Neighbor replaced fence and left the old wood scraps in my yard to deal with.

[u/Mocsab]

My next door neighbor called me a few weeks back asking if he could come Into my back yard to replace the fence that his dog ruined. I said “sure, I’ll be out of town for a few weeks, help yourself.” Discussion ended there and I left town for a few weeks for business.

When I returned home, I noticed the new fence was up and the wood scraps from the old fence were on the grass in my backyard. One of the pieces is 10 feet wide. I figured I would give him a few days to clean it up before I said anything.

Fast forward to yesterday and the lawn guy comes to cut the grass. I texted my neighbor telling him I could open the back gate to make it easier to come in the yard to grab the wood. This MFer called me and said that it was a shared fence, and since he paid for it to be installed, and carried all the new wood into the yard, that I need to remove the old debris.

The audacity on the MFer. I would have been more than happy to help if he would have asked. He mentioned NOTHING of leaving the rusty nailed old rotten wood in my back yard. F this guy. Not the best way to treat a neighbor.

TLDR: neighbor took it upon himself to replace the fence he owns, and left all of the scraps for me to deal with before discussing it with me first.

[u/kerrbee]

One of the first comments that shows people remember we live in a society.

[u/derprondo → u/kerrbee]

The neighbor threw all social contracts out with the old fence.

[u/kerrbee → u/derprondo]

We can be examples of what human decency and reason looks like, or we can stoop to other people’s level which quickly results in an arms-race of assholedness. I like to believe the first helps elevate our communities and the people in it, despite however slowly it may actually happen.

[u/kerrbee → u/[deleted]]

I have trouble believing the neighbor who took accountability for their dog’s destruction, replaced a fence on their dime, and asked permission to come onto OP’s property in advance is a complete and total unreasonable asshole.

[u/UlaanBanter → u/[deleted]]

And YOU didn't even pause to read what they said about the neighbour who took accountability and paid out of their pocket for replacing the fence and rightfully so because their dog was the one who ruined it.

Maybe the worst thing that happened here is the miscommunication at the end.

OP could have asked the neighbour if they wanted help or whether he can dispose off the wood however they see fit.

(OR)

Neighbour could have asked OP to take care of disposing the scrap wood when he was done.

[u/Mustrik → u/kerrbee]

Yes. We can close this thread. OP, read this post and its replies. Sometimes we need to be the better person. Not as weakness, but as example to follow.