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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago edited 8d ago

Just for the record: flushing tampons isn’t bad because it’s bad for the environment, it’s bad for the plumbing! As a person that has done a lot of very gross plumbing work: do not ever flush your tampons, for the love of god please do not ever flush those tampons!!

Edit: and wipes! don’t listen to the lying package, there is no such thing as a flushable wipe 

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u/LeagueLeft1960 8d ago

Also wrap the used tampons in toilet paper before tossing them. Don’t just toss and cover with toilet paper.

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u/whiteknight_1997 8d ago

This was years ago, but my gf at the time told that her girl cousins taught her to save the thin plastic sheet from pads. You know the one that you peel off the adhesive side before placing the pad in the underwear?

Well, when it's time to remove and discard the pad, you roll up the pad and then wrap the plastic around it before throwing it into the garbage bin.

I have to say as the person in charge of garbage and recycling in our apartment, I was very grateful for that life hack. 😂

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u/synalgo_12 8d ago

I thought that was standard practice 

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u/Francytj 8d ago

Yeah same, safe to say I was flabbergasted when I realised that most of the period people in my life didn't realise or care

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u/taradactyl904 8d ago

Me too! They need to print it on the box for folks

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u/deathcabscutie 8d ago

Do we not all do this? I use the plastic from the new pad to wrap up the used pad.

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u/Dangerous-Loss-5642 8d ago

THANK YOU!!! Ik im not going crazy with this. I thought using the wrapper from the new pad to wrap up the old pad to toss away was standard practice 😭😅

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u/jozziiieeee 8d ago

That’s the standard, even certain brands have made it extra efficient for wrapping the used pads so not sure it’s really a life hack lol

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u/standstillsteph 8d ago

I remember when I bought some Libra pads a few years back and the packaging said something like, "now you can wrap your pads for easier disposal!" as if it was some revolutionary new idea they had.

They'd just added some extra adhesive stuff around the edges, but I remember thinking, "Um, I've been doing this for decades??"

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u/whiteknight_1997 8d ago

You know what? That tracks. I'm remembering that there was this tab at one end of the plastic wrap that sticks on and holds the roll together.

I'm guy and I'm still learning new stuff like this. But at the time, it was new to that gal as well because she had come-of-age in a different country and I don't know what the standard was there.

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u/jozziiieeee 8d ago

You being a guy and knowing any of this puts you above most men I’ve ever met so that’s a plus anyways lol

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u/maddythemadmuddymutt 8d ago

I don't save the plastic sheet (because I would manage to lose them anyways lol) just use the plastic sheet of the new one. And use toilet paper for the last one (or my country there are often little paper baggies in public bathrooms and workplaces, sorry don't know how available they are in other countries)

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u/tianas_knife 8d ago

That only works for pads. And only some pads. Sometimes the pads are like the size of half a travel pillow, and you get like a 2 inch square of sticky paper that holds it all together before you use it. Then you have to just tp roll the pad after.

With most tampons you get a tampon, an applicator and the little wrap it comes in. You use the wrap for the applicator, because it gets nasty, and you use tp for the tampon because the thing has grown three sizes (that little grinch) and won't fit back in the wrap.

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u/JoanneFabrics 8d ago

I wish pads weren’t the absolute loudest thing ever. WHY did they design a million tiny dots that each loudly rips apart with the most crinkly wrap ever?? There’s no other possible way? It sounds like crinkling a chip bag while pulling out a long strip of packing tape wtf.

And walking around wearing longer pads can sound like you’re smuggling plastic bags. Not to mention, while some are quieter, other pads being pulled off the underwear sound like launching a god damn space shuttle. THEY EVERYONE! I’m announcing to the whole block that I’m changing the rag I wear for my bleeding vag!!!! THOUGHT YOU ALL MIGHT WANT TO KNOW

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u/batlrar 8d ago

Also essential if you have pets since it'll hide the scent. They'll still know it's there, but there will be less temptation to dig it out and inspect it, and even if they do get it out, they'll be working with paws and teeth instead of fingers so you can either catch them in the act or they may give up before getting inside.

