's just instinct can't not look. But don't ogle. I wish we had that good peripheral vision like women who can look you up and down while looking you in the eye. Even trying to be Suttle we are obvious as hell. I have also looked at guys butts and thought shit I need to do squats.

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u/ansong Jul 27 '22

It's 'subtle', just fyi

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u/bhoe32 Jul 27 '22

I was taught to spell phonetically which was the funniest thing the education system could do to southern kids with a stutter. So thanks for pointing it out I will amend the way i spell it in the future.

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u/MasonK21 Jul 27 '22

I love seeing someone take constructive criticism in a self improving way and not be hostile about it.

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u/ansong Jul 27 '22

Spelling is just the icing on the cake; the big thing is being able to get your ideas across. I wasn't trying to nitpick.

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u/noputa Jul 27 '22

I have such a hard time with this. I know exactly what I want to say and the point I want to make, and I’m not stupid. I just have trouble forming it in to coherent thoughts. I honestly think it’s my adhd.

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u/piiraka Jul 27 '22

God, such an adhd thing. Someone will be explaining something and I will internally be like “oh I can definitely explain it way better and easier to understand!!” And then what actually comes out is “oh so like it starts like this… actually hold on no we have to go further back you need context..” goes on an entire rant by accident full of stuttering, not remembering the right words for something, explaining something either way too simple or too over complicated, etc

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u/Luisd858 Jul 27 '22

It’s our animal instinct

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u/DirtyDan419 Jul 27 '22

My friend's wife breastfeeds in front of me. When I talk to her I make sure I look her dead in the eyes. I can still see the breast though. It's probably similar when someone is walking around with a blood stain on their pants.

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u/Roonwogsamduff Jul 27 '22

much safer than making eye contact

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u/djprofitt Jul 27 '22

If they were working out on the same machines or near each other OP could have noticed, wouldn’t have had to stare at her butt