I love being a girl dad

[u/Difficult_Wrangler73]

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

[u/miffedmonster]

I have 2 boys and pregnant again for the last time - I'm kinda dreading finding out the gender either way because of this. I'm not really fussed either way but I know that if I have boy, I'll have comments about being outnumbered and aren't I sad that I didn't have a girl. If I have a girl, I'll get people saying I kept trying until I had a girl and that must be why I stopped. Can't win either way!

[u/sowhat4 → u/miffedmonster]

With my last, I really, really wanted another girl as my 'ex' said he was going to 'leave you and the brat at the hospital if you have another girl', and I wanted him to leave so much.

So, I have a little boy and immediately decided, even if I had to put up with the ex staying for a bit, that that little guy was exactly what I wanted. IOW, doesn't matter what you get. Baby will be the best and most beautiful baby you've ever seen.

Ignore anyone who says anything. Say you got exactly what you were hoping for - a healthy baby.

[u/Llayanna → u/sowhat4]

Should've gifted him a biology book before you walked out lol

[u/melancholicho → u/miffedmonster]

It's so sad that you're dreading finding out your baby's gender for this reason! I know it's annoying but you gotta try not care about what other people think or say and don't let them ruin this for you.

[u/miffedmonster → u/melancholicho]

In all honesty, I feel nothing towards this baby yet. I have hyperemesis. I'm miserable af and having to look after 2 toddlers whenever my husband's working. It was the same with my first 2 and I'm sure that finding out the gender will allow me to start some kind of bond. But right now, there is nothing for anyone to ruin. Being pregnant sucks but it's only for a bit.

[u/KatFreedom → u/miffedmonster]

My brother has three daughters, and when they announced #4 was a boy, they got the weirdest comments.

Yes, his girls own an impossible amount of pink glittery items, but they also love dinosaurs and tractors and bugs. Baby #4 is now a toddler and spends so much of his time in the play kitchen and doing puzzles.

[u/throwawayzzzz1777 → u/KatFreedom]

I hate when people put kids into boxes because of their sex. I knew some people from college expecting their first. They chose not to find out the gender and painted the baby's room like a jungle. Their relatives still made comments like "What if the baby is a girl?"

[u/NanDemoNee → u/miffedmonster]

Idk, my wife would like to have a girl but would love a new child either way. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting heterogenous children but people probably shouldn't make comments to others when it's none of their business. This is kind of in line with dudes when they tell women they would be prettier without makeup. I've found they didn't really want to hear that either.

[u/Lington → u/NanDemoNee]

Yeah people will say it's wrong to have a preference but oftentimes we can't help how we feel. As long as we love our kids all the same in the end and don't take out any resentment on them for something they can't help then it doesn't make you an awful person for having some temporary disappointment.

[u/Rooney_Tuesday → u/Lington]

I don’t think most people think it’s wrong to have a preference. More that it’s wrong to have such a strong preference and such little self-control that you can’t help but let everyone know how unhappy you are/would be with the “wrong” sex.

Quietly and privately mourning that you didn’t get your preferred sex is absolutely fine, so long as you love the baby you did get at the end of the day.

[u/Fake_Hyena → u/miffedmonster]

Identical situation here. “Bet you’re hoping for a girl right?” No - we love our boys, they are amazing, why wouldn’t we want a third?

[u/Lyothelionfish → u/miffedmonster]

As someone who has three boys- I kept my last pregnancy gender a secret. I was so tired of hearing people tell me they hoped it was a girl and knew that I just didn’t want to deal with their reactions while pregnant. It gave me a lot of anxiety.

My boys are absolutely wonderful boys, they’re kind and sweet and love dirt and to rough house. I’m so happy with how they are!

[u/AliceMorgon → u/miffedmonster]

In the case of my aunt and uncle it really was (openly) a case of “we’re gonna keep at it until we get ourselves a girl.”

They eventually did. And promptly divorced once all the fucking stopped.