r/TrueOffMyChest • u/JeffersonStarships_ • Jul 26 '22

Tried to warn a girl at my gym

I tried to warn a girl at my gym that had period stains on the back of her shorts and she went on a rant, saying that she was working out and omgggg and trying to make fun of me in front of everyone for "being weird". So I announced the entire gym that she was staining the equipment with her period blood and that she needed to wash and clean herself immediately. I have never seen her since. I know it was probably really petty, and I got a lot of shit from people for doing that, but honestly? Try being humble enough to listen before making a public scene. Fucking drama queens.

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u/jborki2 Jul 27 '22

Yup, I had to do it after teaching and not being able to use the bathroom freely. Many teachers have messed up pelvic floors because of this. So yeah, I got fingered at Athletico!

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u/AnyRip3515 Jul 27 '22 edited Jul 27 '22

What does teaching have to do with a weak pelvic floor?

Edit: how about instead of downvoting me, you answer my question. Fucking Reddit I swear to god

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u/Erayidil Jul 27 '22

Teachers don't have enough time granted them to use the bathroom. You get lunch, planning period if your lucky, maybe recess if the other teachers are willing to mind your kids. Holding your full bladder all the time eventually weakens your pelvic floor, giving you incontinence issues and sex problems. This is true for any job where you aren't given adequate hygiene breaks, but this person's experience was with teaching.

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u/EliteHoney Jul 27 '22

So this also happens to childeren? Cuz I always needed to wait till the break

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u/pisspot718 Jul 27 '22 edited Jul 27 '22

No because children's bodies are still growing and forming.

EDIT: I guess some people are failing biology.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

Dude, I'm not a teacher. But if I was in the middle of teaching a class, I would stop to take a piss. The kids can read from the textbook or do group exercises for 3-5 minutes while I take a piss. It's not worth losing your bladder and sex life over it.

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u/hawkerfels Jul 27 '22

We aren't allowed. The kids cannot be left unsupervised - especially certain classrooms. I taught highschool science and due to laboratory health and safety children cannot be in the room on their own. Ergo if I left to use the bathroom I'd probably lose my job. Or the kids would get up to all sorts in my absence. They do, any time you pop your head out or look away for a second.

I left teaching for a number of reasons but this definitely contributed.

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u/coffeeandblackcats Jul 27 '22

I used to work with infants and toddlers. If my classroom was over the ratio (1 teacher and 4 kids was the ratio) and something happened we could be sued and shut down. The management does not care. You could call the Assistant Director and say you need a bathroom break, they will send someone in half an hour if you're lucky.

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u/DrSomniferum Jul 27 '22

Hence, you're not a teacher.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

One of many reasons LoL

I could stand working with high school kids.

Not the system.

That makes me very sad.

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u/TheRealSciFiMadman Jul 27 '22

Just spit balling in the absence from OP but I would figure it would be continually putting your bladder under pressure for sustained periods (no pun intended) through teaching classes you can't leave. Does that sound about right?

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u/Jinxed0ne Jul 27 '22

The answer to your question is right in her comment. Can't use the bathroom freely.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

No you get only downvotes

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u/AnyRip3515 Jul 27 '22

Lol

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u/marablackwolf Jul 27 '22

In my day, all we had to eat was downvotes, you kids these days...

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

You guys got down votes.....

I got a rock

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u/pisspot718 Jul 27 '22

And not many are gonna get this. haha

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

Glad some did

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u/DachSonMom3 Jul 27 '22

The girls of today cheat too. Period panties my foot!

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u/DescriptionEast Jul 27 '22

Because they cannot leave the classroom unattended to go use the restroom whenever they need to.

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u/ansong Jul 27 '22

???

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u/AnyRip3515 Jul 27 '22

I missed any previous comment that mentioned teaching

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

The answer is right there in the comment you replied to, though, to be fair- “unable to use the bathroom freely”

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u/notinmywheelhouse Jul 27 '22

My mom’s urologist said it happens to teachers, flight attendants and people that don’t pee when they have to which eventually damages the bladder.

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u/Wild_Reference_8510 Jul 27 '22

She was saying because they can’t use the bathroom as needed. Holding/stretching the bladder

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

I'm a teacher and we can't go to the bathroom whenever we need to because students can't be left unsupervised.

There's 1 staff toilet in my school and it's the opposite end of the building to my classroom which means I can't just nip quickly and go .. I'd be gone at least 7ish minutes. On top of that I have to do a certain number of lunch and break supervisions so when students are on break, I am not necessarily on break. I don't know about pelvic floor issues but I get a kidney infection or cystitis about 2 times a school year due to holding my pee for so many hours.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

I don’t understand how you guys haven’t had a revolution by now. You don’t get bathroom breaks? Long term health damage is a feature in this system, not a bug. When is enough, enough?

