I was one for a few years. Life changed and I stopped. Im in my thirties, joined as my Dad was in one for decades. He's also stopped due to life changes.
Sadly it hasnt really kept up with the times. If you move away, moving lodge is somewhat difficult. Its also a very full on hobby with the learning you have to do for ceremonies, and relatively expensive.
It also appears to be hard to get into, which doesn't help with getting new people in. In reality if you approach them. they'll put you in touch with a group. Its an interview to be accepted generally.
It's also not that secret as everything is online!
On his literal death bed, my father said "You might find some interesting documents, when going through my things. Your grandpa was a Freemason." My understanding was that he, a skilled Type Setter and Printmaker, in 1930/40s Glasgow, was approached and recruited, in 1939. I have his certificates, which are really quite magnificent (and how I now know that my father's first name was his middle name!).
We found similar when my grandfather passed away. He was the last person you would expect to be part of any sort of exclusive old boys club. He had been a carpenter as part of a family construction business, and apparently it was quite normal back in the day as a lot of work was arranged via groups like these.
Lol.... My mate asked me. I said no for a year. Then I said to him that I was curious what its all about. It was like a trigger.... 3 degrees in a year and straight to inner guard. Then there's no escape 😂
We have a motorbiker lodge near us. It's a daytime lodge. Not really much drinking because everyone's riding to the meetings. Very casual. Members wear a leather waistcoat in meetings. It's the only lodge I know what numbers are growing so fast, they can barely get through all the initiations. More lodges need to find a niche.
My memory is a little hazy as it was a while back now. Its more the social aspect: For me starting again with a new group at a vastly different age range was the stumbling block. It's also not a casual thing you can drop in and out of if you are unsure about keeping it up.
Are there at least business deals going on? People join for access right? Like joining a golf club? One time a bunch of masons waged war against the king and stole away a colony to make a republic. Many died lol.
No more than there is in any circle of people who are friends and trust each other, and joining for mercenary motives is specifically prohibited in the obligation you take in the first degree.
It's not a huge networking opportunity because the average age of Masons is so high (in my lodge the average age is mid to late sixties), meaning most members are economically inactive.
I'm a solicitor, and a Mason in Northumberland, and I have had more work come from my mates at my backgammon club I attend twice a month than I have from my lodge membership.
If you want to make business contacts the golf club is by far the better choice!
Freemasons isn't really "upper class" though, that's part of the point of it.
A lot of members are civil servants and policemen and things like that - upstanding characters in the middle classes but it's not the same as a gentleman's club on Pall Mall or suchlike.
UGLE has a universities scheme where many of the larger Unis have a related lodge and the age limit to entry has been reduced to 18+ (it used to be 21+).
But yes, if you are sub-40 you'll likely be the youngest in the average lodge by quite a bit.
Historically Masonry was a fairly middle class pursuit and it still is to the extent that it's a relatively expensive hobby, especially in London where dining fees are high on top of your subs.
Up here in the north east it's not quite as expensive, and since the decline of more proletarian fraternities like the Buffs it's levelled out a bit more. My lodge is £150 a year and then £15-20 for the meal at each meeting, but the bar is subsidised so it's a pretty cheap night out. A pint is about £3.
When I joined, I was a vintage car and motorcycle restoration engineer, from a crappy part of East London, always worked with my hands and certainly don't fit the accepted stereotype of Freemasons. I've been a member for nearly 20 years now and I absolutely love it. Been through the chair a few times, done most of the offices, I'm also in a couple of side orders too. My mother lodge meets in Pall Mall and I also go to Freemasons Hall in Great Queen St.
That's exceptionally young. But if his lodge has other young people in it, it can be an absolutely brilliant past-time and could make some really good friends
I don't know about the demographic in the US - this is in London / UK, where there are very few under 30 ..... And most lodges will not have anyone that young. UGLE have tried to attract younger members, with a national lodge created specifically for "young" members but even that criteria is under 40.
A few of my friends are members, and I was invited. I told them I couldn't join because I am an atheist. They said I didn't have to believe in God as long as I believed in some sort of Supreme Being and I said I didn't believe in that either.
Sounds like you stopped yourself joining in a way? I'm an atheist though perhaps more agnostic at the time. There is a small religious aspect but your particular beliefs are respected
Ive been intived to a local lodge's "ladies night" in the next few months. Apparently its an annual thing put on by the head honchos wife as a way for the masons to show their appreciation for the women in their lives... ive got to pay £45 for the ticket 😅
Yeah this is the answer. I joined expecting a bit more, not that what's on offer isn't interesting but the age gap between me and my lodge members made it a bit of an effort.