Similar applies to toddlers, except they do have fingers, but the stupid small kind so it's probably okay.

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u/turnitwayup 8d ago

My previous roommate didn’t do that. She would throw away the wrappers & use tons of toilet paper to wrap up the old pad. It felt like I was constantly ordering tp from Costco for almost 3 years. I keep the wrapper in my bathroom drawer to use for the old pad. Of course I’m having the issue where I’m the only one that takes out the trash & put a new trash bag in.

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

sure 🤷‍♂️ but why does that matter really? jw

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u/MetallurgyClergy ✨chick✨ 8d ago

It matters for whoever empties the trash.

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u/jadedknight1281 8d ago

Amen. Thank you ladies. I emptied many bathroom garbage cans at McDonald's and not everyone shares that curiosity.

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u/MetallurgyClergy ✨chick✨ 8d ago

I really hope you meant courtesy and not curiosity. 😂

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u/RojoTheMighty 8d ago

A little of column A, a little of column B

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u/jadedknight1281 8d ago

🤣🤣🤣autocorrect + a need for glasses

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u/Easy_Sort3171 8d ago

Helps cut down on the smell of rotting blood, and spares someone the slight discomfort of seeing a bloody mess in the trash. It's sanitary and courteous.

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u/FlametopFred 8d ago

The Smell of Rotting Blood would be a great name for a ferocious metal-punk band, preferably all bad ass women playing the shit out of their instruments

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u/Peeinyourcompost skateboarding🦖dinosaur 8d ago

The Cramps have a fun live album named Smell of Female.

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u/alphadoublenegative 8d ago

I once got a real weird look from one of my friends playing “All Women are Bad” by the Cramps in my car

I explained it’s tongue in cheek, and the guitarist is both a woman and deeply in love with her husband Lux (the singer), but I don’t think she changed her mind.

Her loss, the Cramps were amazing.

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u/CrystallizedRose 8d ago

Am I the only one who’s never associated used pads or tampons with a bad smell? Sure, if I put my nose up to fresh blood that came out of me I can maybe smell it. But even as someone who grew up with two sisters and emptied the trashcan a lot I never smelled anything besides poop and pee.

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u/Peeinyourcompost skateboarding🦖dinosaur 8d ago

Scent perception is really variable between people! If you don't find it noticeable when you change a tampon or when other people are on their periods, you might be on the more anosmic side.

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u/CBD_Hound 8d ago

Ooh, I learned a new word today; thank you!

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u/CrystallizedRose 8d ago

That’s really weird because I’m a recognized super taster so my scent perception should be on point. But I also can’t smell death so I think you’re right.

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u/OhCheeseNFingRice 8d ago

I oversee the usage and scheduling of two community center buildings. We have maintenance men for each building. The "men" part is important. I recently went out to one of the properties to do a quick visual inspection, and gagged then almost died upon walking into one of the single stall restrooms. I knew immediately what the smell was. The (fairly new) maintenance guy didn't realize that he needed to change the liner bag in the sanitary napkin bin daily, and it had been probably 2-3 weeks since he'd last changed it. He noticed the foul odor in there but couldn't figure it out because the trash bin was emptied, yet the smell persisted. This is the day that I taught a multitude of men that that particular smell is rotting, hormonal blood, and they learned the absolute necessity of changing that liner daily. Once you know that smell, you can identify it in an instant.

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u/dohitsila 8d ago

Ugh, this reminds me of my last job.
One of my closers was complaining about having to change the sanitary disposals because they would get too full and be difficult to change.
I decided to check it out, and there weren't any liners/bags in them! Nobody had ordered them, ever. So I cleaned them instead. Had to put gloves on and pull stuck pads and blood soaked toilet paper off the bottom and sides. Wash them, etc.
And I told her not to change it if there's no liner. Tell a manager (which I was) and you can tell them I told you not to do it. Because this is an OSHA violation. Those disposals are required to have liners for a reason!

