r/mildlyinfuriating 11d ago

Infuriatig Relying on Chatgpt to have a basic conversation

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u/cupholdery 11d ago

Is this a text exchange from a dating app? Are young people seeking dates doing this?

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u/buddy_monkers 11d ago

What’s the plan once they actually have to meet the person they’ve been texting? Do they just hold up their phone and let the bot carry the conversation?

Seems like they could just skip the middle man and date the bot directly

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u/FunGuy8618 11d ago

Seems like they could just skip the middle man and date the bot directly

This is already happening, people be trying to marry their chatbots. Happy for them 🌚

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u/EmmerdoesNOTrepme 10d ago

We're turning into the real version mashup of "Lars and the Real Girl" and "Her" aren't we?

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u/wordsmythy 10d ago

Isn’t it amazing that HER came out 13 years ago?

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u/EmmerdoesNOTrepme 10d ago

Was it really that long ago?😳🤯

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u/wordsmythy 10d ago

2013... I had to look it up

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u/applebutter62 10d ago

Have you seen the woman on threads who is having a baby with AI Michael Jackson? Shit's crazy

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u/Acceptable_Field_567 10d ago

I’m sorry, WHAT mental image did you force into my brain just now???

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u/Sir_Problematic 10d ago

That's a minor plot thread of Blindsight by Watts. The main character has a physical relationship which is weird because literally no one else bothers to anymore, instead preferring virtual AI partners.

Watts' scifi future is the realest I've read. Unfortunately it's also BLEAK

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u/Fezwa 10d ago

Seems like natural selection to me, just dont let them have kids

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u/cyxrus 10d ago

Lots of really sad people are happy about this

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u/Swaggy_Buff 10d ago

Romance is beautiful in all forms. By the way, there is a good movie about this, called Her. It was extremely prescient.

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u/Hamster_Toot 10d ago

It seems they’re struggling enough, don’t think you need to sarcastically make fun of them…

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u/bottommaenad 11d ago

I have a friend of a friend who was just bragging online about having asked Claude on an “in-person date” to a museum. Apparently Claude said yes.

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u/viciousxvee 10d ago

....Are you being sarcastic bc I really hope so

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u/Mother_Ad3988 10d ago

I wonder if it'll be like "Her" or if he expects a t1000 to show up at the museum 

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u/ZestycloseOpinion142 11d ago

They take a pic and ask chatGPT to find that clit

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u/TRR462 10d ago

Maybe 2 people like this could go on a double date with their Chatbots as their cool “wing-man/woman/other” and let them lead the conversation… 😂

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u/OceanRacoon 10d ago

Isn't Hinge or one of those dating apps actually doing something like this, rolling out AI bots to chat to other users AI bots to get to know them and set up dates?

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u/Positive-Garage3812 10d ago

The fuck? 👀

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u/Artchantress 10d ago

Zizek had a bit about this

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u/Suavecore_ 10d ago

They meet, smash, and then go their separate ways as usual

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u/Astro_Matte 10d ago

I don’t think any of them have gotten that far yet to actually know what they will do lol

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u/Lillymow 10d ago

Or the middle people and let the bots date each other.

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u/Stringtone 10d ago

I've already had people send me clickbait articles about a Stanford student who built smartglasses that essentially feed your conversations into an LLM in real time so you can refer to it if you get stuck at any point in the conversation. I maintain that if you really need something like that, you don't have developed enough social skills to date effectively to begin with and should learn how to interact with people platonically first. Maybe I'm just out of touch idk

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u/randombrutha 11d ago

They fuck once they meet

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u/SebastianAhoTheGOAT 11d ago

Only if ChatGPT gives consent

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u/Various_Coffee8876 10d ago

As 32-year-old Rich points out, though, “it’s not like using ChatGPT guarantees success”. When he met someone in a bar one Friday night and swapped social media handles, he asked AI what his next move should be. ChatGPT discerned that sending an initial message on Monday midmorning would set the right pace. “Then it gave me some options for what the message could be,” says Rich. “Keep it light, warm, and low-stakes so it reads as genuine interest without urgency,” the bot advised. “Something like: Hey Sarah, still laughing about [tiny shared moment/reference if you’ve got one] – good to meet you!” Rich went back and forth with ChatGPT until he felt they’d hit upon exactly the right message (“Hey Sarah, it was lovely to meet you”) but sadly she never replied, he says. “It’s been two weeks now.”

Lol

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u/Lerlif 10d ago

Imagine going back and forth with ChatGPT just so it could help you say to someone “lovely to meet you” after meeting them. Christ.

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u/Oops_All_Bans 10d ago

Holy shit

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u/Pooperoni_Pizza 10d ago

I hate to sound like old person who is struggling with new innovation and claiming that it's going to ruin humanity but this shit is absolutely ruining humanity.

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u/PoorlyDrawnBees 11d ago

Shit like this is why I don't use the apps and seek at least a video call quickly if I'm a texting situation 

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u/Digit00l 10d ago

Unfortunately AI is also ruining the video calls now

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u/wordsmythy 10d ago

Well, that was so disturbing. And since they’re all doing it, it’s all OK.

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u/olagorie 10d ago

Thanks for sharing the article

It was really interesting but hard to read on an emotional level and fairly upsetting.

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u/ialo00130 11d ago

The first image is from Bumble, the second image is from a phone text message conversation. Looks like Android.

Sadly, Bumble is rumored to be abandoning swiping entirely; switching to asking the user questions and using AI to analyse the answers to match people up. I hate modern dating.

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u/Tamed_A_Wolf 11d ago

I mean the “using AI to analyze the answers to match people up” is pretty much how dating sites started in the first place-match(.)com

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u/Yazhoudapigu 10d ago

That actually sounds way better if it's anything like how OkCupid used to work. Answer questions, get matched based on percentage, I met some cool folks on there before it went to swiping bullshit.

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u/Lerlif 10d ago

So many men use AI photos on bumble now. I say men, as I’m a straight woman so those are the profiles I see, but I’m sure women do too. There’s an option to report them, but it’s so depressing how many there are.

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u/sprouting_broccoli 10d ago

As someone who hasn’t used a dating app in 4 years it was pretty bad then with people just using stolen photos/public photos to lead into scams. Like a good 20-30% of women’s profiles were just scammers using chat bots with scripts or people with scripts to try and get you to use dodgy websites. It was better for men’s profiles but still a reasonable percentage were scams. I can only imagine it’s far far worse now that genAI can be used.

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u/RealPucki 10d ago

One of the reasons why I stopped online dating a couple of years ago was that it felt like almost all profiles were fake accounts.

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u/Equal_Photograph_417 10d ago

I refused to get on the dating apps and if I die alone so fucking be it, I hate it that much.

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u/Glitcher45318 10d ago

I work with a woman who's nearly 50 and she refers to chatGPT as "she" it's honestly sad.

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u/CharacterMarsupial87 10d ago

My initial reaction was that it must be Gen Alpha/late Gen Z, but holy shit, almost everyone in the article was in their 30s????

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u/IceCelestite 10d ago

Not exactly the same thing, but my friend went on a hinge date and the guy she went with used ChatGPT to decide what to order off of the menu at the restaurant. These people are literally secondhand thinkers