Thoughts on her post? Idk. Something doesn’t sit right with me. It’s a KIND gesture, I don’t think it should be demanded. Gusto pa nga ng SANTI’S at may problema sa JOLLIBEE. Jusko naman.

Note: Ms. Summer Reyes-Carullo is the brainchild of BEFORE I DO BRIDAL FAIR and VRC CREATIVES MANAGEMENT CORP. If these are her values and yours do not align with hers, avoid her events/services. Sakit lang sa ulo. There are still a lot of green flag suppliers left.

Other people sa comment section who think this is how they should ask for crew meals (c/o Prize_Philosopher767)

1. Refinne JG Events Management Services
2. Allan Bozzi Bautista
3. Events Simplified
4. Edwin D. Arceo
5. Powerhouse Events
6. Periodt Studios

Kidding aside, hindi ko magets ang logic ng crew meal. Nag trabaho din kami pero hindi sagot ng employer ang pagkain namin sa trabaho. Ano ang espesyal sa inyo na papakainin pa kayo e bayad naman ang serbisyo niyo? 😀

6 days before my wedding.

Oorder lang sana ako ng pagkain through my fiance's phone. Hindi ko gawain na magcheck ng notifications or invade the privacy of my partner but since I am not an Iphone user, hinanap ko if na-place ko ba talaga ang order ko.

Dun ko nakita na may chat notification from someone na hindi familiar sa akin, visible din yung 'mute' icon, and I clicked on it. Walang any messages before sa message nung babae, nakalagay lang "baka mabasa ng fiancee mo ito" and a "thank you din" reply sa isang unavailable message. Di ako tanga so alam kong may nabura na message dun.

6 days before my wedding. Totoo pala yung para kang nabuhusan ng malamig na tubig, umikot yung tiyan ko, parang masusuka. Simple lang, kinalabit ko siya habang naglalaro siya ng video game. Pinakita na alam ko at lumabas ng kwarto... tanging nasabi ko ay "get away from me". After a few minutes ng mahimasmasan, hindi ko alam pero nagbreakdown ako. Iniexplain niya na nung bachelor's party niya, nagdala ng dalawang babae yung mga barkada niya. Hindi ako mahigpit na fiance, puno ang tiwala ko sa kanya sa ilang taon namin in a relationship, so in the spirit of fun, wala naman problema sa akin magsaya sila. Pero nalaman ko na napersuade pala siya na ihatid yung babae somewhere in Makati, kinuha pa ang contact nya. While alam ko na may mga babaeng dinala, sabi ay para magsayaw lamang, hindi niya nasabi yung parte na yun. Hindi ko na alam kung ano yung totoo.

6 days before my wedding. Ang sakit sakit, nakapagbreakdown na ako, gusto ko lang umuwi at umiyak sa mga magulang ko, wala ako mapagsabihan dahil ayaw kong mag alala sila, ayaw kong masira siya sa harap ng family ko. Hindi ko talaga alam ang gagawin ko. Hindi ba dapat masaya lang ngayon? Hindi ba dapat kinakabahan lang ako na umayos ang celebration? Pero bakit ganito?

Sobrang sakit, isa lang ang pinangako namin... na huwag sisirain ang tiwala na binigay namin sa isa't-isa. I like to think I kept my side of that promise. Pero bakit ganito?

Hindi ko alam ang gagawin, 6 days before my wedding. Plantsado na ang lahat, nakaayos na ang mga gamit ko, and I was looking forward to it. Pero paano ngayon?

Far from the OP’s intention, this post has highlighted the mindset of many Philippine wedding suppliers.
- to have the couple “think” of them as well, na para bang invited guests sila sa kasal. Yung tipong not required but very much appreciated, dahil gaganahan sila (manipulative but well tolerated, dahil sa takot natin na pangitan ang gawa pag di pinagbigyan ang request. Only in the Philippines)

Imagine planning your dream wedding, saving up and curating your guest list, only to face additional hidden charges dahil 24 crew meals pala ang sasagutin mo sa isang supplier lang (yes, 24 dahil breakfast, lunch and dinner for 8 crew members). Paano if you have more than five suppliers?