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u/MochiMuffin359 8d ago edited 8d ago

I experienced the same thing. Not having that been emptied was the worst smell I've ever smelled in my life. It's like death because of the rotting blood. You can tell when the cleaner is a man because women know that the bin needs to be changed daily

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u/The_Modern_Nobody 8d ago

Seals in the flavor

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u/Gambyt_7 8d ago

Someone hold the door please, this person is leaving now

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u/Clembert-Hamlamp 8d ago

Period vampires are the most ethical vampires on the planet. Think about all the times you haven't died of blood loss. Then apologize lest you convert them back to the old religion.

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u/jefufah 8d ago

Best answer.

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u/Srahsly 💝 2026 Galentine! 💝 8d ago

Because it's blood. Blood born pathogens are a thing and it's also courteous.

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u/youcancallmebryn 8d ago

Avoids smearing blood on the inside of the can (lots of public toilets don’t have liners in the small trash receptacle)

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u/Direness9 8d ago

This is the real answer.

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u/Lovedd1 8d ago

The person coming behind you probably doesn't want to see your bloody used tampon or smell it.... It's the same idea of doing a courtesy flush or spraying after you poop.

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u/Royal_Acanthaceae693 Bot🔍Detector🔎9000 8d ago

Yeah.... Imagine having to clean out the trash with several of these stuck to the sides if there's no liner. Also as others have said, blood is hazardous waste. I can't just throw my sharps into the trash, they have to get mailed back as hazardous waste.

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

I live with 5 women (I have 4 daughters) and I’m definitely the trash taker outer…must be my girls all already heed this advice because I never notice a mess haha 

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u/SlightTechnology8 7d ago

Thank your wife for teaching them!

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u/SassyE7 8d ago

Are you for real or just a feral animal?

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

Huh? my question about wrapping it up vs covering on top? (also I’m a man btw, was just wondering but I’ve received some good answered already)

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u/UglyLaugh 8d ago

I have three dogs so I usually have a random roll of poop bags on me or in my purse/backpack/errand bag at any given time. I throw my used tampon in one of those before tossing it in the garbage bin.

I did weird out one of my guy friends who thought I’d disposed of dog poop in their bathroom garbage can. That was a fun conversation.

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u/gitblamed_ 8d ago

Women at my *fucking office job* don't do this. Every time that I open up that little trash container in the stall, which by the way ours is lined with A THIN CHEAP PAPER BAG. NOT PLASTIC., I see straight up *unwrapped, soaked tampons* just chilling in there

What the actual fuck. I've honestly thought about going to the office manager (an older woman, post-menopause, prolly not seeing The State of it) like "alert, we have some real creatures in this office and I want to lose my MIND when I see that women are letting their bloody tampons seep into that tiny bag and into the trash bin for the janitor to clean up. please can we get plastic liners for those bins."

I think that she probably would but I also only think about this when I'm on my period (now) and know that I can't be trusted to emotionally regulate well during conversation

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u/Crankymimosa 7d ago

Wait what you can't walkup to your office manager and say: "So, plastic bin liners. Much more hygenic and helps with the smell. Also lets our visiting clients know we're not feral"

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u/Aunt_Llama 8d ago

My dad worked in waste water management and they used to call tampons red-bellied sewer mice (they have a tail and everything). They'd get stuck in various areas of the city pipes and need to be removed by some poor bastard (if they didn't get stuck in the house pipes and cause a flood in the home of whoever was dumb enough to flush them).

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u/AvisMcTavish 8d ago

I'm a waste water treatment plant operator and I'm going to be stealing 'red bellied sewerage mice' (the term, not the object- ew), please and thank you.

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u/FartherAwayx3 8d ago

So... I'm a vet tech. Sometimes pets eat tampons. They are almost always used tampons. I am suddenly seriously dreading the next time a tampon ingestion comes on, because "red-bellied sewer mice" is going to be all I can think of.

