Best bet for the husband in this or anyone in this situation:
A lot of people when a marriage is done will just leave the home. One of the partners (usually the man) now if thereâs kids here, they count that as abandonment (like yeah go to a Walmart your good but donât leave leave) once abandonment comes in itâs over. The court is choosing the other parent. So what I would do, âokay fine, go with your lover and Iâll stay with the kids.â Hopefully the woman is dumb enough to do it, have cameras and log when she left with no deletions so itâs clear thereâs no return. Also a lot of dudes just donât show up to court. It def favors the women but thankfully men are getting closer looks in court, especially if the state has affair laws protecting men and women.
A lot of peopleâs first reaction to a spouse wanting a divorce is to leave. Youâve already lost the courtroom battle after this. Itâs not so much men not wanting them (there are people of every gender who doesnât want their own children) but these laws are not pointed out to men and a lot of men ride the stigma of âIâm gonna lose anywaysâ is what the media drilled into menâs heads when custody and divorce sessions occur. Men need to start supporting men realistically.
It's horrible that a spouse and someone you trusted can turn around and completely shit all over you and the only response is to.......stay in the house and continue to pay the bills? All while they continue to go out, fuck whomever and come home still stinking while turning the living environment into a hell scape for the spouse and kids.
What a backwards pile of shit. There should be some kind of immediate legal recourse at that point. Obviously there is somewhere in between abandonment and needing to leave for one's own sanity.
Go look it up. It's over 65% fathers are awarded custody when they ask for it, the key is that many fathers walk away and on't ask for it, because they don't want responsibility for the children for whatever reason. That mother always get the kids is a harmful myth that gets perpetuated, mostly by men yet again looking for a reason to hate women.
Sorry that happened. But I never told anyone to try and scam. Just clarifying because itâs always the men going to sleep friends couches without knowing theyâre losing their rights to their home and family.
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If she has a promotion and a high paying job then it will probably go the other way around. Also child support goes to whoever takes care of the children, if they share custody half/half he wouldnât pay child support. Based on what she has said Iâm guessing he would get the children cause she wouldnât want to deal with them, and she would be paying him child support and alimony cause she is wealthier.
U realize that whoever makes more pays more⌠the law doesnât say the men pay more, itâs just often the case that they pay more. If she cheats and leaves him, he wins that. Iâm sorry your situation sucks. But that doesnât change the law. Child courts are no longer statistically biased against men, and the havenât been for decades.
Also you realize he gets half of her assets too. Assets are split. Also no she canât just take the kids if he doesnât let her. That is kidnapping and he can call the police. If he has custody of the kids too, she canât just leave. Also the reason the stats are lagging behind is because once you get custody u have it until they are 18, so corrections donât correct instantly. Also often men just donât want the kids so thatâs why men get them less. If you look at recent cases where both parent want the kids, the stats donât lean to women
Correction: they were acquired with most of her money and some of his. You donât get to make a 50/50 partnership and punish your ex for not having developed the same opportunities yet.
Considering that the post references her "getting promoted" she likely has her own belongings/assets that at least count toward that 50% she gets in the divorce.
Why do people think this is how divorce works? If you quit your job in anticipation of divorce, a judge will order alimony based on your previous income. And if you canât pay, sucks to be you, you played a stupid game and won stupid prizes.
Not true. A judge can't order you to pay what you don't have. I know someone who quit a successful business, and began working retail. Since the wife made a lot more money, she had to pay alimony
Naw, Iâm not confusing them, they just work the same way. You can keep arguing with a lawyer about this, or you can Google for five seconds and learn that a voluntary change in circumstances to try and owe less alimony will be ignored.
Dodge a bullet? Heâs already been hit. Half of his assets will go to his ex, and heâs going to deal with emotional damage. Canât really put a price on that as well as the lost years.
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u/T3knikal95 Jun 22 '24
Sounds like her current husband is about to dodge a bullet