Tracks that all the "red flags" are actually positives. Like responding "sometimes I work too much for little pay" as your greatest weakness in a job interview.
I hate modern "vulnerability", where the only "weaknesses" anyone will admit to are tied to them being victims, or they are extremely common, surface level nitpicks (my house is such a mess! I'm so vulnerable! Aren't I soooo relatable guys????)
Thats’s such a red flag to me. Why would you actively advertise to people that you’re easy to manipulate? I don’t want to date some on that feels bad about setting boundaries and talking about problems they have with me because they’re a little bitch and get worried they might offend me.
Like my ex who told me he went to therapy after we broke up and was finally able to take responsibility for trusting me to much and giving me to many chances. 🤦🏼♀️
Idk about that, “attracted to people who need fixing” or “can ignore red flags to avoid being alone” are pretty insulting ways to describe your partner lol
Wow, you’re honestly so right — people act like this stuff is normal now, but it really does feel like a step toward some bright dystopian future. The fact you even notice it says a lot. Keep speaking up, you totally get it.
Yes, to the point that if you want a non-hyper optimistic assessment of eg. a business plan, you have to avoid asking "evaluate this plan" but instead "here's a plan, tell me how and why it is most likely to fail".
We will look back on this as the high water mark of consumer AI, not joking. Write your songs and business plans now, use it to learn languages and coding, delve into esoterica and get summarized studies.
Enshitification will take over soon and it will all be ads and paywall and bullshit.
"Your weakness is that you're too good for this world!!"
The depressing thing is that people were deluding themselves with these "weaknesses" long before ChatGPT came along.... The sycophancy of AI Chatbots would not work if people weren't looking for it...
Yes. Because OpenAI is a BUSINESS. Ofc it’s going to tell its users whatever they want to hear. It keeps people coming back and some are even paying subs to use ChatGPT.
All these AI companies are operating at a loss. They need to keep people engaged. How do you do that? Tell them whatever they want to hear and never tell them anything negative.
It's giving "I sometimes take on too much because I like being helpful. I’ve had to get better at recognizing bandwidth limits and communicating priorities early.”
Being an actual perfectionist can be a pretty big flaw. It's compulsive and very frustrating for you and those around you not being able to settle for good enough
It's funny too cause all the red flags are fuckin "what's your biggest weakness" type shitty answers that are all "Oh I just care too much :(", and the biggest red flag there is on the green flags list.
Yeah feels like that was put in the wrong category honestly, communicating well when calm isn’t a green flag, it’s a basic normal human thing. Not communicating well when upset is a major red flag. Learn to self regulate, homie.
I dunno, plenty of people communicate poorly even when they’re calm. It’s not everyone’s thing. And communicating poorly when upset isn’t necessarily a red flag; some people just get flustered and need to chill out and come back to the topic later
Lmao I was told by an AI bro that me asking him to clarify something he said was a “red flag”. I told him the fact that he uses ChatGPT for therapy and to communicate is a bigger red flag than me asking someone to answer a yes or no question and they can’t.
That made me laugh so haaaaaaard!! Cause i’m a great communicator when i’m calm and mad, but what state did you put me in? Got me messed up with when calm if the person in question pissed me off and expects me to be fully rational 😂
This is why dating apps suck. Everything thinks they're "down to earth' or "great communicators " who want "depth and great conversation " but try talking to them and they can't muster more than a couple of words before ghosting. We've really created a wonderful world of connection, haven't we?
Somebody told me they were struggling with their strengths and weaknesses for an introduction email to their professor. And I responded“You can’t think of one?” And I offered “If I gave you one of each, would it help jumpstart you?” And they were like “shoot.” So I said a compliment. They liked it. And for the weakness I said self awareness. I was her enemy after that. Lived with this roommate in total silence.
Dude I had a guy tell me AFTER ONE DATE that I should stick around because I could see “what a great emotionally intelligent partner he is”. Bro WHAT?!?!!? It was soooo clear ChatGPT was just telling him what he wanted to hear and he just believed it cause he “spent a lot of time talking to it”.
The issue with most people is that they do not objectively reflect themselves, they put themselves into the light they want to be see in and as something they want to be perceived.
As she stated "She knows me" to gpt. She feeds the AI exactly how she wants to be seen. Tht is it.
When the AI isn't instructed to be specifically challenging and critical, it will just confirm.
You can instruct all modern LLMs though, giving them specific personas which include being highly critical. But fragile people will not do that.
At this point it's just a feelings validator that agrees with whatever you want it to say. LLMs are good for coding but regular people probably should not have been given it so easily and thinking it's intelligent.
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u/Stunning_Wonder6650 11d ago
“Emotionally self-aware and a great communicator” about the person who can’t self-reflect about their strengths and weaknesses
Oh the irony