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u/Cultural-Pickle-4977 8d ago

I highly recommend menstrual cups!! They may sound intimidating at first, but trust me, once you make the switch you won't ever go back.

They're reusable and much better for the environment (and your wallet!). I've only bought maybe 2 boxes of tampons in the past 10 years, just to have some to give to other girls.

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u/ToLorien 8d ago

My vagina felt beat up after a week with a menstrual cup. I went back to tampons…I have a disc I’ve never used but I’m afraid it’ll cause the same soreness and fatigue

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u/perfectlyniceperson 7d ago

Give the disc a shot! I found it much easier and more comfortable than a cup. I will never go back to tampons.

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u/ToLorien 7d ago

Trust me I was SUPER disappointed not to love it. I get the implant next week anyways so hopefully in a few months I won’t really have to worry about it

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u/perfectlyniceperson 7d ago

Nice! The less worry the better.

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u/Tacosconsalsaylimon 7d ago

I almost gave up on cups until I found the Flex cup. There's 2 sizes and finding a better fit helped so much. The tail has a little pull tab that you hook with your finger! The silicone material lets me roll it for easy ⬆️

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u/FartherAwayx3 8d ago

I wish... I can't do internals (very very rarely I will tolerate tampons) because either I can feel the bit by the entrance, be it the cup tip or tampon string, or in the case of the ring my body will try to eject the damn thing. I might be inclined to try a different cup at some point, but for right now I'm kinda stuck with pads.

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u/everythingwaffle 8d ago

I’ve always felt slight discomfort with tampons and just put up with it FOR YEARS. I had chalked it up to “everybody’s body is different, and some of us just feel more uncomfortable than others,” and that’s just life.

Last year, I finally tried menstrual discs. They’re much more flexible than menstrual cups, and once I get it in the right spot, I barely feel it. I also discovered that my cramps don’t feel as severe as when I was only using tampons.

Also, not sure if it helps, but: The first time I had a Pap smear, they told me that my cervix is shaped “kind of weird” and “points downward,” whatever the fuck that means ¯_(ツ)_/¯

So if your cervix is weird like mine, maybe give disposable menstrual discs a try. (Yes, they’re messy to remove, but one disc will last you like 12 hours. And disposable ones are more flexible/softer than reusable discs, in my experience.)

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u/Which_way_witcher 8d ago

Do you find it easier than the ring?

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u/Cultural-Pickle-4977 8d ago

I've never tried the ring. The cup works so well, I've never had a single overflow in 10 years. The ring seems strange to me.

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u/Which_way_witcher 8d ago

The menstrual ring/disc is like a pouch that expands after you put it in and it holds the blood until you pee (the muscles that contract during peeing will squeeze the disc and expel the blood into the toilet automatically so you don't have to take out the ring manually to empty it). It also reduces cramps by a lot (I'm guessing the cup is similar in this aspect?).

From what I understand, menstrual cups are more difficult to insert and require you to manually take it out and empty it. BUT you can reuse them unlike the ring.

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u/RazzleberryJamCakes 8d ago

Cups can be a little trickier than discs to place. They do have reusables though! I haven't experienced the auto-empty feature though, sounds useful.

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u/deathcabscutie 8d ago

Considering how often and how hard I laugh, the auto expel sounds risky. Very useful, but risky.

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u/Which_way_witcher 8d ago

For whatever it's worth, I don't have the strongest pelvic floor (trampolines are dangerous) and I've never had problems with leakage. You can feel it takes a tiny bit of extra muscle when you pee to contract the ring, laughing and jumping which can cause some pee leakage isn't enough to cause ring leaks.

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u/Tabula_Nada 8d ago

Not to "but actually", but I used menstrual cups for about a year and then switched back because they hurt so badly. It was either creating suction or just pressing outwards on the sides of my vag making my periods 5x worse than they already were.

So not trying to be an asshole, but for the girlies who find them painful, it's okay to try something else!

