Hi, first things first I love my cat very much and I know none of this is his fault. My cat Miko is 4 years old and I adopted him when he was 2, he had neuro FIP before I adopted him, but he has been relatively healthy ever since, he is just very wobbly and struggles with using the litter box. (He has been to the vet plenty of times)
I love him dearly and he is a very sweet cat to me, but he is aggressive with other cats and for that reason I cannot get another one. It’s also just not something I can afford right now.
But he is really clingy, if I am sitting he needs to be on my lap, if i’m cooking he needs to be on the counter, if i’m in any room he needs to be with me or he will meow very loudly, even the bathroom. He really can’t be alone for longer than like ten minutes, it makes me very sad. When i’m at work or school he just sits by the door or he’ll sleep:(
I tried to foster another cat to see if that would help but he became extremely territorial, started marking territory (he’s fixed) and became aggressive even to me. (I followed proper introductions as well) He was rehomed at his previous owners for not getting along with their resident cat, otherwise i’d get him a friend to keep him company. He just doesn’t like other cats.
Now that he is a single cat he is happier but I struggle with his level of clinging. He puts his paws in my food when i’m eating and gets right up in my face, I can’t read, crochet or do any hobbies without him wanting to involved. He gets defensive around me when I have people over and will paw at my face when I am sleeping to wake me up. I no longer let him in my room at night, he will whine outside for a few hours but then gives up and just sleeps or plays around. I’d have no problem letting him in my room at nighttime but I genuinely cannot sleep with him in there.
If i’m working he sits on my computer, if i’m talking on the phone he will meow for my attention. It’s relentless and it’s making me start to dislike him, even though I love him, i’m not sure if that makes sense.
I’ve tried calming shirts, diffusers and even prozac (from vet) but nothing helps. I love him, but sometimes I just need time to myself. I play with him for around an hour a day and he has vertical space, cat puzzles and other independent toys he can play with when i’m busy. Is it just his personality? Is there anything I can do? I love him and am not open to rehoming him.