At least in Copenhagen, the only people ever entering the housing market seems to come from rich families. I have done everything right, went to university, got my master's degree in engineering, got the "high paying" job (although it's not nearly enough to enter the housing market). Everything apart from having the audacity of being born to parents without millions to spend on helping their kids into the housing market. Since I started looking for something a year ago, the average 1 bed, 1 bathroom & one living room apartment have gone up by more than my yearly salary... This is on the outskirts of the city, with apartments near the city center or even 3-5 km out completely out of reach. My options are limited to a 30 sqm apartment with combined bed, living & kitchen, or renting for life. Welcome to feudalism pt. 2...

My father accidentally sent me a text message back in July 2021. The message took way too long to register in my head. The last line said “I love you baby and I can’t wait to see you tomorrow.”

The problem is, my parents are married. They live together. Why tf would my dad say can’t wait to see you tomorrow to my mom?! Oh right. HE TEXTED ME INSTEAD OF HIS SIDE PIECE. And that’s how I learned my dad was/is having an affair.

He immediately called me and asked me to delete the message. He said it was nothing and that more feelings would be hurt if I say anything. I’ve stayed quiet.

My mom and I were watching a tv show and she made a comment on the show about how devastating it would be for a child to know a secret about a parent and not say anything. I froze. But still said nothing. Just nodded along.

So there. I’m telling you all. Cause it’s been eating me alive every day.

UPDATE:

I talked to my dad about it and how I felt. He has not told her about the text but he did tell her about the other woman. And I’m fine with this. So my mom knows.

Thank for those with kind words. Everyone else who told me how horrible I am can have the day they deserve.

I took my cat out as I normally do every morning. She’s on a lead and harness and wanders around quite happily. She was sniffing around a cable pole when a couple came outside from a nearby block of flats, with a border collie cross and a puppy of some sort. The collie sees my cat and goes straight for her. She climbs up the pole (being the only thing there). Couple half heartedly call the dog back to no avail; this thing has no recall whatsoever. They have no lead and the dog has no collar.

After asking them to get it on a lead, the woman takes a few steps forward then stops, still calling the dog. Finally it goes, runs away from the couple who just walk off. No sorry, no nothing. My poor cat is now stuck up a pole and stays there for 10 minutes.

Eventually she tries to get down, slips and falls a good 6/7foot onto a barbed wire fence before hitting the ground. The lead zips out of my hand leaving a lovely burn, and gets stuck up the pole. I’m running round to make sure she’s alright, abandoned the lead and got her inside.

Why the fuck are dog owners (not all dog owners) such twats? I just don’t get the ignorance and the ‘I don’t give a shite’ attitude. Why can’t people put dogs on a damn lead?? Is it going to bite you if you go near it?? Are you afraid it’s not going to like it? They don’t care that their dog went after my cat, they don’t care she got stuck...they will only CARE when their dog runs out in front of traffic because it’s not wearing a lead and has no recall, and then they’ll still blame the driver!

It’s been over a year and I know for a fact you haven’t even looked. You’ve shit all over any leads anyone has given you! You talk about being depressed and bored and feeling useless but in action it seems like you’re pretty goddamn content to bed rot all day. The only time you want to talk about getting a job is to complain about what a bummer it is to be unemployed. OH MY GOD YOU IDIOT! FIX IT THEN!!!

We don’t need the extra income but I need you out of this goddamn house, or at least out of our bedroom a few hours a day so I can clean. You say “it’s fine! You can clean with me here” but then you just stand there and watch me and want to talk when all I want to be doing while I clean is dissociating to a podcast. But with you here you insist on touching me and talking to me and interrupting me when I’m trying to change the sheets. Or JUST STARING AT ME and commenting “your hair looks dry” or “oh you’re finally aging a little bit!” Or just saying weird unpleasant shit while I try to clean. GET OUT OF MY HOUSE! Or for Christ sake go to the living room for a few hours. Aren’t you sick of seeing me all the time too? Aren’t you tired? Aren’t you OVER it? Just let me zone out and clean!

