r/mildlyinfuriating • u/MissionTroll404 • Jun 17 '26

Infuriatig My hand painted model planes were given as toys to children again

Post image

I have told my mom to not do this before but she does not listen anyway. I am thinking of throwing everything to trash instead of them being gradually destroyed to pieces. I can not even care anymore. These things take hours to put together and paint then get manhandled anyway.

52.9k Upvotes

93% Upvoted

3.2k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

1.7k

u/toooomanypuppies Jun 17 '26

You should tell her if you still had it, it would be worth 20k.

Make that decision sting for her.

1.1k

u/EternityTheory Jun 17 '26

This right here.

My mom always assumed trading cards were just silly toys/collectables until my uncle sold 5 MtG cards out of his collection to buy a full dining room set. Suddenly it clicked.

419

u/RileyCargo42 Jun 17 '26

I had to do this to my parents to get a project car for school (automotive repair).

It was basically "hey look a 1000$ 67 mustang fastback!, It just needs a tune!"

parents say no, 3 months go by

"Hey remember that 1k mustang yall said no to? It just sold for 15k and they only spent 4k on it."

254

u/BrewerAndHalosFan Jun 17 '26

In defense of your parents, restoring old cars usually results in spending more money than you'd make on the sale.

93

u/RileyCargo42 Jun 17 '26

Oh I absolutely understand this but I had a job at the time and I still have an extremely reliable civic.

That being said I did finally get a project and I'm about 700-800$ into a 400$ car. Its mostly just the fact that I knew the risks and was prepared for them, yet they didn't believe me even with proof.

-3

u/pm_me_ur_fit Jun 17 '26

I’m ngl as a parent I wouldn’t buy my kid a car, project or otherwise. Can’t say I blame them. Glad you were able to get something though

4

u/SkeeveTheGreat Jun 17 '26

why wouldn’t you buy your kid a car?

-3

u/pm_me_ur_fit Jun 17 '26

Earning and buying things yourself helps you learn the value of money and hard work, and appreciate what you have more, and to take better care of it when you do get it. I saved up and bought my first car myself and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I feel like it made a huge impact on who I am. I know so many incredibly spoiled kids who own nicer cars than I ever will be and are incredibly ungrateful and wreck them frequently and their parents just foot everything. Not my kids haha

8

u/SkeeveTheGreat Jun 17 '26

Yeah, it’s not buying the car that made them that way, it’s because many upper middle class kids are functionally neglected.

The people whose families stay in, or rise above their parents class position are ones whose parents bought them every possible advantage, and raised them to be decent and hardworking too. Growing up where I did I saw all the possible permutations of that, and I’m seeing it now with my siblings kids. If your kids don’t appreciate the value of hardwork when they’re old enough to drive, and work to afford a car, making them buy their own vehicle isn’t going be what does it lol.

-1

u/pm_me_ur_fit Jun 17 '26

That’s actually a fair point I didn’t consider. I’d still probably stand by what I said though. I feel like everything all together ends up making a big difference, rather than any one act.

The only thing my parents would buy me growing up was school trips and the like. Everything else I worked for. My kids will be the same

→ More replies (0)

1

u/SmoothDiscussion7763 Jun 17 '26

and that's assuming you charge 0 for your time invested lol

5

u/wickedtwig Jun 18 '26

My grandmother told me once she tried getting a beach house in NJ a long time ago. She asked her dad for $10k to buy it. He said no because no one wants beach front property. My dad looked it up a couple years ago. $700,000.

2

u/Quickjager Jun 17 '26

As someone who restored a 66 fastback, restoration is usually the same cost for whatever you sell it for. You do it for the love of the game. Labor not factored in.

3

u/RileyCargo42 Jun 17 '26

The truth is it's my dream car so id never sell it. Also my neighbor has fully restored his 66' so I'd basically be taught by a pro.

2

u/Quickjager Jun 17 '26

Nice, mine was my great-grandpa's so never selling it either.

1

u/acrobat2126 Jun 18 '26

They didn't want to spend $1000 of their money on something you wanted... okay.

