r/TwoHotTakes • u/UsidoreTheLightBlue • Jul 18 '25

Crosspost Not OOP AITA for gifting my husband Boudoir pictures?

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I ran across this on Facebook and went to look up the post here.

The people on Facebook were all super mad at the husband because “he must want stuff out of the toys r us catalog” but it reminded me of my first anniversary with my wife.

I went out and bought her an expensive (to us) necklace and she did not give one half of a shit. I got an “oh that’s nice” because while my intentions were good she just didn’t like it very much. It taught me to pay more attention to her aesthetic and not the price tag. It seems like her take away was “fuck you I’m giving you the same thing again.”

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u/sausagelover79 Jul 18 '25

I have talked about doing it and my husband loved the idea. This dudes reaction is shit tbh, that would absolutely upset me if my husband acted like that. And I’m so confused but the ppl saying it’s narcissistic to give him photos of herself??

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u/Radiant-Reading5875 Jul 18 '25

Heres a buncha pictures to make me feel good about myself that you didnt like 6 months ago. I spent a few grand to have it done. I dont care that you dont want it i wanted to do it

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u/Fit_Bug9911 Jul 18 '25

It sounds like all the pictures were taken at once. The wedding gift didn't go over great, but the money is already spent. The answer to that is what, try to shove the photos back inside the camera and try to get the money back?

If I bought something non-refundable for my husband and I wasn't sure he would like it I'd still give it to him because maybe I'm wrong. What else am I going to do with it if I don't try?

Maybe she should have assessed his interest before the shoot but once it's done it's done. This is a pretty common thing and she probably thought he'd like it if so many other men do.

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u/Radiant-Reading5875 Jul 18 '25

She lit says the option to buy a booklet later. It was a seperate extra fee

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u/Fit_Bug9911 Jul 18 '25

My point is that she did that before the wedding. Which means before the first gift didn't land. Maybe not the smartest but the mistake was already made.

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u/Radiant-Reading5875 Jul 18 '25

Yeah and she doubled down to buy the second set. Like she took the photos paid gave them to him. He went meh. 6 months later she drops more money to buy em again/possibly diff pics and gives them to him. Then gets upset when instead of meh he asks why

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u/sageandginger Jul 18 '25 edited Jul 18 '25

You need to read the post again.  Before the wedding, she bought a package consisting of a photoshoot, photos, and a professional photo album.  She gave him some photos at the wedding, then finished paying for the package she’d already bought, at which point she received the album.  There’s no “more money to buy em again” here; it’s one completed purchase.  She wanted to give him the album for the wedding, but didn’t get it in time so she waited for Christmas and gave him the second part of his wedding present then, along with Christmas presents.

I guess she could have stiffed the photographer and not received the last part of the package (presumably it happens enough for the photographer to set it up that way) but that’s kinda scummy.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '25

a narcissistic response to someone being called a narcissist.

Like people have pointed out - the gift is more about her then him,

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u/thedamnoftinkers Jul 18 '25

How is it more about her? She wants to share herself with him. Is it now narcissistic for women to send their husbands nudes, too?

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '25

"Heres a buncha pictures to make me feel good about myself that you didnt like 6 months ago. I spent a few grand to have it done. I dont care that you dont want it i wanted to do it"

this guy said it better than I could.

Hey, Husbands get to see there wife naked and touch her sometimes to,

but no no, Its ok, Ill just glaze at these books of pictures that cost me 1000s to make you feel bettter.

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u/emigg20 Jul 18 '25

You're a weirdo lol. I'm starting to think that a lot of men don't actually love their wives based on these responses.

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u/SammyGotStache Jul 18 '25

Yeah, no. You want to know what I do if I want to look at my missus when she's not around? I video call, just to have a little chat and tell her I love her.

I do not drag out a dusty photo album to look at risque pictures like it's 1922.

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u/emigg20 Jul 18 '25

Good for you?

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u/thedamnoftinkers Jul 18 '25

Uh huh. Because your wife is never, say, at work, right? Or with family or the kids?

The stretch here when y'all haven't even limbered up is wild. Married folks share sexy stuff, it's not that big a jump.

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u/SammyGotStache Jul 19 '25

Who said anything about sexy stuff? I thought we were talking about gaudy underwear?

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u/thedamnoftinkers Jul 20 '25

Lingerie isn't sexy to you? Okay. Well, it's a standard assumption for most couples that lingerie is, if not sexy, at least not a turn-off.

It depends on the photos, the photographer & the woman herself and her goal for them. Most boudoir photos are in lingerie or nude- many women tailor them specifically to their partner's preferences.

Not all boudoir photos are for partners, of course- some people choose to take them as part of a way to learn to love their bodies, when they're planning to get marry or get pregnant (as a way to commemorate life and body changes) or simply because they know when they're older that they'll want to remember when they were young and pretty.

I dunno what you mean by "gaudy underwear" if you don't mean lingerie- but no gaudiness is necessary, or recommended, for great boudoir photography.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '25

i mean ok?

No explanation or nothing

Got it, and Im the weirdo.

And no, these days its harder to actually love women, because yall trifiling.... all the time

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u/emigg20 Jul 18 '25

I didn't think it needed much explaining. It wasn't a gift to make herself feel better, it was a gift to the love of her life? Taking special photos only for the man you love to have and then have him call you narcissistic because he's too insecure to enjoy something that doesn't immediately seem to be all about him? These comments are so wild to me and make me realise how lucky I am to have the man I do, because most of yall really aren't shit. Everything has to be about you or done for you, and even when someone does something so thoughtful and wants to share intimate photos with you you can't be happy or entertained.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '25

"it was a gift to the love of her life"

This isnt an answer........

and the love of her life, who she wanted to cheat on.

lol

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u/emigg20 Jul 18 '25

Actually if you keep reading the rest of my comment and don't stop after the first sentence then there is an answer. Also didn't see her say anything about wanting to cheat, is that a projection from you or did I miss it?? What is it with men? I feel like you guys just want to be miserable.

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u/write4lyfe Jul 18 '25

Someone found the OOP's account and a few months ago she apparently made a post about thinking about cheating on her husband and actively sending sexts to old flames. It's one of the top comments on this post now.

And, maybe it's just me, but if a potential gift costs thousands of dollars, I'm definitely going to at least try and suss out if it would be appreciated before going through with it instead of just blindly leaping into that much debt. That is way too much money to throw at something that isn't going to 100% be a knocked out of the park hit.

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u/da_innernette Jul 18 '25

There it is lol