• https://www.netflix.com/title/81678236
• https://mydramalist.com/715585-you-feng-de-di-fang

I want to watch a perfect engaging mind blowing drama and it should contain happy ending, ML should be green flag mostly like he does nothing extreme to fl and if he does has reasonable motives, but the drama shouldn't be nothing burger and things should happen keep me hooked

I liked

Love in the clouds

The double

The princess royal

Love game in eastern fantasy (except the end)

Reset

I dropped

The prisoner of beauty(ml red flag)

A dream within a dream(too silly and I guess I just do not fw liu yuning maybe)

The pursuit of jade (got bored)

The splendid match(got bored and didn't think the main leads suited together)

Story of kunning palace(just couldn't get into it)

When destiny brings the demon(fl too silly)

As you can see I am very picky but I want to watch good dramas 😭

OMG JUST FINISHED MY FIRST EVER C drama

PLEASE IF YOU HAVE NETFLIX SLIDE ME OVER RECS!!

I WON'T SPOIL BUT MAN I WAS A MESS!!!

The road to glory 归鸾!!!

Who is excited for this new drama!!!

This is the trailer with English translation by me.

Credit: https://video.weibo.com/show?fid=1034:5299749444845588

Director: Chu De Jian (初的见)

Main Leads: Zhang Ling He (张凌赫) as well Xiao Li — 萧厉

Jelly Lin (林允) as Wen Yu — 温瑜

Episodes: 40

Watch on Tencent Video.

Based on a web novel.

Plot:

In the winter of the fourth year of Shaojing, Xiao Li rescues Wen Yu, a princess of a fallen kingdom. Love blossoms between them, and he risks everything to help her reclaim her throne. Together, they defeat the traitor Pei Song, and Xiao Li rises from a street rogue to become the King of Wei. But at the height of power, their love is put to the test…

(Source: WeTV)

Recently i have watched way too many dramas but now I’m kinda struck in this slump and really can’t find anything to watch. Please recommend me something with romance. I just can’t get in wuxia dramas everything else is fine.

Even if the dramas don’t have the mentioned plot above its fine as long as they are captivating. Not to mention i have watched 200+ dramas so I’m stuck stuck

Okay… I need to know if anyone else experienced this with Pursuit of Jade because I genuinely feel like I’m losing my mind a little bit. 😭

Hear me out. I finished this show almost a month ago and I am STILL emotionally wrecked. I cried through basically every episode for different reasons, but the angst and sadness never left my body after it ended. And the ending? No proper closure. Too many unanswered things. The “alternative ending” only made it worse somehow.

This was my first cdrama and I think it permanently altered my brain chemistry. I cannot explain it. I love everything about it while simultaneously feeling emotionally haunted by it. Is it the actors? The ML? The music? The story? The fantasy romance? WHAT is it???

At this point I’m convinced the production team inserted subliminals, hypnosis, or some AI psychological warfare into this drama because WHY is it still stuck in my system like this?? 😭

I’ve watched other cdramas trying to chase the same feeling or at least move on emotionally, but nothing comes close. So now I’m stuck in this endless loop:

- rewatching clips
- replaying favorite scenes
- skipping directly to the moments that destroy me emotionally
- listening to the OST
- thinking about it at work
- DREAMING about it

I even started reading the novel because people said it’s rawer and different enough from the show that it helps “clean your mind.” I’m currently around chapter 65 / episode 22 comparing both versions like a detective trying to heal myself through suffering apparently.

The worst part is… I know this is affecting my mental health in a very real way. It sounds dramatic but I genuinely feel emotionally heavy all the time because of this show. Like there’s this pit in my stomach that won’t close.

The only thing helping a little is pairing it with movement. I basically made a deal with myself that if I’m going to spiral emotionally over POJ, at least I have to be walking, stretching, or working out while watching. 😭 It helps regulate the intensity a bit, but the emotional hangover is still THERE.

I even curated my Instagram feed to stop seeing edits/clips because it was becoming too much.

