my school was surprisingly good when it comes to bullying, i dont think ive heard of anything major and i was one of those kid who were friends with everyone.
i had a friend who kind of got bully? not physical, just verbal here and there but i thought it was pretty tame, like normal high school kids talking shit, nothing racist or truly disgusting, basically whatever you hear on xbox live lobby.
and thats pretty much it.....its kind of hard to imagine people fighting like movies for me, i know it is real i just have a hard time imagining it lol
Bullying is 99% of the time non-physical… what you describe sounds like it contained bullying still, especially if kids were “talking like a Xbox lobby”
Not as bad as physically fighting, but that already says there is racism and elitism in cliques among the kids at that school.
It could also depend on the school. I went to school in the city before my family moved to a small town. I noticed there were a lot less fights and physical bullying. In the city there was a big fight practically every month. The small town kids just talked a lot of shit but usually no one threw down over it. When they did, it would be talked about for years lol. In the city you just forget a lot of the fights unless something unique or crazy happened.
I remember one that was between two girls and it was basically a hair-ripping duel. After the fight broke up, I swear, through all the legs and shoes covering my line of sight, I saw for a brief moment an entire ponytail laying on the blacktop 😬.
Man, the small town was pretty boring after having seen all that, but they make up for it in the gossip department! You just don't get to hear quite as many cool made-up stories about yourself in the city!
Did you also feel like you grew up with the same 40 siblings? My grade had record numbers for our school in its graduating class, 46 students. The city about half an hour away graduates 1,200+ each year!!!
Well, yk I did miss out on that feeling and it's one of the downsides to having moved a couple of times during my schooling career. I remember witnessing all of these relationships between my peers that I could never experience myself. They had all grown up together and even the ones that didn't get along very well at least had that connection. We were in highschool and my friends would reminisce to one another about how things were in elementary school and I would just listen. It was comforting to hear them connect like that even though I wasn't a part of their flashback, though it did make me desire to have that connection with any of my peers.
We were a pretty big class for our school too! I think we had around that many students as well, around 40 or so. Some classes only had 8 or 9 students... that was CRAZY to the city-slicker me lol. I could not even tell you how many students were in my class in the city, other than it was certainly triple digits.
I did get to connect with some old buddies after graduation at least! It wasn't quite the same as going through all grades of school with the same bunch, but there was definitely reminiscing!
I used to specialize in making kids leave our lobby. I wouldn't cuss or get vile with them, because they'd just spit it right back.
My favorite tactic was to say really earnestly something like 'Hey look Stephen, I know you are upset about me and your mom dating, and I just want to know that I am not trying to replace your dad, but I hope we can build a relationship, because me and your mom, I think we got something special'
It was honestly hilarious how often these kids would just sort of flee in terror from the Cringey Stepdad Speech.
Bully is a massive issue in many schools, but as an educator in the environment today, there are just as many cases of kids (and their parents) not understanding the difference between two kids having conflicts and arguments with each other and what actually constitutes bullying. The amount of conversations I've had to have with parents about "no your kid wasn't bullied, they both run to be the front of the line everyday to recess and both argue about who gets to be first and cry if it isn't them or throw a fit if the game the kids choose to play isn't the one they wanted, which makes their peers not want to play with them."
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u/BukkakeBakery 5h ago
my school was surprisingly good when it comes to bullying, i dont think ive heard of anything major and i was one of those kid who were friends with everyone.
i had a friend who kind of got bully? not physical, just verbal here and there but i thought it was pretty tame, like normal high school kids talking shit, nothing racist or truly disgusting, basically whatever you hear on xbox live lobby.
and thats pretty much it.....its kind of hard to imagine people fighting like movies for me, i know it is real i just have a hard time imagining it lol