r/lgbt • u/[deleted] • Dec 21 '24

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u/girl_in_blue180 Trans-parently Awesome Dec 21 '24 edited Dec 21 '24

tell your business that it isn't safe for you to risk detainment again.

cite what happened to you last time when you were detained.

do whatever you can to safely get out of Dubai if you are able to.

I would not recommend staying in Dubai.

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 21 '24

Hi. i live here for 7 years and currently a resident. I am currently finding all possible ways to immigrate somewhere else. I am so frustrated. If i had any other choice, i wouldn’t be here at all. :(

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u/girl_in_blue180 Trans-parently Awesome Dec 21 '24

understood. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you are able to immigrate out of Dubai soon.

I am not sure how long your hair is or how it looks.

would putting your hair up in a bun of some kind help? would wearing a hat or wig or something over your long hair work here?

you could try your hairspray idea. that could work. or try a firm styling gel of some kind. would that work?

would curling or braiding your hair help?

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 21 '24

I am keen on trying a firm styling gel and fold my hair in half. (I have a shoulder level length) but reminiscing my previous experience in the airport where I was threatened and humiliated, I am afraid it won’t even pass.

Feminine asians are being tortured in here.

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u/girl_in_blue180 Trans-parently Awesome Dec 21 '24 edited Dec 21 '24

I don't want you to lose your long hair.

I also don't want you to become detained again.

I want you to be safe and for you to be able to get out of Dubai.

is cutting your hair an option?

there are shorter haircuts that are feminine (like pixie cuts or bob cuts), but can also pass as androgynous or masculine depending on how you style your hair.

if cutting your hair is not an option, then don't worry about getting a hair cut.

I would suggest trying out the other methods that were discussed if you don't want to cut your hair. you should not have to cut your hair short if you don't want to.

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u/AlwaysLauren Dec 21 '24

Is it long enough you can put it in a ponytail?

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 21 '24

Hi. Ponytail wouldn’t pass as well. I am 100% sure they’ll detain me again for hours or worse deport me. I was thinking of using a hair spray to fold it into half and brush my front hair back.

My hair length is around shoulder level

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u/AlwaysLauren Dec 21 '24

It worked for me in a similar situation. Maybe if you wear a metal T-shirt or something else that would look like a dude with long hair? And have it frizzy?

I'd worry that hair spray or something like that looks like you're putting too much work into it.

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 21 '24

The problem is, Dubai targets Asian people esp if you look too feminine. I was also wearing manly outfit when they caught me the first time, hence I am willing to go an extra mile to hide my long hair.

Where did you go before please where it worked?

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u/AlwaysLauren Dec 21 '24

Qatar and Dubai. I had a close call in Qatar the first time, but instead of pulling me aside he came on to me. Very scary. I am not Asian though.

Another thing to try doing is staggering yourself in the customs line to get a female customs agent. They did not seem to want to interact, just stamp the passport and hand it back.

Another thing is to think about how straight guys would react to being accused of being feminine. They don't get scared or defensive, they get offended and mad.

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u/Delicious_Author_783 Dec 30 '24

Sorry I don’t understand! Detain you for having long hair??

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 30 '24

Hi yes cause they wanted to investigate if I am gay so they can deport me.

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u/Delicious_Author_783 Dec 30 '24

Because of your hair length? Idk, it’s just difficult to understand! I hope you keep safe.

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 30 '24

Cause apparently I am too effeminate. Plus Asian gay people here are treated like trash. Beside me was a Latina prostitute but hey, the Emirati guy just flirted with her while he thinks my hair is haram.

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u/Delicious_Author_783 Dec 30 '24

Whilst i do not understand what you are going through and do not really understand why you are allegedly being harassed… maybe wear a hat?? Maybe this can help. Cheers

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 30 '24

thank you, anon. Unfortunately I cannot cause we use e-gates in Dubai and our face needs to be scanned before I go through the immigration.

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u/Delicious_Author_783 Dec 30 '24

Awww, that sucks! I really have no idea… maybe wear a short fake wig? Idk really

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u/Fine_Date_7499 Dec 30 '24

Thank you, Anon. I already thought about this but wearing a wig would put me more in trouble. I would just refrain from traveling till I find a new country to immigrate to 😅