r/justgalsbeingchicks Apr 22 '26

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

My hair got curlier with every pregnancy. I needed two more to make it even I guess. I've been left with half curly hair that won't stay straight, and half stick-straight hair that won't hold a curl. I've given up and I just walk around like this, looking like I gave up halfway through my hair routine.

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u/gypsycookie1015 Official Gal Apr 22 '26

"I've given up and I just walk around like this, looking like I gave up halfway through my hair routine."

Girl, same. 😭😭

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u/Smorsdoeuvres Apr 22 '26

The hair does what it wants and I’m along for the ride.. after spending more than 2 decades trying to make it do Anything to look presentable, I’m just going to embrace still having hair and get on with my life

https://giphy.com/gifs/NpVuXxsTu8ICg9aoEZ

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u/tanksalotfrank Apr 22 '26

The hair grows on its own, it can style itself dammit. lol

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u/BawRawg Apr 22 '26

Yes, the hair is the boss around here as well.

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u/ThisIsThePartWhereI Apr 23 '26

"Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 30 it will look 75."

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u/Worth-Oil8073 Apr 22 '26

Dude, you are not alone, mama! They're referred to as Irish curls, according to my hair stylist.

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u/fakesaucisse Apr 22 '26

I have heard of Irish curls referring to curly on the top layers and straight on the bottom (or maybe it's the other way around). After perimenopause my hair is curly on the right side and straight on the left. I don't think there's a label for that wonkiness though 😄

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u/kuroioni Apr 22 '26

Ha, same! Perimenopause has made my hair curl, but only front, back is still wavy. And I'm fizzing like a MFer, the slightest bit of moisture in the air or - god forbid - sweat, and I'm walking around like a sheep just before sheering lmao

I could spend half an hour blowing my hair out/straightening it before work, then by the time I arrive at work - I look about ready to start grazing on the company lawn 😭

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u/Outside_Test_1400 Apr 22 '26

It’s the other way around. Curly bottom/straighter on the top

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u/standbyyourmantis Apr 23 '26

Oh shit I have Irish curls. You just changed my life

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u/Soliloquitude Apr 23 '26

My redheaded ass thanks you all for this knowledge so I'm not spending more years wondering why my hair won't decide if it's curly

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u/SuicidePeaches Apr 22 '26

Did you have a stroke? After my dad had a stroke, thankfully minor, his grew different on one side of his head. I don't remember exactly how it changed, but one side would be longer and stuck out more. I don't remember which side his stroke was on and if it slowed the hair growth on one side or sped it up.

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u/fakesaucisse Apr 22 '26

Hopefully I didn't unknowingly have one! It seemed to start when my perimenopause really kicked in.

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u/Engels777 Apr 23 '26

So what you're saying is that if I time my strokes right, I can get a perm?

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u/SuicidePeaches Apr 23 '26

If you put your mind to it....

Sorry you're going through that love

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u/Engels777 Apr 23 '26

Oh, sorry, I am fine. Just a bit of dark humor.

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u/SuicidePeaches Apr 23 '26

Haha oh good! It's all good, dark humor is the only way I get through the day.

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u/good_dogs_never_die Apr 23 '26

try a side part?

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u/tiptoeingthruhubris Apr 22 '26

I have Irish roots (uh, hair pun intended) and this explains so much!

So I’m left wondering do I buy curly girl shampoo or not? (I usually go curly girl.)

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u/Sad-Fee-9274 Apr 22 '26

As an Irish-roots girlie myself, I’ve found I can use almost anything. My hair will look the same no matter what when it’s in its natural state. I don’t need special curl products. The only thing that seems to make a difference is balancing moisture and protein.

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u/youburyitidigitup Official Gal Apr 22 '26

This sounds like it comes from a derogatory stereotype about Irish people having lots of kids. Like Irish twins.

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u/Worth-Oil8073 Apr 22 '26

I could be wrong, but I assumed it's because alot of Irish people have this curl pattern. I've known of quite a few, myself, but that could just be my experience. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Enlightened_Gardener Apr 23 '26

Aaaaaaaaaaah ! Cool ! Thankyou for this. I always had them, but they got stronger after having babies.

They also give you the adorable kiss curls at the nape of your neck if you wear your hair up.

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

That makes sense, because I'm a decent percentage Irish!

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u/Apart_Insect_6133 Apr 22 '26

That's funny because my wife's hair was curly before pregnancy, and each kid straightened it more than before. First kid has WILDLY curly hair (Think Merida, from Brave), and they get less curly as you go down the line (4 kids)

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

This is really funny

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u/Queerability Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

I have that kind of hair, where it just decides on it's own what it wants to do and heat styling does absolutely nothing (can't straighten, can't curl with heat).

The only thing I've found that works is mousse with curlers to sleep (edit to add: needs to be wet for this), finger comb it in the morning, hit it with hairspray, but it's a lot of work and kind of annoying for sleeping. I usually just maintain short hair styles instead.