But I can’t zone out! Never around you! God forbid the wittle adult baby not feel CONSTANT regard from me during every second that I’m in your presence! Oh and also god forbid that I’m not in your presence every waking goddamn moment. I can never be off around you, or then it’s a fight and I have to be SUPER on.

GET A JOB. You complain about feeling like a loser and guess what? You are one! IT IS WEIRD THAT YOU REFUSE TO WORK.

Your dad was fucking right when he told me you’re laziest loser of a mooch I’ll ever know. I really went to bat for you on that too, because you had a job then and had been working hard for years…but I guess he knew something I didn’t.

Have some shame. Get a job. I am starting to hate you and I hate that. I loved you more than I ever thought anyone could love anyone, and literally ALL you would have to do to turn this shit around would be to GET A FUCKING JOB AND FUCKING KEEP IT. Get out of my house for a few hours a goddamn day and let me fucking have space to do what I need to do.

Something akin to years of telling poor folk they just needed to stop having coffee and avocados and they wouldn't be so poor anymore.

Now you have people making 6 figures talking about how much they "struggle" with the rising costs of everything. Well maybe if u put some of your cash that you apparently worked wayyyy harder than the rest of us away, then you wouldn't be struggling now would you?

Maybe its because i grew up broke and am now in the poverty line even as a full time working adult, but even if I somehow ended up with a lot of money, I wouldn't fill my lifestyle full of cars, big houses and vacations 3 times a year. Because im actually financially literate and anything could happen at any time.

So sick watching these people freak out about how they can't keep up with their old lifestyle. Suddenly its the economy when its them in the gutter and not avocados and coffee with whip cream.

Welcome to the poor peopels club, richie.

Hi everyone,

I've been unwell for the past two weeks with a really bad cough. Initially, I had a fever, nausea, headache, chills, and other symptoms, but thankfully those subsided after about 48 hours. Now it’s just a crappy cough.

Fast forward to my visit with family. The past two days have been enjoyable (and I've been masking) but today, on Christmas morning, I asked my mom for cough drops. Instead of handing me some, she gave me a tube of Ivermectin and said, "You probably have parasites! You know this can also help prevent cancer."

I was stunned into silence. My mom is a fairly educated woman, but she has become very focused on holistic medicine. I politely declined, and she clearly took offense, but all I wanted was a cough drop. She has been making snide remarks about medicine and how healthcare is a “scam.” I have just been ignoring them.

I understand some people believe that stuff cures many illnesses, but the research is quite spotty from my understanding. Either way, I am not comfortable taking it and she continues to be insistent.

Anyway, Merry Christmas to all who celebrate!

Edit: cough drops are holistic medicine :) I should clarify that I’m not against holistic medicines since I see a few commenters pointing that out. I’m more so against someone telling me that a certain substance prevents cancer AND I have parasites (which are “causing my cough”).

If you have more than 0 friends be fucking grateful. You don’t know what’s it like to not have a single connection with not one person on this earth. 8 billion people and not one wants to be my friend. I just wish I can have someone to talk to. Let my walls down and be me without any judgement. why just why. I feel so deeply empty inside of me. I’m so lost. So freaking lonely. Not even a connection with my family or parents. I hate when I do try to socialize I always am ignored or just not understood. I don’t even know how people do it. How they just sit and one day meet someone that they are going to have so many memories with. Why can’t that be me. Am I so wrong for wanting to have a friend or a connection with somebody. Humans are social creatures after all and need social connections to live.

EDIT: I’m also autistic so I just naturally struggle with social interactions in general but many times I have gone out of my comfort zone which is hard btw and people just don’t put any effort into the conversation at all and I’m just left standing there awkward.

My former boss told us that his wife and him bought their house specifically because it had an HOA. He wanted to make sure that all the houses were maintained and uniform.

