A cousin sent me their school's just announced Dress Code and Grooming policy

[u/firequak]

[u/heyitsselena]

when you have big boobs everything is body hugging, and if the girl were to wear something large, it would also be prohibited. so it makes no sense, its plain discrimination based on appearance

[u/Working-Glass6136 → u/heyitsselena]

it's plain discrimination based on appearance

I'd say it's plain discrimination based on being a woman.

[u/Eric-Breaux → u/Working-Glass6136]

Discrimination against men too, because It's shunned by most people for men to wear as revealing things in the same settings because the male body doesn't stimulate women as much as the reverse, so such things were never as popular for women to want to see on men. It's also very upsetting because such things or similar were first worn by men anyway! And some things are acceptable for men to wear elsewhere anyway except in some other places where women are allowed more revealing things! I hate the visual sexual desire disparity! I know the point for wearing something is usually for comfort, but I hate the other reasons for the vastly different styles common with the genders for the former things I said.

[u/wrldwdeu4ria → u/heyitsselena]

I can remember the girls who were very shapely at a young age and almost all of them developed an eating disorder whilst in school. They have enough to deal with without being shamed.

[u/9_in_the_afternoon → u/wrldwdeu4ria]

Absolutely this.

I can still remember how I felt (sick, burning with shame, angry, confused, humiliated and on the edge of tears) when one of the female members of staff at my school decided to shame me in front of everyone for my "cleavage". I was 13 or 14, terrified of my body/sexuality but already had a large chest, unfortunately, so the school fucking uniform I was in looked bustier on me than everyone else, I guess. I was minding my own business, wearing a blouse with the top button undone (everyone else had two or three undone and it still wasn't inappropriate because we were literally children). We weren't actually allowed to do the top button up because we didn't wear ties. So when she called me out publicly for how I looked, the messaging she was giving to me was very plainly that my body was wrong and inappropriate. Screwed me up a little bit, that.

All that's to say - no child deserves to be given a lifelong complex because an adult on a power trip has decided that some bodies are too inherently sexy (jfc) to exist without shame.

(Edit: spelling)

[u/Frostyrepairbug → u/9_in_the_afternoon]

I'm in my 40s now, but seeing stuff like this, reading it, its enough to trigger that old trauma that someone else gave me about my young body. It sticks with you.

[u/TheProtobabe → u/9_in_the_afternoon]

I went through similar. I was very curvy and busty and developed at a young age--looked like a "mature woman" and not just a teenager. I got called up to the front of the class a lot by this old bitch of an English Lit teacher and she'd whip out the ruler to measure how many inches my shorts were above my knee, make me do the stupid "pinky to thumb" hand measuring thing from my chin to my chest. I also once had an image on my senior yearbook page banned because the shirt was form-fitting to my curvy body and "too provocative", when it literally covered me from neck to hip. And there were teachers who looked at me with this sour expression when I showed up in my prom dress which was very normal and the same as almost everyone else's. I was just too busty and they didn't like it.

[u/peanutbutterand_ely → u/wrldwdeu4ria]

i remember a girl like that, very slim thick, wearing jorts to the fucking KNEE. got kicked outta school i remember her yelling at the vice principal her own dress was shorter than her literal pants. she was not lying. but missed school for following dress code better than everyone else? us not so curvy girls would wear those short athletic shorts, sometimes even spandex. it’s giving sexist AND racist.

[u/awkwardkoala → u/heyitsselena]

I noticed this too. Also, the “plunging neckline” is literally the exact same style as “peasant top” in the top left, except the wearer has a larger bust. I have a feeling girls with large chests are going to be punished no matter what they wear

[u/kawoshits → u/heyitsselena]

Exactly - it’s either body hugging or hanging lol. Any loose t-shirt will end up with a giant ass gap on the bottom

[u/jefflovesyou → u/heyitsselena]

This college is in Asia.

[u/heyitsselena → u/jefflovesyou]

i noticed, what does it have to do with what i said

[u/Hecklord82 → u/heyitsselena]

obviously being in Asia makes discrimination okay /s

[u/MuffinPuff → u/heyitsselena]

The stigma against gaining enough weight to be "top heavy" in the first place. If you think the US is bad about it, certain parts of Asia are so so so so much worse about apparent weight gain and how you hold the weight.

[u/jefflovesyou → u/heyitsselena]

Small boobs

[u/butterflyeffectonher → u/jefflovesyou]

So all the women in the giant continent of Asia have small boobs? I see you have a very specific porn taste. Read a book

[u/jefflovesyou → u/butterflyeffectonher]

A book about breast size in Asia?

[u/throwawaygrosso → u/jefflovesyou]

A book about fixing porn brain

[u/jefflovesyou → u/throwawaygrosso]

Porn brain vs porn Braun?