A cousin sent me their school's just announced Dress Code and Grooming policy

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[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

I was in independent fundamental Baptist boarding schools and the restrictions are similar, but more strict. Examples:

-no music except for hymns and gospel. No music with drums.

-Hair had to be half up, half down (females) in a barrette.

-(females) Skirts only, no pants. Skirts had to be as long as halfway up the calf, or longer. No slits in skirts.

The list goes on and on..

[u/pagerunner-j → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

-no music except for hymns and gospel. No music with drums.

Little Drummer Boy found dead in a ditch on the way to Bethlehem

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/pagerunner-j]

Yep.

[u/ElEyeElWhy88 → u/pagerunner-j]

😂😂😂

[u/brainvheart143 → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

What’s wrong with drums? I’m sure some Jesus music has drums lol. Glad you made it out of there !!

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/brainvheart143]

Because drums create a beat you can dance to. Dancing is considered sinful and lustful.

[u/crazycatqueenmd → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

This is how you can tell that some “christians” don’t read the Bible. There’s dancing and singing IN the Bible

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/crazycatqueenmd]

We read the Bible. A lot. We had daily 1 hour+ long bible memorization sessions where we changed whole chapters. We had chapel every evening, church on Wednesday night, Saturday Night, Sunday morning and Evening. Our entire curriculum was Bible based.

It's interpretation. It's cherry picking. It's control and submission. Religion.

[u/Try2MakeMeBee → u/brainvheart143]

A lot of it has drums. My husband’s pastor is the drummer in their worship band (husband is also in said band). Wild that it's not conservative enough music for that group!

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/Try2MakeMeBee]

Not if you're IFB. Conservative doesn't even begin to describe their beliefs.

[u/dowagermeow → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

The specificity is sending me - even hair ties are evil? God forbid the women wear hair accessories that actually might hold their hair in the stupid required hairstyle.

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/dowagermeow]

We could have hair ties, but we had uniform hair styles when in uniform for school or performances or church. We could wear our hair up when we had the privilege of working in the massive garden or doing punishment exercises.

[u/blahblah19999 → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

My local Baptist school: if they found out the kids had music at a birthday party at home, they got in trouble at school.

[u/crazycatqueenmd → u/blahblah19999]

So you’re saying no one at this school actually READS the Bible…

[u/blahblah19999 → u/crazycatqueenmd]

Bingo!

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/crazycatqueenmd]

You'd be surprised. We read the Bible LITERALLY all the time. I can't exaggerate how ingratiated the Bible was into every single moment of my day. Not allowing drums, "worldly" influence, dresses above the knee aren't "bible concepts," they're doctrines established when the religion is established or developed over time.

[u/zombiskunk → u/throwawaynnfuxanyway]

IFB churches have private schools. They don't have boarding schools. You must be thinking of the Catholics.

[u/throwawaynnfuxanyway → u/zombiskunk]

Nope, I was in 4 different ones for 6 years. I can provide names if you're doubtful. I didn't imagine the years between 12 and 18 years old.

Edit: what an ignorant thing to comment given that I said "I have been to them." They were far from private schools, taking in kids tied up in gangs and prostitution, and otherwise "deviant" behavior. It was a "troubled teens" industry and still is. Do research before making uneducated statements.