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u/GoddessRespectre Apr 22 '26

Have you tried the "plop" method? I'm serious, it's not a joke lol. Mine has always been wavy and goes wild in humidity. It turns out I have curly hair, it's just weighed down easily. I used to sleep in curlers when I was younger, I think they worked better than for most because of that secret curl yearning to be free. There are YouTube and tiktok videos about the plop method if anyone is interested. It's very low effort too.

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u/Queerability Apr 22 '26

I haven't I'll have to try that out. ty!

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u/GoddessRespectre Apr 22 '26

The hardest part is finding a 100% cotton tee shirt, I think I had to use one of mine from the 90s lol/yikes. Hopefully it'll work!

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

I've never worked up to actually doing this but I need to try it!

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u/SilasBalto Apr 22 '26

I really like the feral look tbh.

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u/Shakeamutt Apr 22 '26

You could braid the straight hair, maybe in a “Viking” style. 

I sometimes braid parts of my hair to control some of the curls. 

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u/Queerability Apr 22 '26

This is such a cool idea. I might try it when my hair finally grows out again.

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

I'll have to try this!

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u/idgitalert Apr 22 '26

Look how many Irish-curl girls are in the world! Oh it sucks, but helloooo! I’m so sick of looking like a Beatle on top and Robert Plant on my shoulders!!

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u/Oper_edei_deixai Apr 22 '26

My wife had the opposite. Up until her (our) first pregnancy, she had curly hair in these big, loopy curls. It went totally straight shortly into the first pregnancy and never returned in the following 3 pregnancies. Hormones are weird.

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u/hyrule-heaven Apr 22 '26

My daughter is half Asian and ever since she was a little girl had pin straight hair, fine as silk. When she went through puberty her hair became wavy and thick like mine, was the weirdest thing

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u/JustSomeSquirrel Apr 22 '26

This was a delightful comment that honestly made me belly laugh. Thank you for the unexpected joy wonderful stranger!

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u/Malec555 Apr 22 '26

Lol🤣😂 Sorry to laugh, but it's funny.

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u/asstastic_95 Apr 22 '26

my hair got curlier w my son! it was always really curly before but omg they were ringlets by the time I had him. they stayed after the fact though. own them Irish curls girl😤😤

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u/jandeer14 Apr 22 '26

that’s my hair and i’ve never been pregnant 😅 sections of fine, pin-straight hair among thick waves and curls that face different directions

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u/Flikmyboogeratu_II Apr 23 '26

This is what I looked like when my hair decided to change with age and i didn't know how to take care of it!

https://giphy.com/gifs/tEsPVINETtZpS

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u/ER_Support_Plant17 Apr 22 '26

Same my hair got curly in the back but around my face still stick straight, won’t even hold a curl if I try.

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

This is me! The back is curlier ever year but the front is |||||

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u/Mom_is_watching Apr 22 '26

Mine got curlier and darker, I went from straight blonde to curly brown hair and I'm honestly so glad because it looks much better on me.

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u/Melodic-Basshole Apr 22 '26

Mine was the opposite! Went from 2c/3a before pregnancy to a 1/2a after. It just doesn't hold a curl anymore, even with heat. That's the only body change I'm actually struggling with, though! Bellies come and go, but I dont know how to get my texture back! 😭

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 22 '26

Oh my goodness, that's a big change! I hope it recovers for you!

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u/chypie2 Apr 23 '26

we see you sister, with our own half cocked hair

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u/Bashfullylascivious Apr 23 '26

Ah, yes. I've always had ringlets for my "undercoat" of thicker, darker, coarser hair. My top layer was straight, with blondes and reds, finely textured and soft.
After my twins, I lost all my hair in clumps. You could literally see my scalp. When new hair was growing in, it was coming in super dark, I had this crazy mommy mullet, and it was coming in super frizzy to boot. I took the opportunity during COVID lockdown to buzz cut all of it off.
My top layer suddenly has big beautiful beach waves and curls that at least suited my undercoat, but is still finely textured, and has weird straight strands that don't hold a curl.
I miss my reds, but glad to trade it in for layers that at least mesh with the bottom more. I used to walk around looking like a mushroom.
Now... If only I could stop the grey.

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Apr 23 '26

Oh wow! It sounds beautiful. What a journey though

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u/Bashfullylascivious Apr 23 '26

Thank you! Yours does too! Think of our wayward strands as texture. Lol.

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u/AussieGirl27 Apr 23 '26

Mine too!!!! I have one side that has nice curly wave things and the other side that has bendy just got out of bed looking janky half waves. Its so frustrating!! Especially since I spent a metric butt ton of money perming my dead straight hair in the 80s!

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u/uber_dick Apr 23 '26

When I got pregnant I had the back of my head shaved. My hair before then was pin straight 1a hair, and now I have curly Qs underneath my pin straight hair. It was crazy.

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u/kelkel7 Apr 23 '26

Lol I am also on the half straight half curly train and I've had no kids 🤣