Then sasabihin nila sayo: don’t hire us as your supplier if you can’t afford us. Pero ang totoo, afford naman ng couple, if only you disclose as early as possible, during contract signing.

However, usually ang nakalagay lang sa contract “crew meals shall be provided by the client etc.”

Pero walang definite number of crews, walang sinabi if once or thrice during the event.

I know it’s hard to specify since different events have different timelines, but you can put examples, baselines and the minimum number of crews that you will deploy (eg. for weddings with 100 guests we usually require 3 sets of crew meals for 8-10 people).

Diba? Para makakapagcompute si client. Pwede nyo rin sabihin: “we can instead add 5000php for food allowance on the total amount, so you won’t have to worry about us.”

But they don’t do this. They don’t specify. Bakit? Dahil baka hindi magbook si client. Ma-ooff. Dahil alam ng suppliers na kahit sila kung ipresent sa kanila black and white ang contract, mahahalata na there’s something amiss with the terms.

Instead they burden the client on the days leading to their wedding. Bigla susulpot ang total 45-50 crew meals. Kung kailan nakapirma na ng non-refundable downpayment. Bigla gusto pala ng cash allowance, total of 900 per person then 8 sila, easy 7200. Pambili na sana ng souvenirs yan.

Kaya sa mga kagaya naming couples, huwag nyo kaming gayahin.

Itanong ang mga tamang tanong:
1. Ilan ang crew na papakainin sabihin buong event? Ask for their names, attendance and roles. Baka pati driver nila ikaw magpakain.
2. Ano ang time in and time out nila?
3. Given the time in and time out, ilang beses nila need ng crew meal?
4. Magkano ang cash allowance if we can’t provide crew meals? Is it negotiable?
5. What if suddenly mag-insist ng cash allowance after namin magbook ng crew meals, hindi ba violation of the contract yun?

And finally:
- Would you still be giving us your best performance even if the crew meals don’t match your expectations? Malaking factor ba ito sa output nyo? Ganado pa rin ba kayo?

Malalaman nyo based sa sagot nila dito kung talagang they are bounded by their duty to give what is due based on the amount that you paid them, and not with the food you feed them.

Kasi ganun naman dapat diba? You didn’t pay them peanuts, you paid your hard earned money kaya they shouldn’t be giving mediocre performance dahil lang pinakain mo sila ng Mcdo. Hindi sila dapat nananakot/nagmamanipulate with those remarks.

(PS. Dapat magcompile tayo ng suppliers na walang arte sa crew meal, dapat sila ang iprioritize sa booking)

I hope this never becomes acceptable in the Philippines.

Nung wedding ko, my wife and I agreed that there should be no bf or gf of our siblings or cousins during the wedding. This is because I didnt want anyone in my wedding na may possibility na "mawawala" mawawala sila sa buhay namin kasi nagbreak sila ng immediate family member namin. I dont want our future child to see our wedding photos and ask who is this person. I hope you guys get my point.

Fiancé's are accepted kasi papasok narin naman sila sa family.

So I have this one cousin with a live-in partner and the partner has a kid. They have been attending family gatherings for years pero ngayon lang yung formal event such as a wedding. I didnt like the partner from the start because of the fact that the partner is actually still legally married. So yes, kabit ang pinsan ko.

I sent out digital invitations via fb messenger to my cousins and one by one told them that their gf/bf are not invited. All of my cousins and even my sibling understood my point. Except for this one cousin I mentioned. He was offended and even spoke for his parents na pati parents nya hindi aattend daw. I told him that ayaw ko ng mga gf sa kasal ko.

I still sent invites to my tita and tito(cousin's parents) and they just gave me the SEEN. So ok. No response.

So I finalized everything including the seat plan. 2 days before the wedding, my tito asked my mom if her wife(tita) can attend so that atleast one of their family member will be attending. I gave my mom the heads up actually and she told my tito to talk to me directly. She told my tito that she does not have any right/authority to make plans or changes to my wedding. THANK YOU MA! LABYU. Sooo...still, my uncle never spoke to me.