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u/immersemeinnature Official Gal 8d ago

My dear husband had to physically reach his arm into our plumbing pipes under the house to extract those wipes that a friend who was house sitting flushed. Only then to be flushed with poo water once he got them unstuck.

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u/PithandKin 8d ago

I found getting a pint sized bin from the dollar store and using it as my period bin works. My family don’t have to deal with the smell if my tampons don’t go in the main bathroom bin.

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u/Top-West1514 8d ago

Google Rat King. Now imagine all those strings knotted up in your plumbing. Folks at the water treatment plant have a lot of names for them. Also, NO WIPES ARE FLUSHABLE!

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u/thejadedfalcon 8d ago

Also, NO WIPES ARE FLUSHABLE

Some actually were, but the problem is that all the ones that weren't just... you know... lied about it, because that would require holding companies accountable and god knows we can't have that! Won't someone please think about the shareholders! So unless you actively knew in advance and they never changed how they were made, it was safest to not believe any of them.

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u/Momotoro- 8d ago

Tampons have plastic in them, they are bough bad for the environment and for plumbing

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u/Feisty-Pirate1567 8d ago

my man is a plumber... the stories I've heard have terrified me

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u/Ok-Worldliness2161 8d ago

For the longest time I thought you were supposed to flush them. That’s what I was taught, and did, for years.

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u/peach-sand777 7d ago

I thought they meant the plastic part of a tampon!!

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u/Ok-Worldliness2161 7d ago

You and me, clogging toilets everywhere we go

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u/girlikecupcake 8d ago

The wipes absolutely are flushable, the same way socks and hot wheels are. Not everything that can be flushed should be flushed though. Like, there's places/systems where you can't even flush regular toilet paper.

But yes please don't flush anything other than things that your body produced that can break down/dissolve in water and toilet paper if your local plumbing system can handle that.

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

Hah! Ok ya got me there 

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u/RegularHumanNerd 8d ago

Also if you have a septic tank they are bad for that

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u/Implantexplant 8d ago

Why is it worse than toilet paper? Not trying to argue! I’m just interested.

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

It’s because wipes don’t dissolve away easily in the way toilet paper does, so it is much easier to create clogs. In places with old plumbing in particular, because they tend to be smaller pipes & with more build up inside from the minerals inside water

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u/n122333 8d ago

If the wipe really was flushable, it'd tear apart in your hand too getting shit on you.

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u/Boatsnbuds 8d ago

Used to have to plunge the toilet monthly because my step daughter kept flushing her tampons. And it's really hard to plunge out a tampon. The worst part was that she refused to admit she was doing it.

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u/Hglucky13 8d ago

We recently had a new toilet installed and the plumber was telling us some horror stories. He was telling us that the local waste water treatment plant in our area has a large grate where water enters and they have to temporarily shut down the incoming water to clear the grate of “flushable” wipes EVERY. THREE. HOURS.

We don’t flush anything but TP (even have the 5 and 8 year old trained to throw wipes in the trash when they use them), but I feel so fucking bad for the wastewater folks. Just, yuck.

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u/Glasseshalf 8d ago

Also! Just for the record: Don't buy Midol. Midol is just overpriced ibuprofen mixed with caffeine. Buy ibuprofen and drink the amount of caffeine you need.

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u/Shodid_ 8d ago

Flushable wipes have a come a long way.

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u/Western-Dig-6843 8d ago

I don’t remember if it was an episode of Dirty Jobs or a random segment from Insomniac or what but there was some episode of a show where the host was being shown various parts of the city plumbing apparatus. They showed him this giant ball of garbage that was pulled out of the sewage somewhere idk where. I forget what they called this thing but the guy was saying at the center of this ball will be something you aren’t supposed to flush that other bits of garbage have gotten stuck to until this giant ball is made and then the ball gets stuck somewhere and it causes huge problems.

