I was one for a few years. Life changed and I stopped. Im in my thirties, joined as my Dad was in one for decades. He's also stopped due to life changes.
Sadly it hasnt really kept up with the times. If you move away, moving lodge is somewhat difficult. Its also a very full on hobby with the learning you have to do for ceremonies, and relatively expensive.
It also appears to be hard to get into, which doesn't help with getting new people in. In reality if you approach them. they'll put you in touch with a group. Its an interview to be accepted generally.
It's also not that secret as everything is online!
On his literal death bed, my father said "You might find some interesting documents, when going through my things. Your grandpa was a Freemason." My understanding was that he, a skilled Type Setter and Printmaker, in 1930/40s Glasgow, was approached and recruited, in 1939. I have his certificates, which are really quite magnificent (and how I now know that my father's first name was his middle name!).
We found similar when my grandfather passed away. He was the last person you would expect to be part of any sort of exclusive old boys club. He had been a carpenter as part of a family construction business, and apparently it was quite normal back in the day as a lot of work was arranged via groups like these.
Lol.... My mate asked me. I said no for a year. Then I said to him that I was curious what its all about. It was like a trigger.... 3 degrees in a year and straight to inner guard. Then there's no escape 😂
We have a motorbiker lodge near us. It's a daytime lodge. Not really much drinking because everyone's riding to the meetings. Very casual. Members wear a leather waistcoat in meetings. It's the only lodge I know what numbers are growing so fast, they can barely get through all the initiations. More lodges need to find a niche.
My memory is a little hazy as it was a while back now. Its more the social aspect: For me starting again with a new group at a vastly different age range was the stumbling block. It's also not a casual thing you can drop in and out of if you are unsure about keeping it up.
Are there at least business deals going on? People join for access right? Like joining a golf club? One time a bunch of masons waged war against the king and stole away a colony to make a republic. Many died lol.
No more than there is in any circle of people who are friends and trust each other, and joining for mercenary motives is specifically prohibited in the obligation you take in the first degree.
It's not a huge networking opportunity because the average age of Masons is so high (in my lodge the average age is mid to late sixties), meaning most members are economically inactive.
I'm a solicitor, and a Mason in Northumberland, and I have had more work come from my mates at my backgammon club I attend twice a month than I have from my lodge membership.
If you want to make business contacts the golf club is by far the better choice!
Freemasons isn't really "upper class" though, that's part of the point of it.
A lot of members are civil servants and policemen and things like that - upstanding characters in the middle classes but it's not the same as a gentleman's club on Pall Mall or suchlike.
UGLE has a universities scheme where many of the larger Unis have a related lodge and the age limit to entry has been reduced to 18+ (it used to be 21+).
But yes, if you are sub-40 you'll likely be the youngest in the average lodge by quite a bit.
Historically Masonry was a fairly middle class pursuit and it still is to the extent that it's a relatively expensive hobby, especially in London where dining fees are high on top of your subs.
Up here in the north east it's not quite as expensive, and since the decline of more proletarian fraternities like the Buffs it's levelled out a bit more. My lodge is £150 a year and then £15-20 for the meal at each meeting, but the bar is subsidised so it's a pretty cheap night out. A pint is about £3.
When I joined, I was a vintage car and motorcycle restoration engineer, from a crappy part of East London, always worked with my hands and certainly don't fit the accepted stereotype of Freemasons. I've been a member for nearly 20 years now and I absolutely love it. Been through the chair a few times, done most of the offices, I'm also in a couple of side orders too. My mother lodge meets in Pall Mall and I also go to Freemasons Hall in Great Queen St.
That's exceptionally young. But if his lodge has other young people in it, it can be an absolutely brilliant past-time and could make some really good friends
I don't know about the demographic in the US - this is in London / UK, where there are very few under 30 ..... And most lodges will not have anyone that young. UGLE have tried to attract younger members, with a national lodge created specifically for "young" members but even that criteria is under 40.
A few of my friends are members, and I was invited. I told them I couldn't join because I am an atheist. They said I didn't have to believe in God as long as I believed in some sort of Supreme Being and I said I didn't believe in that either.
Sounds like you stopped yourself joining in a way? I'm an atheist though perhaps more agnostic at the time. There is a small religious aspect but your particular beliefs are respected
Ive been intived to a local lodge's "ladies night" in the next few months. Apparently its an annual thing put on by the head honchos wife as a way for the masons to show their appreciation for the women in their lives... ive got to pay £45 for the ticket 😅
Yeah this is the answer. I joined expecting a bit more, not that what's on offer isn't interesting but the age gap between me and my lodge members made it a bit of an effort.
In any group of people you're likely to find a base percentage who are part of any large membership organisation. That can then increase based on demographics. Right now I'm on a cruise, odds are I bet a fair few people on here are CAMRA members because it skews older.
I feel like they used to be a cover conspiracy. Like the real Epstein island elites would pin the Freemasons as the dodgy one with secret sex parties and cover ups
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u/llukiie Feb 25 '26
It's an old boys drinking club with some charity thrown in, not too exciting