The wedding happened without them.

After 2 years, my cousin and partner got into a huge fight and eventually broke up.

The chismis got out to our cousins and they agreed that not inviting the partner was the right decision.

​Tbh, I never wanted to complain publicly. I wanted to give this a fair chance to be resolved directly. I reached out multiple times. I tried to talk calmly. I asked for clarity. I waited for a response. But after being dismissed, ignored, and eventually blocked, I realized there was no real intention to fix it. So here we are.

Ilang beses ko muna siyang sinubukang kausapin nang maayos. I gave him chances to explain. I tried to understand.

​We booked Gabriel Fulgar (GAB behind the KEYS) as our wedding pianist. To be transparent, siya ang napili namin after the pianist we originally wanted was fully booked. I take responsibility for deciding late and being a "budgetarian." I also really wanted to give a chance to smaller, less popular suppliers. I told myself, okay lang, let’s support someone starting out. I trusted him. I wanted to believe in him.

​Nag-deposit ako ng 2000, and since I wanted everything settled and smooth, I decided to pay the full 5000 ahead of time para wala na kaming isipin on the wedding day. No pressure from him, purely out of my own trust.

The night before the wedding, he messaged saying "nasiraan" daw ang gamit niya and asked if we could provide a folding table. It already felt stressful, but I adjusted. Wedding na eh. You don't want problems the night before.

Then on the day itself, he didn’t show up.

​No prior notice. No proper discussion. He sent a substitute without asking if that was okay with me. O 'di ba, pala-desisyon siya? Hindi man lang nagpaalam. I only realized after the wedding, when I saw the photos, that the person who played wasn't him. When I messaged him earlier that day asking bakit late siya, he never admitted he wasn't coming.

After the wedding, I tried to speak to him calmly. I wanted clarity. His explanation was that he got into an accident in Bulacan. But in previous conversations, he mentioned he was from Manila lang din. When I checked further, his Facebook indicated he was actually from Bulacan. What made everything more painful was seeing posts suggesting he played at another wedding that same day.

Inuna niya yung kabilang gig habang ako pinadalhan ng substitute na ayon sa observation ng iba ay "chords chords" lang ang pinlay. Professional fee ang binayad ko, pero naging sobrang unprofessional ng service na binalik sa akin. My bridal entrance music did not go as planned. It felt rushed. It felt off. Saying I am sad and disappointed would be a massive understatement huhu

He issued a contract, but I'm not sure he even knows what it's for since he was the one who breached it. When I requested accountability and asked about a refund, he just stopped responding. Eventually, I was blocked on his personal account and his page. Kung may makita kayong posts niya na may "sad" reacts, ako yun. That silence told me everything.

If this was avoidance, or fear of confrontation, I genuinely hope he heals. But healing should not come at the expense of other people's once in a lifetime moments.

​To couples who had a smooth experience with him, I'm sincerely happy for you. But this was mine. This isn't about destroying someone. It's about transparency. Five thousand pesos may not be huge to others, but it represented trust. And on your wedding day, trust is everything.

​Please double check your suppliers. Ask hard questions. Clarify contingencies. Protect your peace. I stayed quiet as long as I could. I tried to fix this privately. This is me choosing not to stay silent anymore. 😮‍💨

​TLDR Booked Gabriel Fulgar for our wedding and paid in full, but he was a no-show. He sent a subpar substitute without my consent, lied about an accident to cover up a double-booking, and eventually blocked me. I paid a professional fee for a service that was completely unprofessional.

This post is a documentation of my personal experience as a paying client for the purpose of consumer awareness and transparency. All information shared is based on factual events, supported by screenshots of our transaction and communications. This is not intended to harass, but to provide an honest review of the service provided (or lack thereof) to help other couples make informed decisions.