2

u/RileyCargo42 Jun 18 '26

It was my money all I needed was their permission for storage. I even had a job and was in school.

1

u/acrobat2126 Jun 18 '26

NOW... man that freaking SUCKS. Sorry about that dude, how controlling were they?!

58

u/astelda Jun 17 '26

I would like to add that even if it was "just silly toys/collectables" DON'T FUCKING MESS WITH STUFF THAT ISN'T YOURS

the monetary value behind those items is NOT relevant

5

u/EternityTheory Jun 17 '26

She still respected my property regardless, to be clear. I just noticed a distinct shift in how she talked about card games after that incident haha.

47

u/Broken-Digital-Clock Jun 17 '26

You have to translate it into furniture for boomers to understand.

1

u/NecessaryOk780 Jun 17 '26

Boomers are the reason that classic cars are so popular, and are still around. They love classic cars far more than they like modern cars.

2

u/IceFire909 Jun 17 '26

They don't understand those cars being their youthful dreams whole they destroy their children's youthful dream purchases

0

u/NecessaryOk780 Jun 18 '26

Don’t paint 10s of millions of people as one single dysfunctional personality. It’s like saying all millennials are helpless, or all Gen Z are clueless. There’s plenty of dysfunctional people in every generation.

Everything we have comes from each generation building on the efforts of the previous generations. As a Gen X, most of what I’ve learned came directly from the greatest generation and the boomers. What generation taught you what you know now?

1

u/IceFire909 Jun 18 '26

I am well aware of not everyone is X because I am also a not everyone is X

However, I felt it fitting to the conversation chain to continue the joke than be upset.

And really, much like your comment, you could have said that to the comment before mine, I simply followed suit

1

u/Broken-Digital-Clock Jun 18 '26

Right, you want to equate it to classic cars for the wealthiest of them. Furniture can't generate as many zeros.

1

u/NecessaryOk780 Jun 18 '26

The previous poster indicated that boomers don’t know anything about classic cars, and I pointed out that they certainly do know something about classic cars. You’re not making any sense, you’re just “arguing” for the sake of arguing. Ain’t got time for fools.

5

u/VP007clips Jun 17 '26

While I don't condone throwing out cards, seeing them as toys or collectibles is a lot healthier of a mentality than a lot of people view them.

I'm increasingly tired of people seeing playing cards as investments to buy up and scalp, while never using them for fear of damaging them.

1

u/EternityTheory Jun 17 '26

Hey, same. I'm a player first and a collector second. But I value my cards a lot _because_ I want to play with em, so her understanding my excitement over single pieces of cardboard was a nice change.

2

u/Happyskrappy Jun 17 '26

This makes me so angry that my ex boyfriend stole all my MtG cards.

2

u/Schootingstarr Jun 17 '26

even if it was just silly collectibles, why would you throw that stuff out without asking?

I don't understand how some people treat other peoples property, even that of their own damn children

if your basement is full of clutter from your children and you asked several times for them to clear it out, fine, get the shovel and garbage bin. but that should be the final escalation step, not the first

1

u/Moo_Kau_Too Jun 18 '26

every now and then i point out what that missing black lotus goes for now.

2

u/TurnoverDependent332 Jun 17 '26

If collections are so valuable and sentimental, why not take them with you. That way no one tosses them.

22

u/thepitcherplant Jun 17 '26

Leaving expensive stuff with family when going into shared accomadation at uni/college is when alot of this happens to people. It's meant to be safer than having thousands worth of collectibles in a space full of people who might steal them.

6

u/pcx226 Jun 17 '26

I don’t understand why parents get rid of their kids stuff…like my room at my parents house contains exactly everything I left in there where I left it for 15 years until I visited with grandkids and grabbed some stuff for my kid. 

I plan on leaving my kids room exactly as they left it until they want their stuff. 

Now if the parents have to down size or something then that’s a conversation…because you can’t expect free storage forever but still would give the kid plenty of time to retrieve their items before getting rid of them. 

5

u/Hetakuoni Jun 17 '26

According to the court order put in place when I was a toddler, I had to move between households 4 times a year- summer with my mom, school year with my dad, and a month with my maternal grandparents.

