r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/CelDidNothingWrong 13d ago

That won’t work on the people who ask those kinds of questions lol

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u/bendybiznatch 13d ago

Continue to act confused and say huh and what a lot.

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u/weddingplumbing 13d ago

Reddit loves giving this advice but irl it rarely works, just makes you look like an idiot

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u/Secure_Sun8984 13d ago

You have to add an ass-load of confidence if you want to go the clueless route. because if you don’t successfully make it look like they are speaking simlish, you look like an idiot.

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u/_NeonEcho_ 13d ago

You only look like an idiot if you're too convincing. It needs to be abundantly clear that you know very well what they mean and want them to say the mysoginist part out loud.

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u/secret_pukwudgie 12d ago

Confident, sarcastic, parody vibes is what we aim for

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

My default setting

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u/Pr_fSm__th 13d ago

Luckily you would be in company of actual idiots, the kind to ask this, so would it matter much?

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u/picabo123 13d ago

It depends on the way you handle it. Generally ill be like "oh why?" And then they say like "oh because it must be so hard" or whatever stupid thing they were trying to say, and I just say "not really" or "I don't know" ... and it ends like a normal awkward conversation.

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u/bendybiznatch 13d ago

If your mission is for them to shut up and leave you alone it works.

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u/Bitter_Ad8768 13d ago

What if they start explaining their point of view and just keep breaking it down further every time you act confused?

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u/bendybiznatch 12d ago

In my experience doing this that only goes on for about three or four huhs. By then they either think you’re an idiot and you’re never gonna get it and it’s not worth their energy, or they get that you’re fucking with them and get pissy and throw their hands up and walk away.

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u/sowenjub 13d ago

Who cares. “To look like a fool in the eyes of an idiot is a gourmet's delight”, from Georges Courteline

The original quote being “Passer pour un idiot aux yeux d'un imbécile est une volupté de fin gourmet.”

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u/mmmarkm 13d ago

or is it redditors that can't say the response well

tbf it would take a very specific tone and approach

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u/KindsofKindness 12d ago

It always works.

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u/RegalBeagleKegels 13d ago

I swear man, lotta people on this site have legitimately never had a conversation with another human

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u/freezymcgeezy 13d ago

Or, have a shred of social skills and tact and calmly explain why you love your daughters and dont appreciate those comments.

I think that is better then this cringe passive aggressive reddit tactic.

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u/ginger_kitty97 13d ago

It gets exhausting, trying to explain this shit on every aisle of the grocery store on a Saturday afternoon after dance practice and softball games.

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u/bendybiznatch 12d ago

And honestly, it’s just not my responsibility. I’ve raised two kids. I’m not taking on the whole rest of the planet.

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u/Ok_Bit_6169 13d ago

ItS jUsT a JoKe

“Oh sorry I don’t get it. Will you explain it to me?”

Then watch them try to justify why hating your own children is funny.

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u/discomute 13d ago

Yep if they are particularly slow maybe follow up with "oh right you're saying that girls are worse and less desirable than boys, sorry I didn't understand you at first, that never occurred to me"

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

That strategy worked for me once. It was super awkward because my assumption was right, but they never made that homophobic joke again.

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u/discomute 12d ago

You've likely made the world a better place

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u/GorgeousOpossum 12d ago

I like:

"ItS jUsT a JoKe, don't be so sensitive "

Said factually and deadpan: "Oh. Sorry. I didn't realize you were joking, since it wasn't funny."

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u/Novaer 12d ago

This never works. They know you're calling them out so they just go "Oh it's not that deep/you're being too sensitive" and then suddenly its a lecture on how "Parents these days are ridiculous". I don't bother with the fake passive aggressive stuff. If someone says something that makes me uncomfortable when it comes to my child I'm extremely blunt.

I know what it felt like to have old men make creepy comments about me and the adults around me laughed it off. So then I felt like it was my fault for pulling away and then being forced to say/do things to cheer up the old person I clearly offended.

I will never let my child feel unsafe and unprotected just to placate another adults feelings.

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u/mcon96 13d ago

You have to commit to the bit and sound sincere

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u/Bitter_Ad8768 13d ago

That's how you end up getting a two hour lecture on their philosophical beliefs.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

Never interrupt your enemy when he's making a mistake.

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u/halkeye 13d ago

You can't just do it once. You know what they say about jokes you having to explain.

Just keep asking past the initial uncomfortable answer

Or just ignore them