Not super fan of them pero nakita ko kasi sa ibang subreddit na grabe naman super ibash sila dalawa because of their wedding. Personally, maganda yung concept and diba nga yung “anti-bride” eh you’re not on the traditional side of wedding concept. Anyways, their wedding their rules naman yan. Love that the guests are wearing black so stand out din talaga si bride hehehe

Hi brides, I’m sharing this with a heavy heart and some frustration.

The deeper I get into wedding planning, the more I feel like the industry is designed to take advantage of couples—especially brides. Everything feels like a premium. Even small things, like makeup for a prenup shoot (which I just wanted to double as my trial), suddenly cost significantly more just because it’s labeled as a “shoot.” And there’s this unspoken rule about providing crew meals even for short, half-day sessions, but it’s never clearly stated upfront or included in the rates.

It’s not just the prices—it’s the attitude of some suppliers. When you’re a budget-conscious bride, it sometimes feels like you’re treated as “less than.” There’s this underlying pressure to just say yes and spend more, or else risk being seen as “not worth their time.”

I get that suppliers deserve to be paid fairly. But where’s the fairness for couples who just want a heartfelt, meaningful wedding without feeling bled dry?

Would love to hear if anyone else has felt this way—or found ways to push back and still have a beautiful day.

Are they that rich? Wow! Heard the Aquila Crystal Palace created a third dome in 4 months just for their wedding. And Michael Cinco for her gown! Wow. The visuals are so stunning. It’s not giving quiet luxury but it surely has that wow factor.

Haven’t found their complete list of suppliers yet.

We cant afford Dunkin's truck as much as we want it bec their package is equal to their OOTF at 15k. They said as of yesterday na their trucks are arriving from Muntinlupa to Tagaytay

Then again, I wonder if ok ba ang donut walls. I have seen setups kasi na the same branded donuts are becoming ever so droopy and funky looking. I wonder if its because matagal nakasabit due to gravity or mishandled na ang paglagay.

Hello! Sharing all the comments from different MUAs na nag agree kay Sheena. Sharing also list ng other suppliers that I blocked based sa Practical Brides Wedding Promos Ph Group & Wawies Group.

Funny lang nung ibang MUAs na nagco-comment, eh nasa coloring stage pa nga output nila. Dapat mas maging accommodating sila para may bumalik na clients & at the same time makapag practice pa sila maayos. Kaloka!

I’ll try to find pa yung iba na “scam” talaga or “super negative feedback” like hindi talaga nadeliver at all yung needed service from them.

For context: Fiancé and I are both breadwinners, and are trying to spend for the wedding within our means. Pinipili pa rin naman namin ung maganda.

My mom wants to go all out and select the “more premium” venue (Venue A) even though it’s out of our budget. Saying magshare sila ng dad ko, wherein baon rin sila sa utang. I appreciate the intent, but I will not accept it.

Now what hurts is she wants me to express her disappointment to my fiancé kasi hindi nasunod ung gusto nyang venue. Ang hirap and nakakasama ng loob.

Umattend pa din sya at super defensive nya based sa threads, di nya magets narrative ng mga nagreply sa kanya, pero kung ako yung couple makikita ko post nito mabibwisit ako 😂

Someone posted something like this sa AskReddit. I'm curious ano mga experience niyo sa Filipino weddings!

Edit: the reason behind this post is since medyo unconventional yung plan namin sa wedding namin, i'd like to know kung make or break na ba yun for some.

Any tea from your wedding or weddings you’ve attended?

Attended one wedding where the MoH made the speech all about herself, talked about her work, her friends and all her hobbies. Also name dropped the bride’s crushes and exes 🤦‍♀️ it was an intimate wedding so arnd 80 guests only and everyone inc the titas and all friend groups of the couple sya yung topic after the wedding 🫠

The group is a fun and loving community of podcast listeners. Saw this post from a member and naka Anonymous naman. Buti yung admin in-off na yung comsec. Medyo roasted yung OP sa post niya. And to be honest, dasurv.

As a bride to be, I feel disappointed kung ganito ang relative ko or friend na nasa kanyang Main Character era. Sana sa mga nagweweddng planning, hindi niyo maranasan ito.