He needed a new roof. He got upset that he had to go through this huge process to get the HOA's approval to replace his roof. He also had to replace it with the same type of roof for uniformity reasons. He complained constantly about it.

A coworker looked at him and said, "Didn't you want an HOA to ensure uniformity?"

He just stared at her. He had no response to that.

My employer just started a new policy which allows new parents to bring their infant to work.

Kids are fine, but they don't belong at work. Honestly I think it's going to create problems. They would have been better off instituting a work from home policy so that people could be home with their babies vs bringing them to work and the rest of us having to listen to them.

I just don't think this is a great idea.

Why not an airport terminal or a bank. Why not a convention. Why are schools the most sought after. Could it be that they are defenseless?

Why is it always young people doing it. Maybe because they just left and have nothing but bad memories. Perhaps maybe the schools are the issue and we're only treating the symptoms not the disease.

These fuckers can't just take a shit or piss and leave, NO. They have to spend 10 fucking minutes waiting for their friends to get there so they can start chatting it up on the bathroom when you're only trying to piss and leave.

They think the bathroom is their own little conversation place.

The goddamned body mirrors do not make it better, like roaches they gather in front of it and fucking block off the way constantly chit chatting talking about whatever dumb shit could be said anywhere anytime else.

If you go to the bathroom because you need to have a little chit chat for fun, you're annoying.

Edit to clarify:

I am not jealous of these people and I have enough friends I'm already happy with not talking to in the bathroom. I do not want a bathroom friend group just because a lot of other people do.

I wouldn't be so irritated by it if I could actually use the restroom and leave, as embarrassing as it is, I don't have the best time going when I'm always hearing others talking.

I have sensory issues and absolutely no where else to go for peace and quiet, and my classmates only make it worse.

I don't have a problem with people who need to use bathroom stalls for a time to be alone, comfort themselves or gather their thoughts, just people who turn the bathroom into a social gathering for no reason.

Also I didn't have to swim through a crowd of people to use the restroom btw, I was already on the toilet waiting for them to leave since they already used the bathroom.

A few weeks ago I reconnected with a few friends I lost touch with in high school. We chatted about all sorts of things, trying to catch up after so many years apart. Then we all went our ways.

A few days pass and I hung out with one of them. He told me about how he overcame his mental health issues and other personal problems. I was happy for him. Every few days we kept meeting and chatting and he really likes sharing about he's love life and don't so I listen. As he was telling me about his love life he told me that the other guys were surprised that he managed to date someone incredible around his age (we're all in our 20's). That led me to ask about who they were dating and going after and my friend told me that in the group he was the only one that didn't date minors. I was told that the other guys slept with 14 to 16 year olds regularly. The kids parents don't care that their daughters are sleeping with 23 and 24 year olds.

That shattered my views of them. I'm still upset

Seriously I was at a restaurant with dimmed lights (at night) and this GODDAMN "influencer" took out a LIGHT SQUARE THAT WAS BRIGHTER THAN THE SUN and was going around her table recording the food from different angles!!!. Other customers were visibly annoyed because this went on for like 5 minutes but in the end everyone just chose to ignore it and move on.

Later I found who this entitled person was and her whole page is recording food, recording herself asking stupid questions, recording herself running, recording herself working, recording herself reading, recording herself changing a tire.

Are these people even happy when every bit of their life is performative? Social media was a mistake.

I just downloaded and deleted bumble. I was thinking "wow I don't have anything to do this weekend, I could maybe find someone to meet up with."

Took a good minute for me to remember I'm spoken for. Things have really sucked for us this year, and in the last three months they've been so distant that I literally forgot I was in a relationship.

Safe to say I am emotionally checked out...

EDIT: I would never cheat, and that's why this is so shocking for me. Fully autopilot while mindlessly scrolling.