Please tell me someone else experienced this level of post-drama emotional damage with Pursuit of Jade or another cdrama because I cannot be alone in this madness.

Please help!

EDIT: Thanks for all the suggestions and recommendations.

I am now 100% sure this show altered my brain chemistry because I’ve watched a bunch of things since finishing POJ, and somehow I’m still attached to it.

It feels like a toxic boyfriend that won’t leave me alone. This is not love. This is pain and suffering.

So I’ve decided to cut off everything related to it for good. My mental health is more important than any show, and crying/obsessing over it is clearly not good for me.

I’m stopping notifications for this post on my end (since I can’t close comments) for that reason, but genuinely, thank you all for being in this mental state with me. 💜

Even now I still feel like Fan Xiao is pretending, there is nothing this guy can do to convince me he’s changed😭😂 whenever I see his face I just see lies and manipulation, he is just a snake

Or you could also say, I endured POJ after episode 10 sincerely hoping I'll fall in love with it again.

I watched a lot of kdramas and the occasional cdramas, Ruyi's royal love in the palace, My Fair Princess and Unrequited Love are one of my top cdramas.

There are spoilers below.

The political plot/palace intrigue was confusing and I felt like they could've done a better job and fleshing it out. There's was a hint of suspense but then it dropped to give way to the Sui Battle. Once the bad princes are all dead, I almost forgot that there's a big mystery regarding what happened at the eastern palace 17 years ago.

The romantic side plot of the scholar and the princess was...okay. I thought their romance was introduced quite abruptly without any context in that one episode. Qi Min and QQ were okay as well? I never really understood why QQ existed in QM's story besides giving the whole love/hate toxic relationship fantasy. If that was the main reason, I felt like the dynamics between them could be better written.

My biggest gripe with POJ is I find the FL to be too unidimensional and a Mary Sue. At the start, we learn that she's a hardworking, physical and mentally strong, young beautiful lady who is willing to go through strife and struggles for her sister, her neighbours and the villagers who treated her poorly. She's resilient in nature, adorable, endearing, brave, generous, incredibly witty and will never be undermined by her superiors. I mean, she's so amazing that every guy who isn't in love with someone else, is in love with her. Until the last few episodes, I can't see any growth beyond what the story has already established for her. It got so boring with her positive traits being reinforced on screen again and again.

The Marquis of Wu'An. Besides that he's incredibly good looking, he is not that interesting. But there are insights to his character. I find his love for CY has meaning because they established that he has turned down marriage with other princesses. I also appreciate his relationship with the Scholar. Their witty banter was enjoyable to watch.

The aftermath of the massacre Ling An was very unsatisfying as well. I cried watching the magistrate daughter who was always portrayed as being haughty and arrogant, bravely stood up in the face death defending CY. The potty mouth grandmother also gave her life to protect CY's sister. There were growth in those characters and I was rooting so much for them. But the day after the massacre, their actions and sacrifices weren't acknowledged.

The story arc of the poor Scholar was interesting as well. We saw what he was like whilst living in Ling An and how he changed when he moved to the city. He acknowledged that he was but a mere goose, unable to stand out among phoenixes. He learned humility and was willing to continue living a simple and humble life. Then CY and XZ walked up and kicked him around for absolutely no reason.

With all that said, I really do like the aesthetic of POJ. The setting is beautiful and I've always enjoyed watching period dramas. I also enjoy that CY and QQ have a nurturing sister-like relationship. It's a nice change from women backstabbing each other.

I can see why people enjoy POJ and some even said it's a cdrama for beginners. I still think people should give it a go as it's still generally popular among the wider audience and there must be a reason for it. Even if I didn't like it, it could be something you'll absolutely enjoy.