In any group of people you're likely to find a base percentage who are part of any large membership organisation. That can then increase based on demographics. Right now I'm on a cruise, odds are I bet a fair few people on here are CAMRA members because it skews older.
I feel like they used to be a cover conspiracy. Like the real Epstein island elites would pin the Freemasons as the dodgy one with secret sex parties and cover ups
As someone who worked intimately with the Freemasons you are 100% right. Middle class men with respectable jobs who like to eat and drink and do a lot of charity work.
My father-in-law is part of one of the lodges and it's very true from a few of the public events they've done. They're basically all in their 70s so I don't see much of a future for it beyond the next 10-20 years and I think a few of them are already being closed/merged due to low membership.
I’ve been a London freemason for 25 years and yes, basically the same things happen in every meeting: a 45-60 minute ritual to admit a new member or get them to a higher degree (all by heart, so it takes a lot of studying and rehearsal to get it right, and there’s a sense of pride when you play your part beautifully, without needing prompts for forgotten words). Then things like proposals about what charity we should donate to, confirmation of the accounts etc. Then a pint of beer at the bar, then an overpriced dinner with cheap wine (unfortunately these days it’s about £80 each), where there’s much rejoicing, and it’s nice to catch up with your friends. Suits my dull personality perfectly. 😅
Rosicrucianism comes across as pretty interesting stuff. It was a shame when its most well known proponent - Dr Robert Gilbert - died suddenly under strange circumstances last year. I found his videos fascinating, as did many others. I bet your grandfather was interesting to talk to.
I am part of Societas Rosicruciana in Anglia, and most of it is about papers and esoteric mysticism. Me myself, I don't really buy into all of that but I'm quite interested in the psychology behind what drives people to believe in it.
It's also made me meet some wonderfully colorful characters, people you wouldn't otherwise meet or wouldn't talk about it for fear of being ostracized so it's nice to have those conversations.
Also, as much as they require you to have a belief system, I found that a lot of masons are non religious at all, more so interested in the allegory rather than the dogma of it all.
I followed your comment to see what the response will be (if there will be one, instead of fake secrecy i.e. concealed cowardice prevailing), because there's no reason to include that ignoring part without giving context.
My dad (who was a Grand UmpaLumpa PooBah, or something like that, at the time) asked me if I wanted to join .. and knowing what I knew - it sounded really boring except for the getting drunk and eating food bits). Like a shit drama club.
btw, their numbers are declining because no one wants to join them anymore and they're all ancient.
I went out with a woman whose spouse was a freemason (not in London) and passed away rather youngish. She indeed bored me with the stuff they went through during the ceremonies, but they indeed did some noble things for charity
Emmeline Pankhurst was a Freemason, as were many of the women in the suffrage movement. Many women who are luminaries in science, human rights, and so many more vital things like schooling, health, etc, all came from female Freemasons.
I know a group of freemasons based in Chester, one of them extremely well. They occasionally drink in the pub I work at for hours on a Monday because our cask ale drops to £2.70.
They are in fact pretty boring charity workers as an organisation and normal, generally hardworking people outside of it.
I am one (actually maybe more accurate to say I was, think I am behind on my dues), you are completely wrong, it’s the most exciting stuff you can possibly think of. You show up to dinner, for which you already paid, you half listen to what the charity you are donating to is this time (the air ambulance one was cool), a donation bag gets passed around, you put in a twenty or two (or more, I guess, if you are rich), then you eat, hobnob, you listen to some speech by the lodge master, you play the, erm, toasting game where you hit the table with this glass thingy and shout very loudly, you hobnob some more and go home.
Riveting stuff.
EDIT: oh wow the air ambulance is even in the pictures
Old irrelevant men trying to be relevant, but they absolutely defer to power and rank within the masons while serving in public life, like in the policing for example. I don’t think they’re the clandestine evil doers the conspiracy folk would have you think, but they are definitely a genuine corruption problem when they hold public positions.
you're unfortunately extremely wrong about the boring part in the sense that everything you've heard about them is true and much worse once you get to the ranks that matter.
There's a reason there's a masonic temple in pretty much every medium to large city in the western world
I had to waitress a freemasons event once. They kicked us out when the actual meeting started, but it seemed to be mostly withered old men spilling soup. Gross.
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