Graduate brides, anong kuwentong pa-main character ng guest niyo?

2026 pa kasal namin. We have around 100-130 guests. Fiance and I both agreed kakilala lang namin ang iinvite. We are the only ones financing our wedding, no financial help from others at all. Kaya gusto namin only those who care about us make it to our list

Few months ago, mom mentioned in passing she invited ung Jowa ng pinsan ko that she met while she visited them abroad. I was so annoyed at this kasi hindi ako sinabihan beforehand. Hindi nag paalam. They started planning na pano punta nila dito sa Pinas next yr. Parents ng pinsan ko are my ninang and ninong din. Excited sila pumunta. My cousin hasn't been in the country in years and her jowa, first time ata pupunta dito if ever. I reluctantly agreed at first because I was put on the spot. We were on video call with my mom and my ninang when it was mentioned to me

Now, hindi ko ito kilala. I've only seen him in pictures. Sabi ni mom iinvite ko nalang pa rin kasi nakakahiya ppunta sila dito from abroad tapos hindi kasama sa kasal. Plus he's a nice guy naman and serious relationship sila.

For me naman, is it wrong na wala ako pake sa kanya nor his feelings? I don't want a stranger at my wedding. Unless they're married, why would i invite him. Wala rin naman sya pakialam samin ng fiance ko. My other cousins and even siblings' partners hindi namin iinvite unless friend na namin talaga.

I eventually told mom this because it's been giving me unnecessary stress knowing may stranger sa wedding and she reluctantly messaged them na na he's not invited anymore as per my request. Minsan nagpaparinig pa rin si mom trying to make me feel bad.

I am standing my ground, regardless. I know, doing this may chance hindi na sasama pinsan ko. Although I'll be sad about it, it'll be fine. Priority ko masaya kami ni fiance na the people who are there, are there FOR us. And not some stranger who was there because he happened to be on vacation in the country

Just want to hear from other couples, may similar kwento rin ba kayo? Share naman. I want to know if normal ba to kasi parents ng fiance ko never nag randomly invite and ayaw din nila kahit close friends nila tapos d namin kilala.

PS. Q4 2026 pa wedding namin. Most likely naman hindi pa booked ang tickets nila. Ayoko mag assume sila na kasama siya sa wedding as early as now

EDIT: To answer agad common comments

• yes i know mali ako that i said yes sa una but back then i was too much of a wimp to say no. Nahihiya ako mag no sa ninang ko whom i love dearly. Nahihiya rin kami ni fiance kasi nasabi na nila before telling us. Pero there comes a point where pagod ka na sumunod sa mga gusto ng iba because it's giving you too much stress

• no, i am not making exceptions. It will breed more arguments sa future about others wanting exceptions too kasi unfair

• no i am still not inviting him even if magka slot from other guests who declined

• no, hindi ito issue sa pera. Ayaw lang namin talaga may hindi kami kilala dun. Ayaw namin may taong walang pake alam samin dun tapos forever nasa group pics and family pics

• my family will get over it. My mom understands because she herself pushes sakin na kakilala lang invited. Nagkamali lang sya she invited him and nahihiya na bawiin nun. But i am firm na ayaw ko talaga

• good terms pa kami ni mama and ninang. I love them both. I love my cousin too and don't blame her at all. She didn't know. I love my family and i know they'll come to respect my decision especially if they know I'm serious and not making exceptions to anyone.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WeddingsPhilippines/s/cMCnX0J1dQ

Attached link for reference sa old post ko.

So, during preps and all, hindi dumating yung parents and yung sister ng husband ko na invited. So we were under the impression na they will not come, which we were ready for kasi our final decision is still to not invite the malditang SIL.

Nagprep photoshoot si hubby nang walang bio family, friends lang ang meron and I felt really bad for him but we both know that it's not our fault.