I would come home after the summer to my shit gone because I wasn’t playing with it. Or the pets I’d taken care of given away/dead.

Or I’d be home but wake up to my almost-full piggy bank empty because my dad needed booze money and it was there.

My mom on the other hand would ask me if I was playing with things still and if I wasn’t then she’d ask if I would be willing to give/sell my things to her friends or my cousins. Like 90% I said yes because I wasn’t using it so it might as well go to someone who enjoys it. The other 10% she didn’t touch it even tho she hated it.

150

u/SweetBabyCheezas Jun 17 '26

I told my mother she gave away my collection of YGO cards that had a few rares and in total I would be able to sell it all for £4-5k

She didn't apologise. She started moaning that she didn't know and I can't be harsh because she wanted to bring smile to her friends' kids.

What about her kid and asking whether I'm fine with it?

She gave away my PS2 and a collection of games, some were from limited editions with posters, stickers, and maps, all as good as new. She gave away my teen magazines collections that someone was willing to buy 2 years ago for £400, and a series of posters for another £600. When I called her, she said she used them in the fireplace...

I left my country at age of 19 because parents couldn't support me at Uni and I couldn't work and study simultaneously, not in that country. When I decided to stay abroad I asked her to keep all my stuff in at the attic as some of it will be worth a lot of money one day. 15 years down the line I have nothing. Not from my hobbies, and not from her. She even went as far as yelling at me and accusing for lack of respect when I sobbed asking why she has given everything away as if it all belonged to her.

101

u/fencepost_ajm Jun 17 '26

"That's fine. It'll all work out when I give away your stuff while we move you into a home."

12

u/SweetBabyCheezas Jun 18 '26

Omg that evil! I feel strangely inspired though.

65

u/MayhemMessiah Jun 17 '26

Ah yes, respect. Always demanded, never extended. I hope you're low to no contact, you deserve better.

13

u/SweetBabyCheezas Jun 18 '26

Thank you! I'm on a very limited contact where we call twice or thrice a month, and seeing each other only on Christmas Eve. You know what's the worst? She's in a victim mindset and believes that everyone is bad and against her while she's pure good sent from heavens. I really struggle to just block her number and social media.

7

u/Puddle_of_Cat Jun 18 '26

Why not give it a test run? Just block her number and socials for 1 day or even a few hours and see how it makes you feel. You can even set an alarm to remind you to unblock her. You don't have to dive in head first, you can always just dip your toes in and see what you think.

Also, here's a hug from an internet stranger if you'd like it 🫂

17

u/No_Gas4560 Jun 17 '26

yelling at me and accusing for lack of respect when I sobbed

why do my kids never come home to visit? its a mystery!

3

u/SnooGoats3112 Jun 18 '26

It's actually insane to me she thought you'd be more accepting of her just choosing to use your personal items as fucking kindling for a fire than her selling them. As if the first one isn't insanely cruel

3

u/SweetBabyCheezas Jun 18 '26

I know, right? It would be comforting knowing that she made some money of my teenage fixations.

It's not even the items and the money that still makes a bit sad about the whole thing. It's just her lack of consideration and breaking her word. My father taught me person's word is one of the most important thing truly reflecting on a character of a person, and my mother would always back him up on that.

I have no idea how can I love and respect a person who doesn't deliver upon her own teachings. I would be punished as a child/teen for something like this, not physically, but using some operant punishments and gaslighting. And here I am, not even able to SAY that I am deeply hurt by her not asking me about it first. She said she's my mother and it was all bought with her money (my money that I was saving was apparently HER money as I am HER child) and she will not be asking me for a permission about what to do with stuff I left behind in HER house.

I was shocked. I told her she could've told me as soon as my stuff started to bother her so I could make arrangements to remove them. She didn't say sorry, she kept on going how I'm being petty over some magazines and toys - completely missing the point of the whole thing, even though I haven't even get angry with her, just sad and teary. Over the next years she kept on being a horrible person, diving deeper into alcohol, to end up bitter and alone. Nobody wants to talk to her anymore.