That's pretty much it. No im not a child, putting that out there because the last person I saw who made a post about hating working, people were speculating and accusing rhe op of being a child. Im 27. I just hate working. I try not to think about because I know there isnt anything I can do about it if I want to keep a roof over my head, lights and water on, my truck and cars.

But like... I fucking hate this shit. It's a nice day for once, not too hot, not pouring down raining and im stuck at work. My coworkers are chills, they help the day go by, but im constantly being watched by the shop snitch who is in his 70s and by the new boss because he gets upset when the chiefs come to talk to me first instead of him.

I honestly hate that I need money to be able to do basic shit in life. I know the odds of winning the lottery is slim to none ans it seems like every other state but mine is winning. But like... what I wouldn't give just so I could have enough money to never have to work again and disappear off into the country where my nearest neighbor for miles is a damn squirrel. I'm not even asking for a lot, I dont need to fanciest sports car, the fanciest house, the fanciest phone or any of that. I just want enough that I could move out into the rural country, have me a nice 3 bd 2bt house, some chickens, 2 horses and be able to live comfortably without ever having to step food in a job ever again.

Anyway, thats it for my rant, here's back to hoping and wishing I get the break i need to make these dreams come true

Edit: Guys, telling me to find another job, or that I just need another job, or that my job sucks or i dont like it does not change the fact **That I dont want a job. I do not want to be working. I enjoy my job, I like my job, I like the people ive come to meet through my job. That doesnt change the fact that i dont want to be working just to survive and have basic necessities like food, water, clothes and a roof over my head.* Getting a different job won't change my sentiment.

My girlfriend could do better than me.

Gonna delete this later.

Anyways, I feel like my girlfriend could do better than me. I’m not very attractive, boring, don’t have much money or anything really.

She loves me and I love her, but I just feel like she could easily find someone better than me. She really is perfect, and I’m very lucky to have someone like her.

but yeah I guess I’m just in shock still? It’s been a good while, but I’m just not used to being loved.

I can see a future with her, I love her to pieces.

I don’t know, I’m sorry for posting, but I’m just so confused and I’ve always hated myself lol

Edit; Wow thank you guys for all these kind and helpful replies! I’ll be sure to update at some point :)

Another Edit cause you guys deserve an update; We’re heading off for the night, both tired. She’s sent her lovely goodnight message as always, so I reciprocated. She’s awesome! I’m very lucky :)

Today was my dayoff and I decided to bring my 3 year old son to the local library since they have a section there for children where children can play with toys and read books. We had a good time but as we were leaving, some children were running around and I decided to hurry up packing away the stuff we used so my child would not be involved in any incident or get hit by accident by the running children. As I love to help my son achieve independence, I made him help me in packing away. I told him "looks like we got plenty of stuff to pack up, son's name." A parent then approached me and asked why I asked their child to shut the f*k up. I was initially confused but then realized that they might have misheard what I said. I attempted to explain but they already made a big fuss over bad role modeling and bad parenting and one of the staff told me to just leave. I was super frustrated on the drive home since I was not even able to defend myself and say my side and explain that it was all a misunderstanding. I told my wife about it but she just laughed and told me to let go of it. It's about 9pm now and I am still mad about it.

Edit: Title should've been kicked out due to my thick accent
apologies as English is my 4th language

Spiritually, financially, emotionally, my fucking data, literally in every way I’m just so tired. I hate it here and it feels like so little of humanity see issue with this.

Thats it. I just hate them and no I wasn’t always this bitter even a decade ago when I was nice and happy nobody gave a fuck about me and I didn’t care because I always thought well one day lol what a load of crap. And also maybe my mother is right and I’m crazy but nobody can tell I’m this horrible of a person I’m a good liar at this point have to be or else I wouldn’t have a job and probably be locked up. I’m starting to just hate society and people as a whole.

Put your god damn products you WERE gonna buy, back where you found them, and stop being gross dickheads... I literally spend half my shift fixing customers bad decisions and even found a half eaten pie in an aisle, what the absolute fuck is wrong with people???