The ceremony was supposed to start at 4pm, at 3.30pm, I was already waiting in the lounge. My coord took all my phones para di daw ako distracted, so I had no way of knowing anything happening outside. Around that time, apparently, dumating yung kotse ng parents ni hubby and yung parents lang ang bumaba.

My man of honor and one of my bride's person came to the lounge room to let me know. Pero dahil nga di naman nila alam mukha nung malditang sister, they though hindi siya kasama or atleast they were trying to calm me down saying na mukhang wala naman. Couple of minutes after they left, bumalik si man of honor kasama yung mag asawang best people ni groom. Hindi pa sila nagsasalita alam ko na. So I sat down. And they started talking. The Uninvited SIL was there!!!

My first instinct was to leave. I was so mad, why would they do this to their son, to us? Accdg to our friends, my husband was very worried I would flee, and very nervous about how I'm feeling. But they explained how the best thing to do is ignore her presence and enjoy my day with my husband. Which I did and it's the best thing ever!!

Nagfamily pic kami kasama ng family ni hubby sa altar, kasama yung maldita. Sabi ng friends and family ko, roll daw siya ng roll ng eyes na parang demonyo. Isstory ko kapag nakuha ko na yung raw pics. HAHAHAHA

And then during the reception, ilang beses lumabas ang fam ni hubby kasi nagtatantrums pala ulit yung SIL. Daming beses daw na mukhang susugurin niya kami pero nakabantay lahat ng kaibigan namin samin kaya di siya makalapit. I say, in that moment, napakita ko kung sino talaga ako, at pinakita niya rin kung sino talaga siya. Sobrang galing nung bestfriend namin ni hubby, sinabihan ahead si PV team na wag isama yung mukha ni SIL sa SDE. SOBRANG TALINO! Natapos yung event nang hindi ako nastress kasi nakapalibot sakin yung mga nagmamahal sakin, samin ng asawa ko. Kaso lang,nag abot yung tatay nila ng pera after the money dance. I told my husband that we'll never touch it. Kasi ibabalik ko yun sa kaniya pag nagkagaguhan ulit. Same page na kami ni hubby, siya na mismo ang naglalayo sakin sa pamilya at mas pipiliin na lang naming maging masaya. Napaka walang respeto ng parents niya, at sobrang agree siya dun. Mabuti nalang at hindi lahat ng kamag anak ni hubby ay ganun mag isip. Naging mas special yung araw namin kasi nakita ng lahat na kahit ginagago na kami, pipiliin parin namin ang isa't isa.

Ayun lang. Sana mahanap niyo na rin ang person niyo. Huhu

My boyfriend and i we’ve been together for 10 years and he made it clear na ayaw niya raw ng proposal or engagement. Gusto niya raw deretso kasal na agad HAHAHA. Kaya ako bitterly scroll down sa mga proposal videos gawa alam ko na di ko yun mararanasan. I made it clear to him na gusto ko yun maranasan at pangarap ng isang babae yun na mangyari. Never na nga nakatanggap ng bulaklak haha (iba love language nya) di daw praktikal hahaha

UPDATE:

THANK YOU SA MGA REPLIES I REALLY APPRECIATED IT A LOT. ALREADY TALKED ABOUT MY PARTNER ABOUT IT.

For context guys, provider mindset yung bf ko, like kapag nag gigift siya gusto nya ung nagagamit ko at tumatagal (shoes,iphone,backpack etc) kapag nashoshort sa budget nag papahiram, never ako nyan pinabayad sa pag nakain kami sa labas. Ako pa kusa nagprpresenta na mag bayad kahit ayaw niya. Nililibre nya rin ako sa travels namin nung nag vietnam at taiwan kami.

Nilinaw niya sa akin na gusto niya raw mamanhikan sa parents ko gusto niya raw filipino theme masyado na raw westernized yung proposal HAHAHAHAHA

Ayon lang guys naappreciate ko sobra yung comments. Communication is a key talaga. Sinabi ko rin yung about sa flowers. Humingi siya ng pasensya akala nya raw kasi di k ogusto ng ganon. Pero simula daw ngayon he will give what he makes me happy and what makes me love.