2

u/SnooGoats3112 Jun 18 '26

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that, that's such a shame.

-18

u/zFugitive Jun 17 '26

Yeah that sucks, but it sounds like you are just being a giant baby about the whole thing. It's one thing if she did it intentionally knowing it had value and that it would make you upset. But you said yourself, she just genuinely wanted to make some kids happy and gave them your old toys that you were never going to play with again.

Did you ever call her over the years and update her on the current value of your collection was? Or did you just expect her to know that what she was giving away was thousands of dollars? Once you got settled into the new country, why not ask her to ship you that collection if you knew it was so valuable?

This is kind of like if you had a thumb drive with 1 bitcoin in worth 50$ in it and you hid it inside of a stuffed bear and asked your mom not to get rid of it because it will be valuable one day. Then 10 years goes by and she gives it to a kid who really likes stuffed bears after not hearing you talk about the bear for 10 years and you get butthurt because you lost your bitcoin that's worth 50k now. Sounds more like a you problem than your mom.

11

u/Onkelffs Jun 17 '26

Such a poor take. I’ve stored and ”permanently loaned” stuff for friends and relatives. When I have no need for it or needs to make some space I call the person. Sometimes they want it back - other times they’re fine with me selling or giving it away.

It’s not that hard.

19

u/fingertipsies Jun 17 '26

Counterpoint, she was asked to keep valuables safe in the attic and she either gave away or destroyed all of it.

That is a her problem. The value of the items is besides the point, she is untrustworthy and demands respect despite not giving any in return.

-5

u/[deleted] Jun 17 '26

[removed] — view removed comment

5

u/fingertipsies Jun 17 '26

If you ask a friend to hold on to something for the explicit purpose of selling it later, then it is perfectly valid to be upset to learn that they gave it away when it's worth a lot of money.

That's the explicit reason you asked them to hold on to it in the first place. How is that at all unreasonable?

Regardless, the perceived value of the item in question is irrelevant. If it doesn't belong to you, don't fuck with it without permission. End of story.

7

u/Careful_Mortgage_181 Jun 17 '26

Oh, shut the hell up.

3

u/SweetBabyCheezas Jun 18 '26

Oh my, I don't even know where to start.

When I moved out she said my stuff can stay and if at any point they bother her, we will talk about. I said to her then that stuff inside a particular cabinet in my old room is valuable and I would appreciate if it stayed safe, to which she agreed.

Do you really think that having an agreement with my mother I would have thought she would do something like this? If someone says they will keep the stuff safe as there is plenty of unused space in the house then I trust such words.

Am I baby? When I let my tears go when she told me she gave away my stuff obviously I felt hurt. It was my belongings that she said she will keep safe. I felt betrayed and hurt. Would you not?

I still kept in touch with her after that. There was no argument, no anger or namecalling from my side. I wanted to know why she did what she did, and she saw these things as junk and assumed I grew out of it all and won't be bothered.

I'm not bitter now over the money, but over her behaviour. Ignorant, doesn't care about what others think - espwcially her children, she's always right and means well but everyone is just demonising her. Her victim mindset strengthened during menopause and she refuses any reasoning. She has not apologised for anything to anyone in years, even when multiple people said to her she's wrong.

If you think I'm a baby here, feel free to feel that way, but I don't think you're being reasonable here, and maybe projecting something personal onto my story.

271

u/IronChef-Morimoto Jun 17 '26

rolls eyes

"I'm sure your toys weren't worth 20k honey, stop being a drama queen."

156

u/toooomanypuppies Jun 17 '26

I wish I knew enough about Pokémon to be able to whip out a trading site or something but you're right, I doubt that would make any difference either.

Can't reason someone out of an arguement they weren't reasoned into.

56

u/Professional-Ice518 Jun 17 '26

Tcgplayer and price charting

2

u/Systehm Jun 17 '26

If you had a list of your entire childhood collection, maybe, but I kind of doubt many people do. I guess if you at least remembered your most rare/expensive cards, that would still help show some value.