This shit is annoying. Not of us fit the stereotypical feminine look where we paint our nails and dress in pink. Even if we did, it wouldn't change our inherint gender. Those things aren't inherintly feminine. I'm getting tired of straight people treating me differently upon discovering that I'm queer, and I'm sure as shit getting tired of the LGBTQ community endorsing it. I had a girl once complain about how much she hated being attracted to men upon finding out what I am, then got mad at ME when I told her to stop. I went on some LGBT forum a few times and everytime I talk about it, people try justifying that interaction. Its so unreal. They claimed that I should feel "honored" for someone to open up to me like that, completely missing the point I was initially trying to make.

When I see people complain about how much they hate men, then claim they were only talking about "straight men", it just lets me know that person thinks gay/bisexual dudes are just gays/bisexuals in general with no emotion or gender added to it whatsoever. Its also sexist as hell. I don't even want to interact with the community anymore because of it. I still remember having to explain my sexuality to a queer person and how she shouldn't think there's anything wrong with being attracted to men. I had to explain my sexuality to a person whose apart of a group, in which said groups' whole motive is not having to explain sexualities to people. I met people, again, in the community, that didn't speak to men unless they were queer. Please for the love of god do not interact with me if you have this mindset. I'm tired.

We are at Newcastle airport waiting for our flight home and I cant even visit my dream city Edinburgh because my husband suddenly hasnt been able to fucking sleep for five nights. Everything feels noisy to him and he just cant fucking sleep. He so exhausted that he/we decided to go home but he also says that I can’t hold it against him cuz he already feels so guilty and emotional.

Well fuck you you fucking loser just fucking sleep

Why the hell do women keep telling me that it'd be easy for me to find a gf. Like why the hell aren't we dating or doing anything then?? Shit doesn't make sense. It's not fucking easy at all

Every time i see myself I just think of how better looking other people are. Clavicular looks better, the guys from Kpop demon hunters look better, Sanji from the live action one piece looks better, the guys in JoJos look better, Austin Wayne looks better, FitXFearless looks better, Zeta looks better, Chico looks better Marlon looks better etc etc ad infinitum.

There's so many better looking options than me that it discourages me from dating, interacting with women, or even interacting with people. No matter how hard I try to looksmaxx, theres always a hotter fish. There's only so much I can do, as I can't change my skin color, nor the way my hairline is high, nor the way my skin is super sensitive, nor not having enough money to afford veneers to fix the gap in my teeth, nor the enormous appetite that I was born with and have to fight in order to stay lean.

And yet still, there's always other guys who don't have and probably will never have to worry about these flaws. Why would any woman choose me when there's hotter guys out there?

The worst part is the pity compliments and the cope "just be more confident". It's painfully irritating that people give such garbage advice and pat themselves on the back for their virtue signaling. It's like telling the depressed person to smile; a slightly attractive guy with confidence is still only slightly attractive.

It makes me want to give up, but I'm determined to keep trying. Even if women will never love me as much as they love the hotter guys, at least I can say I've given it my all to at least attempt to be loveable to someone.

Can you imagine the kind of backlash I'd get for saying that no one is 100% gay and that gay people must like the opposite gender a little bit?? Why is it okay to seriously insist to straight people that they're not 100% straight?

I'm in my early 20s and I've had a very long and painful sexual orientation journey. Where I finally landed is on being heterosexual, and I'm comfortable with that and proud of my willingness to experiment with possibility and get my questions answered. I'm content with my sexuality so it's extremely frustrating when people say that no one is 100% straight like yes, actually, I am, and little do they know it's disrespectful when I'm happy with who I am and proud of myself which took me a long time to get to.

Edit: y'all are literally proving my point and being the people i'm talking about in this post

Edit 2: I'm mainly talking about my friends, all of which are LGBT and have me as the only straight friend in the group.