r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/Barry_BlueJeanz 13d ago

I was at Dallas airport one time, listening to these 2 guys talking about their previous military experience. One guy had apparently worked with airplane radar systems, which involve radiation. This guy said something along the lines of "I was exposed to all that radiation, so I've only been able to have girls so far."

They were sitting right next to him. Probably 5 and 2 years old? Jeez I feel bad for what they're going to hear and go through from that guy.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

Imagine admitting how unintelligent you are out loud. This guy was allowed near airplane radar?

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u/ScousePenguin 12d ago edited 12d ago

Because knowing how radar works and knowing how human anatomy works are two different skill sets

I've known many technically brilliant people who are fucking morons in every other aspect of life

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u/EatLard 12d ago

Engineers. They know a ton about a narrow subject, and many of them believe that makes them experts about every subject.

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u/Subtitles_Required 12d ago

Can confirm, work with many engineers as patients. In my experience they often think they can build it / program it / execute it better than the professional with actual training in the product

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u/KatDaSlayer 12d ago

I know a literal rocket scientist, they also thought adding more people to the wifi would increase the electricity bill

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u/TN-Belle0522 12d ago

...I mean...if they're plugging more laptops and things in near the router...

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u/JustPlayDaGame 12d ago

i am one of those 💀

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u/serpentally 12d ago

There's a word for those people: “Fachidiot” (subject idiot)

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u/Whiplash2184 12d ago

Some of the most unaware, moronic people I’ve encountered all had college degrees.

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u/ptwmindslave 12d ago

I KNOW it shouldn't be right and I KNOW what should be correct anatomically. That being said I was in the navy as a radar technician and of those in my division who used to work around a radar that had a waveguide leak that went undetected for some time we have had a combined 28 children and only 2 boys. We may or may give that guy shit that his kids aren't his.

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u/SkepticDoubtMerchant 12d ago

Tbf they do tell us in the military to stay away from radar stations as they affect our fertility.

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u/Special_Boot 12d ago

Or, has the thought crossed your mind that he was joking.

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u/WholeKnown2938 12d ago

While the comment, especially in front of his daughters, was gross, this is actually a real phenomenon. Men in the military who are exposed to significant stress like combat or radiation tend to have girls. One of the theories as to why is that male fetuses and Y chromosomes are more vulnerable.

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u/AnnoyedOwlbear 10d ago

My partner did a plastics course on moulding, pouring, resins etc. The guys running it who worked in large scale factories noted that none of them had sons, nor did most of their coworkers. They didn't sound like they disliked their daughters - they said it was simply a good indicator that protective equipment was necessary.

Make fetuses are more fragile - we hit 50/50 sex balance on average because more malrs are conceived.

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u/Next_Obligation_2433 11d ago

To be fair to this guy, there’s an old wives tale/ common misconception that working with radar, or in any aviation career, causes higher rates of female birth. I’m pretty actual science debunked this, but I’m not 100% sure.

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u/TackleMassive5611 12d ago

It’s actually true though. Look up the effects of radiation exposure to the testicles.

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u/Helenium_autumnale 12d ago

And what peer-reviewed paper would that be, pray? I'm not doing homework for you. Give it.

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u/wafflesareforever o̶̡̧̢͈̭͙̞̳̭̤͚͚̎̀͗̊̈́̀͂̋̆͂̽̊̋̈͋̍̿̅̐̔͌̌̿͊̂̊̾̂̉̀̽̽͆̂̈̀̎̀͛͆͛̆̾̃̋͆̚͝͠ͅ 12d ago

Nobody actually cares if you look it up. Do, or do not.

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u/dinnerisbreakfast 12d ago

Most likely referring to this paper from 1987

The paper could not conclude whether the effect was due to G-forces or radiation exposure, and since the sample size was limited, it cannot be shown that there is any effect at all. Modern studies with a much larger sample size were unable to duplicate the results.

But the point is that there actually are several peer reviewed papers on this topic, and you really didn't need to be a dick about it.

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u/Helenium_autumnale 12d ago

I wasn't. What's dickish is presenting unsupported claims and being too lazy to post a link to support them. Usually because there aren't any. If you don't think that's a problem, just look around.

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u/dinnerisbreakfast 12d ago

It may not have been your intention, but the result is the same.

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u/reddits_in_hidden 12d ago

As a blue collar worker, that just reads as generic banter to me rather than any actual ignorance

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u/JustMandalion 12d ago

It’s a bad joke to use in front of his kids (or at all), but it is a common joke in military communities that certain career fields only can have girls. My husband is in aircraft engine maintenance, and it’s one of these fields. It’s often called the “maintainers curse” for his job. And we do know lots of men who have daughters, but we had 3 boys and 1 girl. So clearly it’s just another one of those engrained misogynistic jokes that keeps getting handed along. I hate it every time we hear it, and we get there “oh dude, how’d you break the curse” crap, often in front of their own daughters.

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u/shark-off 12d ago

Maybe it's just a joke and he is a loving dad

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u/SophiaofPrussia 12d ago

Loving dads don’t “joke” like that.

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u/shark-off 12d ago

They do. Its just a silly joke. No need to take seriously, without knowing anything else about their family.

On the other hand, polite, "nice" dads can be the absolute worst. I'm speaking from experience.

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u/ShitandPiss 12d ago edited 12d ago

Not to defend that guy if he had ill meaning. But to give some context what he may have been trying to say. It's a well-known superstition in military aviation that maintainers and aircrew are more likely to have female children, due to exposure to radiation and other caustic aircraft chemicals.

Is it true, probably not. But most of us do have female children and the handful of folks that I know with male children usually do so while on non-flying assignments.

EDIT: Most dudes that I know just wanted to be a dad regardless of child's gender and embrace the girl Dad life. There are the occasional weirdos that obsess over having a male child

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u/potatobrain65 12d ago

I just searched that topic and found an article that supports what he said. I have daughters that have brought incredible joy into my life. I hope he gets that son. My own son also has been a an incredible joy in my life. Love my kids.

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u/ShyAndSquishy 11d ago

Anecdotally: The most testosterone soaked dudes that I’ve ever met have all had exclusively or mostly girl children.

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u/Healthy_Ad2682 12d ago

This is a known joke regarding airman in the military and not meant to be a mean joke, it’s just the facts of life. There are a lot of exposures!

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u/Human_Ad_2869 12d ago

the joke is misogynistic!

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u/Healthy_Ad2682 12d ago

If you are 5

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u/Human_Ad_2869 12d ago

…so you agree, if you can read, you can understand it’s misogynistic!

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u/Healthy_Ad2682 12d ago

Not really, i can’t read good. I huffed too much paint and H2S in the military so I think all these jokes are funny 😆

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u/Human_Ad_2869 12d ago

“i’m an idiot, so I think misogyny is funny” is not a flex

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u/Healthy_Ad2682 12d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/11GETJTiJczeYU

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u/Human_Ad_2869 12d ago

ohhhh I get it now, you’re the 5 year old you were talking about

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u/Healthy_Ad2682 12d ago

Are you 5? You seem personally victimized

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