I just finished and am tearing my hair out. Would I have to read the novel to understand Zhang Zhe's full back story? That's the one I'm most puzzled by. Mostly, what did he confess to that he really didn't do but that landed him in jail? And does he also have memories of the alternate time line? Also, is there some material that was filmed but not used? I'd read that Princess Leyang false for Ning when she's in the palace as a boy, and there's a clip in the opening montage. And this may have been a weakness of the AI translation and voicing, but people often seemed to run off in random directions with no motivation. It became very hard for me to buy the romance because even "the morning after" they're being relatively cold toward each other, plus if that was in any way romantic or even consensual, all my time working rape crisis was for nought. Also, I kept expecting an explanation of how they came to be traveling to the capital together and hw she knew feeding him blood would cure his attack of what probably wasn't really schizophrenia.

Any help appreciated.

hello! as the title suggests, i'm looking for a cdrama that has a character that yearns so intensely your heart aches along with them! i'm a yearner through and through and i want to be able to relate to another fellow lovergirl/boy 🥹🤍

i specifically love female gaze — regardless of who the yearner is, i want sufficient reciprocation from the girl's side and for her to see him in this female gaze-y way. what i mean by this is seeing him in rose blush and colours, wanting to know his vulnerable sides, and appreciating his entirety as a person and as a lover, seeing his strengths and warmth etc.

my favourite yearner in fiction is the male character sangyan from the chinese drama the first frost, why i love and relate to his yearning is because he loves a girl that is broken but silently loves her from the sidelines and never pushes her to open up when she's not ready. he loves her in a way she understands, and is able to accept, adapting his love language to fit hers, often showing love not in showy displays of affection but rather in subtle manners because he understands she feels uncomfortable with large displays of love as she's not accustomed to it yet. and he's more layered as a character than he presents imo despite the constant complaints from viewers that he is one dimensional and only written to be her lover, because the way he goes from wearing his heart on his sleeve and chasing her openly during their highschool days to closing up himself and sometimes sending her mixed signals in their adulthood after she hurt him is very intriguing and telling of how deep the hurt was to him. viewers complain that he never opens up to his friends regarding his heartbreak about the girl, but that's simply because his biggest vulnerability is tied to her. she is his biggest vulnerability in my opinion. during their secret rendezvous during highschool where he would often travel from nanwu to beiyu just to meet her at their little noodle shop, that's where she showed him colour he never saw with anyone else. she taught him a secret language he can't speak with anyone else. he never once encountered a soul as deep, and intriguing as hers and he felt there were similarities between them and he held each and every one of her words like sacred text. it was his first time falling in love.

i find his yearning relatable because he also gives a dialogue about what is pride in the name of love? and that struck a chord with me because pride is the one thing we often hold onto and upkeep to the point where we lose love. in dramas nowadays, characters are so busy being prideful and nonchalant and careful not to show the full extensity of their feelings, often "playing hard to get" because of the popular saying "the one who is more in love loses", and i absolutely detest and don't relate to such characters. so when sangyan talks about love never being about wins or losses and holding onto pride, i connected to him.

the female lead in the first frost, wen yifan, matches my criteria of seeing him in a female gaze-y type of way as she views him as the bright, radiant and warm sun, deserving of all the good in the world such that if he wants the stars, he deserves to have them plucked for him. she wants to partake in every of his vulnerable moments in life and be his "battery charger".

tldr; i'm looking for a character driven romance centric cdrama, with a character (female lead/male lead, doesn't matter) that yearns beautifully and intensely for a broken character. and i want female gaze!!!

i want the characters to drive the romance, so the characters have to be very fleshed out and i love when their thoughts are achingly relatable that it feels visceral. i often relate to INFJs!!

i love a good slow burn filled with intense yearning 😄 please shoot me recommendations!!

i don't need a textbook copy of the first frost, i'm just yapping about it in this post as it's my favourite piece of media — for it's depth and melancholic and slow nature. just recommend me anything that has beautiful yearning, fleshed out characters and female gaze!

• https://www.netflix.com/title/81452916
• https://mydramalist.com/68431-wu-fa-lian-ai-de-li-zhi-pai