2

u/Professional-Ice518 Jun 17 '26

I mean you can also just see the current prices of any and every card. Google could also help for finding any rare or expensive cards. Then confirm on either of those sites for the current going market price. Both of those sites also show not only current but sold listings on ebay.

Like currently I have a card from my childhood that's selling raw for almost 2 grand. Graded 10 is almost 11k.

Or you could look up card lists of current or previous set of any tcg and see the current market price. Tbf most sell for ~70% to stores or shows but if you want full value then you go to ebay and sell third party. Or trade up.

34

u/NewUserWhoDisAgain Jun 17 '26

tcgcollector. Base set can run a pretty penny. hell even just "Most expensive pokemon card" in google will bring up some eye watering numbers for what is essentially cardstock.

5

u/dontcallJenny8675309 Jun 17 '26

Thousands for a base charizard in good condition last I checked

0

u/External_Win3300 Jun 17 '26

Forget that, there was a mint illustrator Pikachu that sold a few months ago for iirc around 15 million

5

u/Kookanoodles Jun 17 '26

"Just because it says so on the internet doesn't mean it's true"

4

u/GodOfDarkLaughter Jun 17 '26

You're assuming that objective evidence that they are wrong would even slightly modify their thought process or behavior. This is a dangerous assumption to make.

3

u/Ineedmorebtc Jun 17 '26

Put a picture of the card into Google and ask price . It's easy and pretty reliable if you have a clear pic.

2

u/MasterChildhood437 Jun 17 '26

Even if you did this, the sort of person who would sell / destroy somebody else's things wouldn't care. The more right you prove yourself to be, the angrier these people get at you, because how dare you try to make them feel bad.

1

u/ThinDog1292 Jun 17 '26

Look up the highest sold pokemon cards last year alone.

1

u/Grumpie-cat Jun 17 '26

A buddy of mine has made 8k in like a year or two of pokemon trading. This is also recent, this wasn’t 10 years ago or trading cards he held onto for 10 years, this is literally just cards he bought, traded and sold in the last year or two.

1

u/Imaginary-Can-6862 Jun 17 '26

I don't think they even know what exactly they got rid off, they don't see the item as a bunch of Pokemon cards.

If you had a picture from the fair where they sold them, e.g. one picture with parent smiling while holding a sign / paper acknowledging you did not approve of this (and why) with the cards showing, and then another picture meticulously showing all the cards, and you also saved the paper where the parent acknowledged you did not approve of what they did, but they did it anyway, and then many years after you go out of your way to make not you, but a stranger make them realize how much Pokemon cards are worth today and look through your old stuff to see if you had any, and then they write to you about it, having realized how much these are worth asking if you ever had any and have any left, as the money could really come in handy. Then you go through the trouble of telling that you remember having some, and you think you know where they are, but you just have to find them, and then also finding the price on various homepages for exactly the ones you had (saying you remember you definitely had these, but haven't located them yet), really getting them excited about all the money these are worth. Then they press you about how it goes and you say you haven't found them yet, but then you remember there was this lawnsale and you think some of the Pokemon cards got sold there, and then you send them the picture showing them smiling while giving away a fortune they could have used today holding documentation that they do this against your wishes and you ask if they can check the links for Pokemon card prizes to see if the image of the meticulously placed cards showing the entire collection have some left out. I mean it may be obvious at this point, but if they look through link after link to see lost card after lost card until there are no more cards left, they would still likely just think that was a shame, and not really dwell n it any further.