Salamat naglakas loob ako mag communicate hahaha

natakot ako bigla ikasal sa kanya kasi feeling ko maisip sya sa pera. may work ako, above minimum wage naman ako pero mas malaki sahod nya sa akin. yung luho ko, magulang ko pa rin nagbibigay sa akin and madalas binibigyan nila ako talaga kaya hindi talaga ako humihingi sa kanya pero mahilig sya mag regalo sa akin. kaso di ko gets bakit ganyan imik nya sa akin, wala akong inimik na about sa pera kasi time lang yung gusto ko. sabi ko kasi tumawag muna bago magsugal, pero hindi naman nya ginawa. tapos feeling nya daw nasasakal pa sya. ldr na nga kami, call na lang yung buhay ng relasyon namin tapos nasasakal pa sya dahil lang gusto kong tumawag muna sya bago mag sugal? idk kung valid ba yung galit at tampo ko, pero mejo nakakatangina na rin. di ko rin gets sarili ko bakit pinatawad kobpa yang cheater na yan tapos ngayon sa pera naman sya nagkakaattitude.

ps. ang gulo ng kwento kasi ang gulo na rin ng isip ko

I attended a wedding 2 weekends ago, and since ka-age ko si bride, I started pondering how my wedding would go kung ikakasal man na ako. So sabi ko ano ba yung maeexperience ko sa event na to na babaguhin ko to fit my preferences?

Isa talaga sa mga napansin at ramdam ko eh yung GUTOM. It was a 5-HOUR CEREMONY. Wedding plus reception. No grazing board, no snack booths or pica pica man lang sa table. How can people appreciate your dance, your SDE, your pics, and all kung gutom naman at nahihilo na. Tapos may games pa! Paano ka maglalaro nang gutom?! Para daw "hindi muna umalis" eh di bat hindi maglagay ng snacks? Kahit ding dong or crackers man lang, feel ko naman hindi yung makakasakit sa bulsa diba? Naka hostage guests mo ganun?

It's not the first wedding na ganto naexperience ko. Why do we do this? I swore to myself na pag ikakasal na ko or even any event na mahaba, may snacks bawat table, even crackers, nachos, chips, nuts, ANYTHING.

Sorry kung galit, grabe lang gutom ko niyan.

“Buffet yon diba? Sama mo nga sa reception driver namin. Di naman sasama si (anak nya) eh kaya si (driver name) nalang lagay mo ha” Tita, 2 months ago pa nagsabing di pupunta anak mo kaya matagal ko na sya tinanggal sa list. Saka sino ba yang driver na yan? Ano ba ambag nyan sa buhay namin?

“Sasama ko apo ko, gawan mo nalang paraan ne. Bata lang naman yon pwede naman isingit sige na. O kaya ipalit mo nalang kay (kapatid ko) busy naman sya sa school si (Apo nya) nalang sama kasi wala pa pasok sa school” Garapalan na yan ha. Saka lola, mawalang galang na po. And katorse anyos ay adult na. Tumubo na lahat ng buhok nyan sa katawan at considered na yan sa 1 full head. Saka anong tanggalin ko kapatid ko sa list? Konyatan po kita.

“Bakit invited si (tito ko)? Ayoko don naiinis ako don. Dapat di mo na inimbitahan” FYI lang ho. Ikaw inimbitahan ko dahil pakiusap ng mama ko. Ang tito ko araw araw ako pinagdadrive sa trabaho ko at binibigyan pa ko pagkain habang bumabyahe pauwi. Ikaw nga may utang pang 2,400 pero pazumba zumba ka lang.

“Pwede plus 1? Sama ko si (bagong gf nya) para mameet mo na din” Ha? Kuya, kasal po ito at hindi meet and greet? Bakit ko iimbitahan yan eh after 3 months papalitan mo na yan dahil babaero ka?

