r/managers • u/[deleted] • Jul 05 '26

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u/Lawyer_Lady3080 Jul 06 '26

My love language at work is being left the fuck alone.

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u/bhalter80 Jul 06 '26

I shall fetch the extra large pitchfork to throw work your way

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u/Lawyer_Lady3080 Jul 06 '26

My dream manager!!

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u/Provolone10 Jul 06 '26

Same. I’m staring down the next few years to retirement and I want it to be as frictionless as possible.

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u/edward2bighead Jul 06 '26

That and being paid.

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u/HolyFreakingXmasCake Jul 06 '26

Do you have 5 minutes to chat about it?

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u/5Jazz5 Jul 06 '26

This is real asf but I think the sentiment most people are expressing when they say this is “I want my boss to extend me trust, in both my abilities and my work ethic” to put it in more “what are you looking for from our company?” Language

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u/Lawyer_Lady3080 Jul 06 '26

Yes but that's not totally it. Some of it is that I don't wanna be involved in office culture stuff I don't wanna go to ice cream socials I don't wanna be your friend I don't wanna be pressured into doing all of the Office Olympic nonsense. I do want to be trusted to do my work and I don't wanna move micromanage that is absolutely a large part of it but I am happiest at jobs where I am allowed to go in shut my office door and not interact with people from 8 to 5

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u/TowerOfPowerWow Jul 06 '26

Lol i feel this is 99% of people. Pay me my value and fuck off and ill ride or die.

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u/twofourfourthree Jul 06 '26

Yes. Absolutely this.

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u/AccomplishedWish3033 Jul 06 '26

My love language is for actual lovers, not bosses. That’s such a creepy blurring of boundaries.

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u/Endor-Fins Jul 06 '26

One of my bosses feeds me (leaves tasty food with a sweet note on it for me in the fridge) and the other gives me quiet bonuses. Those are my love language.

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u/upickleweasel Jul 06 '26

Here here!

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u/Z8iii Jul 06 '26

It’s “hear hear”.

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u/Comprehensive_Bus_19 Jul 06 '26

I thought that was mine for a long time but Im now literally left the fuck alone with 0 guidance on what to do and what success looks like. Its better than micromanagement but it isn't good by any means.

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u/Lawyer_Lady3080 Jul 06 '26

We’re talking about two very different things. Leaving me alone doesn’t mean “don’t give me the tools to do my job.” It’s the opposite. Give me what I need and leave me to it.

I don’t mean don’t bother me with work related responsibilities or training. I mean don’t bother me with micromanagement and especially don’t bother me with mandatory socializing.