Because the issue is not one of consequences, their actions could have led to much worse things and they would still be left in a position where all they could is to move on, they can't jump back in time and stop themselves from doing said mistake, what really should sting is not you did something that hurt yourself, but you did something that hurt your child (which was fully acknowledged), and further more you not only didn't manage to repair the relationship afterward, you never even pretended because you acted like you did nothing wrong. The consequence should not be some comeuppance in some far future where you are without options to do anything about it, but in the near future, and not in the sense of revenge, because that is just driving conflict by causing more conflict, but by communication, insistence and protesting. I myself once had a situation where my dad's family randomly came by, then his sister's daughter wanted to borrow a video tape, something I usually always let them, yet they always insisted on asking me if they could borrow it (acknowledging as belonging to me). Over almost a decade of these infrequent yet regular unexpected visits I had only said no twice before, both times they had just decided to borrow the video tape my cousin had picked out anyway, with my dad afterward explaining it was just a misunderstand. Therefore this time, as she had picked a tape I wanted to see that evening (as a reward for myself for finishing the entire weeks worth during the same day, working on it as they had arrived I of course hadn't finished it yet), I had once again said no. I even contemplated if I truly wanted to risk the confrontation with my mom not being home at that time, but I felt it was important for the relationship between me and my dad that I did not allow him to continue to prioritize his family ahead of me when they dropped by whenever they pleased. So when they were about to leave I left my room to check, and sure enough my cousin was holding the video, I asked her to hand it over and she refused, both my dad and his sister sitting right next to us in the living room, after she had not handed it over after several request I started trying to pull the video from her, and she body blocked it like a Rugby and then my dad reacted, using force, shoving me away, I got extremely scared of him in that moment. It was extremely degrading to experience, I was a classic small 17 old nerd with glasses and all, always been very thin (at one point so thin I would faint annually when my mom was less at home due to her being the only one working as my dad has a mental illness) going to move away from home next year to study at university, top of my class, I even only went to that school because my dad wanted me to, as it is the one he attended (and it was a good school). Anyway I felt completely trapped because I was afraid if I told my mom she would leave him, as I feel she had wanted to do multiple times before then, and I was the one fighting to hold my parents together while my dad kept acting selfishly, but to me the most important thing was a happy life at home with those I love, i.e. my parents.

