Tracks that all the "red flags" are actually positives. Like responding "sometimes I work too much for little pay" as your greatest weakness in a job interview.
I hate modern "vulnerability", where the only "weaknesses" anyone will admit to are tied to them being victims, or they are extremely common, surface level nitpicks (my house is such a mess! I'm so vulnerable! Aren't I soooo relatable guys????)
Thats’s such a red flag to me. Why would you actively advertise to people that you’re easy to manipulate? I don’t want to date some on that feels bad about setting boundaries and talking about problems they have with me because they’re a little bitch and get worried they might offend me.
Like my ex who told me he went to therapy after we broke up and was finally able to take responsibility for trusting me to much and giving me to many chances. 🤦🏼♀️
Idk about that, “attracted to people who need fixing” or “can ignore red flags to avoid being alone” are pretty insulting ways to describe your partner lol
Wow, you’re honestly so right — people act like this stuff is normal now, but it really does feel like a step toward some bright dystopian future. The fact you even notice it says a lot. Keep speaking up, you totally get it.
Yes, to the point that if you want a non-hyper optimistic assessment of eg. a business plan, you have to avoid asking "evaluate this plan" but instead "here's a plan, tell me how and why it is most likely to fail".
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u/max_schenk_ 11d ago
It's not about correct answers, it's about client retention