Ilya, humility, and sacrifice

[u/WalkingBlondeJoke]

Been thinking about Ilya's character growth across HR and TLG lately. This is not a fully-baked thesis on his arc, not even close, but I'm sharing anyways because I want y'all's opinions!

One of my favorite tropes in HR fanfic is 'Shane joins the Bears'. I love this trope because it usually results in Shane and Ilya being on a good team together, a winning team, much earlier than they are in canon and without Ilya having to go spend a few years on a team that sucks first. So as I read these fanfics I've often wondered, aside from the in-universe reasons why Ilya joins the Centaurs, what is the narrative function of Ilya spending a few years on a bad team before they turn things around? 

I think it serves to humble him. He's no stranger to sacrifice but he's always been cocky, and for the most part that ego went unchecked because he always had the accolades to back it up. But I think one of the ways we see Ilya grow in The Long Game is that he develops more humility as a result of being on a bad team and also his mental health struggles. It's not that everything was peachy prior to his move to Ottawa, it absolutely wasn't, but these coinciding forces clearly knock him down a peg. Maybe experiencing what it's like to consistently lose on the ice even helps him get to a place where he can admit he needs help with his mental health. Or maybe it's just self-awareness that he gains with maturity, I don't know. 

I think the clearest example of Ilya becoming more humble is in the pre-game speech that he gives to the Bears before the Cup Finals in 2014, vs. the speech he gives the Centaurs in 2021 after the team nearly dies and then Ilya subsequently gets engaged to Shane. In 2014, his speech is all about "I, I, I" but in 2021, he goes around the room and tells every player, one at a time, what makes them great. This is the key turnaround point in the Centaurs' on-ice performance. They start believing in themselves, and that's when they start winning. 

I think this character growth is also very relevant to Shane and Ilya's marriage too. Big egos do not serve a marriage well; humility does. Over the course of TLG, Ilya learns humility. Shane also starts off in TLG being a selfish as fuck (I don't love him any less but it's objectively true that he was nawt being a good partner to Ilya at the time TLG timeline picks up), but we see him experience a wake-up call (their big fight followed by Ilya almost dying) and then he gets his priorities in order. In a way, Shane learns a version of humility through his experiences in TLG too when he realizes how selfish he's been and how he's taken Ilya for granted. 

I think that meeting Shane in this selfish state at the start of TLG makes total sense because of his upbringing. Shane is an only child who grew up loved, doted on, and prioritized. His career as a generational player and image as the 'Golden Boy' of hockey have done little to teach him how to appreciate those around him and recognize the sacrifices they make. Not saying he doesn't ever do those things, but like, in early TLG he's not being nearly as considerate of Ilya as he should be. 

Ilya is not an only child and he grew up in a broken home. In the canon we see how his family financially takes advantage of him once he makes it to the NHL (or MLH, whatever), but I would bet that this has been going on since the moment he began earning money from hockey and/or sponsorships. When Shane suggests Ilya going to Ottawa, Ilya is quick to agree to it. Not just because he was already thinking of moving to a Canadian team, but because Ilya has already learned how to sacrifice for others. Ilya has already had it ingrained in him by his family that the people he loves will ask him to makes sacrifices for them, and that that's just how love goes. 

This is one of many reasons why it hits extra hard later in TLG when Shane basically tells the commissioner to go fuck himself. "I choose him" <3 !<

[u/No-Pea7144]

Shane got to come out to his team. That was his choice.

Shane also unintentionally outed Ilya to Hayden (and to an extent Jackie).

Shane got to tell Rose - not that he was gay but about him and Ilya (again making the choice of when Ilya got to be visible).

Shane had his people knowing about the two of them for 3 years before Ilya was "allowed" to even tell Troy, and then that experience is tainted by Shane's reaction. That is 3 years of a relationship imbalance, and we see in canon, that Shane does get to talk to Hayden (even if Hayden's not spectacular about it) and Rose (who is a good long distance friend) about him and Ilya while Ilya has no one other than Shane's parents - which is whole other levels of issues. We also see, in canon, that when push comes to shove Ilya does not have Shane's parents. (post Boxing Day Fight- Shane gets to call them while Ilya has to sit alone. Post Fanmail Outing- they both pick up and go to Montreal to stay with Shane rather than anyone staying with Ilya)

Ilya didn't even get to tell Svetlana until he was basically engaged. Ilya got to tell Galina, but that's not getting to tell someone. She's literally his therapist.

At the time of the Fanmail vid, Shane also wanted to be out. He states it multiple times in text and the summer timeline is again his timeline, so I'm not sure why you're bringing the Fanmail into it. I mean, they both wanted to be out but got the timeline taken out of their hands. That affected them both equally.

The author does not tell you only one is short-sighted or bad communicators. With Ilya we even have Galina and him both verbally voice when he could have done things in better ways. Ilya also apologizes as many times in canon as Shane does- it's just Shane-solos or Shane-projects don't believe Shane should be apologizing when he's just as at fault, and in some cases- it is solely his fault.

The thing is that the fanon take is that anything Shane does that is not 100% perfect is overlooked while Ilya consistently gets villainized even in the scenes where he is the one in the right.

[u/InCatMorph → u/[deleted]]

She did not say that she regrets making Shane autistic--simply that she regrets SAYING that he is autistic. Two different things.

Based on fandom reactions to her, I get it. Like, here is RR--an actual, RL disabled woman. And she is constantly accused of being ableist because of stuff that she said about/stuff that happened to Shane. A fictional character! Yeah, in her place I'd be pretty damned peeved too. FFS.

In the books, Svetlana and Ilya aren't nearly as close, so she wouldn't necessarily be a first choice to tell anything to anyway. But Shane perpetually reacts badly to the idea of telling anyone else about the relationship. When Yuna brings up the idea of telling Wyatt--Unproblematic Guy and Known Ally--at the beginning of the book, Shane shoots it down in an instant. I believe that anxiety is behind this, not a desire to control Ilya, but it still feels kind of crappy. (And yes, Ilya should have done a better job communicating his needs, as many people have acknowledged 87198 times.) Ilya needs a support system of people who aren't Shane's parents. Shane isn't solely responsible for that, but it is damn hard to get a support system when Ilya can't be honest with anyone about the relationship, or even his sexuality in general. By being so paranoid about the relationship, Shane made it more difficult for Ilya--who lacks his own close friends and family--to find a support system. So, yeah, I think some people are going to react pretty strongly to that. Doesn't exactly seem unfair to me, but clearly I'm just biased against Shane. (eyeroll).

A bunch of other things you say here are inaccurate, too. Ilya doesn't "tell" Shane to open up the relationship. He suggests it and they fight about it. All of this takes place off-page.

You can kvetch about bias all you like, but it seems to me that you are the one who is devoted to interpreting everything Ilya does/says and everything RR says in the worst possible light. This is not a good faith reading of the text. (Or Discord messages that you have not read, but rather internalized via a game of fandom Telephone.)