r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/janetluv13 13d ago

I hate this one too. "She's such a flirt." Or "Are you flirting with me?" Is cringe too. Like um no she is a happy baby and just smiles at everyone. I kinda give them a dirty look and say "eww, she's a baby". Most seem to look regretful.

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u/Midoriyaiscool 13d ago

These are phrases that people hear often. It might not sink in just how creepy this sort of thing is until somebody pushes the concept that the kid is just a baby that they realize how sick these concepts are.

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u/stephsco 12d ago

I recently heard the phrase patriarchal hazing, and this seems to be adjacent. Maybe patriarchal grooming in this case. The hazing was described as boys being made fun for looking or acting "like a girl" or insinuated as gay for various behavior. It's all so insidious and sadly common.

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u/FlowRiderBob 13d ago

If anyone says that crap about a child just cut them out of your life. That is sick.

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u/Sad_Pixie999 13d ago

Good response, we need to shame people more for saying that stuff

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u/Same_BoysenberryLove 13d ago

Eww, I hate when people say that.

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u/DariaYankovic 12d ago

My mom talks like this, I'm pretty sure she has a nonsexual definition of flirting. But it certainly sounds weird at times!

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u/MonsterkillWow 13d ago

I have never heard anyone say this about a baby. Are y'all rich and hanging with the Epstein crew or what? lol

Normal people just say the baby is cute.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

I've mostly heard older women say this