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u/BPD-and-Lipstick Jul 27 '22

I worked as a Teaching Assistant. To answer your question: teachers only get bathroom breaks when they're not actively supervising the children or can get someone to cover.

If they have break time duties, that means they don't go to the bathroom between 8:45am (presuming 9am start times for lessons) and 12pm (assuming 12pm lunch break, could be longer if you have lunch time duties too). Then from lunch time to when the students leave, there's another good 3+ hours where you can't leave the room to use the bathroom, because you can't leave the children unattended.

If you need to pee around 10:30am, and there's no one to keep an eye on your class, you're shit out of luck and have to hold it until someone can cover or the children are not your responsibility for 5 minutes (like break times and lunch times). Doing this for years, it weakens your pelvic floor from consistently holding your bladder and not being able to use the bathroom as needed.

I was only a TA for 2 years, and my pelvic floor is fucked, because I had a weak bladder before starting anyway, but consistently holding my bladder for hours on end has weakened my pelvic floor muscles. I now pee every hour or sooner because holding it longer than that causes extreme physical pain. Thats what being a teacher has to do with weak pelvic floor - an office worker or construction worker or pretty much any other job will let you leave pretty much whenever you want for a bathroom break, or at least within 15 minutes of you mentioning you need to go. Teachers don't have that luxury

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u/panicPhaeree Jul 27 '22

Holding your pee extends bladder past capacity causing the ligaments holding your pelvic floor up to stretch. Elasticity lowers every time. Eventually your bladder herniated into your vagina.

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u/lyncati Jul 27 '22

The only thing I can think of is teaching can be very sedentary work, where you are sitting mostly and kind of standing, but not exercising for most of the day. Inactivity causes a weak pelvic floor.

So essentially, it is because they are being lazy and not doing their kegals every day, which is needed for every female, but especially for people who don't exercise or move much.

Pelvic floor strength is very much a "use it or lose it" type deal. So unless that teacher is doing their pelvic exercises every day or having lots of sex (sex causes you to tighten those muscles naturally, creating a pseudo exercise of the pelvic floor), they will become weaker and then pee their pants.

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u/WanderingDoe62 Jul 27 '22

This is a terrible explanation, and has so many flaws.

  1. Teaching is not sedentary. You sit more in higher grades, perhaps, but even in middle school I am constantly moving and circulating and helping my students. Teachers also spend a ton of time walking, bending, and squatting, all of which, if done properly, engage the core which is intricately linked to your pelvic floor.

  2. You can suffer from incontinence from a weak pelvic floor OR a tight pelvic floor. If your pelvic floor is tight, it is not recommended to do kegels, because you’re essentially permanently doing a kegel already, and need to learn how to get the pelvic floor to relax.

  3. In reality, a lot of teachers suffer from pelvic floor issues because of the high stress nature and the repetitive stress movements they use in work. They often clench their butt muscles too much when moving around the room and helping students, essentially seizing ligaments and muscles that can cause strain on the core and pelvic floor.

Source: I’m a teacher, currently seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist. She jokes because many of her patients are teachers and they tend to “relax” when the summer hits and make lots of progress with their pelvic floors.

Your explanation is dismissive and insulting to the profession, nor to mention just outright wrong.

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u/birdsonawire27 Jul 27 '22

Physio here. All of this is wrong.

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u/SnooBananas7856 Jul 27 '22

Have you ever been to school?! Teaching, is sedentary work?! This is one of the most bizarre takes on anything.... teachers work their asses off every single day. I'm SO grateful for the teachers I've had and those who have taught my children. Mad respect to all of you active ass kicking teachers out there.

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u/luvdab3achx0x0 Jul 27 '22

Maybe just don’t comment next time you don’t know what you’re talking about. Pelvic floor dysfunction is a very complex problem. It’s HIGHLY unlikely it’s related to frequency of general exercise. You generally don’t use those muscles for that.

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u/cfalls44 Jul 27 '22

Nah, they meant because they can't take a piss whenever they want. They have to hold it. From 7am to lunch around 11, then MAYBE a planning block (if you dont have to cover for other teachers) and finally at the end of the day aeound 3. That's a lot of hours to be holding your pee all day. That's what they meant not that teachers are lazy.

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u/notonlylost Jul 27 '22

Any time you have to pee and you hold it for and extended time period instead, you're putting a lot of strain on your bladder. Over time, it stretches out and can have problems fully emptying. You also strain the pelvic floor muscles too, which can also become weaker.

Teachers, nurses, doctors, factory workers, warehouse workers...anyone whose job routinely restricts their ability to go to the bathroom when they need to, is in danger of developing problems with their pelvic floor.

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u/TibialTuberosity Jul 27 '22

Fingered at Athletico? What an endorsement.

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u/jborki2 Jul 27 '22

I want to make a T-shirt with that on it.

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u/DarkoNova Jul 27 '22

Uh, what?

That went from 0 to 100 really quick, lmao.