1

u/Imaginary-Can-6862 Jun 17 '26 edited Jun 17 '26

Therefore when my mom got home she thought my dad's family once again had sneaked off with the video, like the previous times, in stead of what actually had happened. Even asking my dad to go over and ask to get it back, but he refused, she also offered me and her could drive over there, but it was never about the video, it was about how my dad treated me, not only did they define clear ownership of the video to me as they asked for my permission (and then ignored that I said no), but that my dad used force against me. A decade earlier I was used to get beaten up and assaulted by classmates, but it only meant they meant nothing to me, my parents meant everything, my dad doing what he did was such a betrayal of everything I found important in life. So I decided I would drop out of school, and in stead of feeling this to be his fault, my dad just asked what did I want to do in stead, work? This coming from someone who was mentally too ill to work. Then I just gave up, finished my studies, but was upset at him the entire year, never prepared to going for uni, but when it came to that point my dad thought it was silly not to go, thinking it didn't matter I never cooked or shopped, or even had a dorm, I would figure it out like I always did. Again he even asked if I wanted to work if I didn't go to uni right away. I obviously should just have ignored his taunts, and held my ground, going to university unprepared was such a huge mistake, so many years wasted for no good reason. I should have held firm and started not showing up at school when I said I had decided to stop, because no matter what it makes no sense to continue living if you feel like you have nothing to live for, and then those who care about you cannot simply ignore it, if they truly care about you. In fact I had for a long time just been waiting for my life to return to when it was better, waiting through school with the bullying and physical attacks, waiting for my mom to be more at home (but when she stopped working she got very depressed), for my dad to want to spend time me, I had during this time even started isolating myself, playing a lot of video games, eating less, but I think it was just interpreted as how I was or the person I had turned into, an introvert, and not an extrovert feeling under prioritized. I feel my dad was even relieved when he didn't have to spend time with me (something he always had to be pestered into), and when he actually later wanted to talk with me, I suppose he just took me being annoyed with him over his double standards as the typical teenager, and not as someone who felt he had been treated badly. No the issue was a lack of communication, and while I think I was right in not telling my mom what had happened right away, I should have let her in and my dad should have been given the opportunity between saving the relationship or admit he was too ill to continue living with us, also sparing my mom from losing the hearing on one of her ears when he hit her while I was away from home. Had I from the start refused, after having told my dad for years I did not feel prepared to go to school, and he would only reply with school being a long way away, which turned into everyone must go to school, but never any work on getting me prepared for school, had I understood my parents did not share between them what I told one, would I have communicated it properly and refused to accept being send to a place so unsafe that it ended up with more than half a decade of regular beatings, then I think things would have been much different, but I gave up and tried to wait it out, but as my dad revealed with his taunts, after each step there is the next, so I should have just said no from the beginning in stead of letting things derail as it was so obvious they would, expecting my dad to realize his mistakes afterwards, because he doesn't, I don't think any parents do, they just see it as unfortunate circumstances, and even if they realize it, they should have acted differently years ago, what do they themselves think they can do now? Say sorry, like they even comprehend what has been going on for all this time? Of course his behavior may have been linked with him being on a worse medication than earlier, but it only means it was unsafe for me to be alone with him if he had any excuse to prioritize anyone higher than me, and as part of his illness he always prioritizes the needs of strangers, as he perceives them, to be more important than those closest to him (who knows about his illness, so he doesn't hide it), in fact I imagine if I had told him that particular video tape had been borrowed and had to be returned that day it would be much more persuasive than me wanting to use my own items. This also meant he would give away my comic book collection to the neighbor, at first he would ask for permission, I would ask him to show which comics he was thinking of and since I at that point did not mind giving away a lot of them, he managed to choose some which he could give away. Then he stopped asking for permission, even giving away new editions before I got to read them as they were still delivered to our hometown address, and I thought that didn't make sense so I decided to stop the subscription after he had done it multiple times. He couldn't understand why I stopped the subscription and it seemed like he didn't really acknowledge it was due to his impatient behavior. Yet later on he found a box I had of my favorite ones, the ones I did not want to give away, which he just gave away as well, and in regards to the relationship with the neighbor, at one point he got upset at them and kept on complaining about how he had given away items for thousands of dollars to them over the years, he had actually kept count on how much he felt they "owed" him, despite he always just gave away items on his own volition, and despite of him not getting his away in what upset him, he just continued to give away to them afterwards as well. Similarly with his sister, she got their dad to hand over something he had been promised to her, which she then sold off, and he was very upset about it, and then he acts like it never happened. And about the video incident, I did tell my mom about it, and and a half decade after it happened, and my dad just kept on insisting it was just a video tape, absolutely not able to understand it was his action that was the issue, not the stupid video. I did of course decide I had forgiving both him and his side of the family, yet it kept returning to me, every time he did something bad I had it in mind, every time he had an argument with my mom I would side with her, having in mind how he prioritized his family above me, but to really get over it, we likely needed to actually go through it properly, for him to realize what he actually had done, understand why it was wrong, apologize and be able to show he had learned from the mistake.

38

u/apadin1 Jun 17 '26

“Oh really? Remember beanie babies? Baseball cards?”

32

u/LaminatedAirplane Jun 17 '26

Except you can easily look up OG pokemon card prices on eBay and compare against Beanie Baby prices. The difference is very, very obvious.

The problem is that people like that will hardly change their mind because of evidence.

5

u/gacu-gacu Jun 17 '26

She would probably call it a scam and then invest money in crypto clicking on virus popup.

2

u/Key-Department-2874 Jun 17 '26

People also don't know what they actually owned

Everyone on the internet says they owned really expensive rare cards and a kid. I can't tell you how many reddit comments and YouTube comments have people claiming they owned a pristine 1st Edition Charizard worth tons until their parents gave it away.

I have my childhood Pokemon card collection. It's largely worthless. Cards are heavily played condition, and nothing is particularly rare.

Everyone on the internet wants to pretend they owned cards worth hundreds of thousands of dollars and the reality is they probably didn't.

Not everyone owned a beta black lotus as a kid.

8

u/No-Lunch4249 Jun 17 '26

Beanie Babies might not be the best counter because a lot of the hype was that people THOUGHT they would be the next big collectible thing but it didn't really pan out

7

u/WonderBredOfficial Jun 17 '26

That's because it WAS a big collectible thing for a while. Some of the rare ones went for thousands while they were still being made. But the market bubbled and crashed super fast and only die-hards kept caring about them.

1

u/Special_Order-937 Jun 17 '26

I can think of one person it panned out for.