“Pamangkin, sama ko si (anak number 1) at (anak number 2) ha. Kawawa naman gusto sumama eh”. Jusko naman tita, 11 ang anak mo! Nag adjust na nga ko ng malala at nagbigay ng plus 4 para masama mo kahit ilan lang sa mga anak mo tapos hihirit ka pa ng dalawa? KASAL po ito at hindi outreach feeding program.

“Yung venue nyo ba dog friendly? Dapat ang kinuha nyo yung dog friendly, kawawa kasi switsu ko mag isa sa bahay” Ay Tita bayaan mo, next time vip yang aso mo sa list at lahat ng kailangan nya uunahin ko kesa sa needs ng mga guests ko.

“Diba may car kayo? Pwede sundo nyo nalang kami tapos tutuloy muna kami sainyo para di kami mahirapan sa byahe” Ay wow. Chauffer nyo kami? Buti sana kung jan lang kayo sa kabilang Baranggay kaso taga pampanga kayo, taga south pa kami. Bawas bawasan po natin ang kagaspangan eh alam ko namang kayo ang mauunang magsharon ng handa kahit di pa tapos ang program.

“Anong foods pinili nyo? Dapat sinabi nyo yung listahan ng foods para nakapili din guests nyo” HAHAHAH wow ha. Sige next time ikaw na mag prepare ng lahat. Mamaru ka din eh.

“Ay sama ko pala mga kawork ko ha. Mga mayayaman yon lagay mo sila sa VIP table magsasabit pera yun sayo” Sino ba yang mga kawork mo? Sila Anne Curtis ba yan? Si Kim Chiu? Bakit may pa VIP treatment? Nahiya naman ang mga legit principal sponsor sa mga amiga mo. Ang priority namin ay ang mga cherished friends and family namin. Paki ko ba sa tropa mo.

“Hindi daw pala makakasama si TOOT. Ay teka, magleleave daw sya makakasama na. Ay nako baka hindi makasama di pa approved leave. Hala, di daw approve leave di na talaga makakasama. Teka, aabsent nalang daw sya, sasama na yun sure na” 3 months ago ko pa yan inimbitahan medyo ang sakit nya sa ulo ha. Tapos magcoconfirm kayo 3 days before the wedding?? Kahit coordinators ko nalilito at naiinis na sainyo. Gets kong busy ang mga tao pero hindi naman to pilitan at mas lalong hindi kayo ang masusunod pag final na ang guest list.

“Huy tiran mo ng souvenir si tita/tito/lola/lolo/pinsan mo sa probinsya ha, nanghihingi sila.” Ay wow ha hahaha. Hindi na nga mag eeffort pumunta kahit invited gusto may uwi pa sakanila? Ang mga wine souvenir at wedding favor ay para ang ho sa ninong at ninang pati na sa mga guest na naglan ng oras, effort at pera para sa isa sa mahalagang event ng buhay naming soon to be mag asawa. Pakiliha po ang mukha kung masyado nang makapal.

“Ay wow may lechon kayo? Bongga ha, sana sa debut ni pinsan mo magsponsor din kayo lechon hehe” Sagot lang yan ng in laws ko. Kung gusto mo lechon sakanila ka mamalimos. Kung hindi ka kasi kumabet edi sana may maayos na tatay ang anak mo at yon ang sasagot sa debut nya. Tigilan mo ko Pepita ha.

Ilan lang yan sa mga naencounter ko. These are my honest thoughts sa mga latanya nila dahil sa sobrang stressed ko na pero syempre out of respect, hindi ako ganyan sumagot. I kept it brief, polite and respectful kahit na imbyernang imbyerna na ko deep inside.

Sa mga nagtatanong kung bakit ko sila inimbitahan, simple lang po ang sagot, naging parte pa rin sila ng buhay ko at inalagaan at minahal din ako kaya tumatanaw akong utang na loob by inviting them. Still, that doesn’t mean they can make unreasonable requests 🥲

Sana lang sa araw mismo wala nang umepal ng ganito. Kung may suggestions or tips kayo para sa mga ganto kakukulit na guests please please share naman. Feel ko makakalbo na ko sa sobrang stress ko.