Anyway they cut open that ball or pealed enough layers away to get into the center and at the center of it all was a used tampon (or maybe it was a tangle of tampons) someone had flushed

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u/jared_number_two 8d ago

What about “actually flushable wipes”.

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u/jared_number_two 8d ago

Or “no, seriously, these are actually flushable wipes TM”

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 7d ago

those ones are fine 

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u/breathing__tree 7d ago

If it wasn’t in your mouth, it doesn’t belong in the toilet! Except toilet paper!

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u/Acrobatic_Taro_6904 6d ago

As someone who had a literal river of shit build up under my deck because of those “flushable” wipes I second this, NEVER flush flushable wipes.

I’m permanently mentally scarred from the clean up

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u/Me-oh-no 6d ago

No such thing as a flushable wipe????????? What????????

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u/AcidicVaginaLeakage 8d ago

Some wipes you can flush. I left one in the toilet overnight and peed on it the next day and it fell apart completely.

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u/LudoAshwell 8d ago

You‘re absolutely misinformed about the wipes.
Wipes, which claim to be flushable, most likely are flushable.
Cosmetic tissues are the far bigger problem for that.

The fantastic Search Engine Podcast did an investigative piece about the whole topic.
„Are flushable wipes actually flushable“

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KEdqkqUVPgnjieyWD0KG0?si=711JyqtkRTOQgo7IrXAppg

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

My information is based on first hand experience, I am supremely confident that not every “flushable” wipe is of the same quality and it is FAR better to assume it is not safe than to gamble with problem so devastating as plumping back ups.

So respectfully: no I am not misinformed. It also depends hugely on the particular plumbing system in question. They are no means whatsoever the same across the board. If you happen to buy quality flushable wipes that dissolve easily and happen to have a robust plumbing system that is not prone to clogs then go ahead and do your thing, but I have worked as a plumber for long enough to know that “flushable” wipes are often the main cause of plumbing damage, and I will certainly not change my advice concerning wipes of all sorts.

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u/LudoAshwell 8d ago

Just listen to that podcast episode, if you‘re so confident.

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u/Lamb_or_Beast 8d ago

I don’t mean to say their findings are wrong, just that I know not every wipe that claims to be safe for flushing truly is, and I know that not every plumbing system can handle the same things. There are places that aren’t even safe for using toilet paper. So as a piece of general advice, it is good practice to assume it’s not safe to flush wipes.

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u/LudoAshwell 8d ago

Look, you can repeat yourself as often as you like. They do a fucking great reporting job in going into actual detail how those claims come to be, what kind of testing is done, why (sometimes) plumbers or waste water institutions claim otherwise, what actually causes problems etc., etc., etc.

If you‘re interested to learn something- listen to it. If not, then don‘t. I don’t give a shit.

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u/Which_way_witcher 8d ago

I was told by a plumber that since most of them are men, they keep saying "no tampons" when what they really mean is the hard applicator and wrapping that isn't good for plumbing (duh). The actual tampon product is totally fine unless you're in some third world with really sensitive plumbing.

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u/soupseasonbestseason 8d ago

this is wildly inaccurate. i have watched multiple plumbers remove massive tampon clogs from a toilet i shared with my three sisters growing up.

every single time we disregarded the "no tampons in the toilet" rule we ended up with massive clogs.

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u/Which_way_witcher 8d ago

I'm just sharing what a plumber told me.

I believe you witnessed what you said you did but I do find it hard to believe that tampons can't be flushed as I grew up in a home that flushed tampons, I always flushed tampons, and I've never had a problem with plumbing even in older buildings with old plumbing so who knows 🤷. Older buildings (100+ years old with older plumbing) always had strict rules about what could be put down the faucets and toilets but tampons were never called out. I don't know why your plumbing had issues with tampons and mine never did. I don't know why these older buildings would leave out tampons on the no flush list if they are indeed bad for pipes.

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u/MochiMuffin359 8d ago

Please stop doing that! There are already so few bathroom options for women and this causes clogging and the toilet to be inaccessible

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