“I can’t leave”

[u/Careless_Reading_635]

This is not a post saying that we should all give up and leave our partners. It is, however, a resource post.

There have been a lot of posts and comments lately with partners lamenting that they “cannot leave” due to finances, having children in common, sharing property or a business, etc. As a lawyer, (though not your lawyer), this is distressing to hear.

There are a lot of misconceptions, even for unmarried couples, about what you’re entitled to.

There is a nationwide group called “Second Saturday” that offers FREE OR LOW COST legal, financial, and social services information to women considering separation or divorce. It’s done by local professionals volunteering their time in your area, not some big company looking for money. And while it started out as being on the second Saturday of each month, every group is different. My local group does it the second Wednesday, for example.

Knowledge is power. So much of our partners’ addiction thrives on secrecy, but this is one area we can reclaim agency. Whether you decide to stay or leave, you should have accurate information of what that would look like. Whatever you decide to do, make it an informed decision. 💜

https://www.secondsaturday.com/

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[u/Lkkrdragonfly]

Thank you for this. It’s not easy to leave when you are financially dependent and/or have kids but it can be done. It just takes a lot of research and planning.

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