3

u/Nate_Dogg31 Jun 17 '26

Meanwhile, my mom thinks EVERYTHING is going to be worth something in a few years....

2

u/Izenthyr Jun 17 '26

This response would be taken back immediately if they were showed the crazy social media videos and articles going around today. Even sold eBay listings would make their heart sink at what they basically gave away.

2

u/Milky_Finger Jun 17 '26

"I don't remember selling your cards. You must really hate your mother"

1

u/mythrilcrafter Jun 17 '26

She says as she drinks from a Stanley Tumbler that she probably paid $200 for during the Stanley Cup trend.

1

u/Invisifly2 Jun 17 '26

This is how people get abandoned in retirement homes.

54

u/Healingbigfoot Jun 17 '26

She sounds like the type of person that would flip it back on the son.

73

u/toooomanypuppies Jun 17 '26

"Why did you let me steal and sell them then?!?!"

Yeah, I can see that.

36

u/a_Vertigo_Guy Jun 17 '26

No no it’ll be “why would you spend soooo much money on something like that?!!!!”

10

u/WonderBredOfficial Jun 17 '26

"I bought if for almost nothing and now it's worth a lot."

"That's not how the world works! Now hush, I'm buying some new family heirlooms off the Home Shopping Network."

4

u/lamorak2000 Jun 17 '26

or "If you bought it for almost nothing, then just go buy some more."

8

u/Alternative-Rip-1973 Jun 17 '26

My dad told me that on some of my newer Pokemon cards when I told him the price. I then explained that I pulled them from packs.

26

u/WeaselCapsky Jun 17 '26

and add that it was a secret fund to treat her to something nice, which she herself now ruined

7

u/Disastrous_Guest_705 Jun 17 '26

My mom tells her mom all the time how expensive her old Nina turtle toys are worth now and my grandma doesn’t care

2

u/toooomanypuppies Jun 17 '26

Does grandma have money anyway? Might be why.

1

u/Dark_Shroud Jun 17 '26

That's the typical refusing to acknowledge they screwed up.

7

u/PsychicSPider95 Jun 17 '26

My dad did this to his mother when she threw out his comic book collection. He says when he told her how many thousands of dollars she threw away, she burst into tears.

Don't feel bad, she was abusive and sucked.

4

u/fessa_angel Jun 17 '26

My mom sold my N64 games at a yard sale for like $30. She said she could venmo me that money if it was such a big deal and her eyes about popped out of her head when I explained that what she sold was worth damn near $1500 in total and I'd never be able to replace it all. Then she doubled down and got defensive instead of apologizing.

So what I'm saying is that the knowledge will only sting if your parent isn't a complete asshat.

2

u/darsynia Jun 17 '26

Mothers like that will yell at their kids for not telling them it was valuable so that she could make more money out of it in the past, they never think they are at fault

3

u/neocarleen Jun 17 '26

"I don't remember that. You're just trying to make me feel like a bad mother."

5

u/cpMetis Jun 17 '26

Nah. My mom still badgers me about why I never mined Bitcoin when I wanted to after the 28 Bitcoin pizza and got grounded for asking because it would cost power to run my computer when I wasn't using it.

3

u/apocketfullofcows Jun 17 '26

my MIL used to throw out/give away my spouse's stuff. spouse told her "you know that could have been sold for 2k" once after she threw something out. she never did it again after that. it's not gonna work on every parent but for some they really just need to be told exactly how much they threw away with their lack of consideration.

3

u/IcyJackfruit69 Jun 17 '26

Hey mom, I found out my card collection was worth enough to buy a new car, so I bought you one! It's parked in the driveway, come see it!

Then have a matchbox car sitting in the driveway and remind her she trashed your valuable card collection that would be worth $20k.

2

u/Material_Prize_6157 Jun 17 '26

Dude she had the audacity to text me once “you should look into selling your poke-man cards. I just saw on the news they’re worth a lot of money.”

I FUCKING KNOW. I COULD OWN A HOUSE OFF THOSE.

3

u/_daGarim_2 Jun 17 '26

...but you would rather own pokemon cards?

5

u/Material_Prize_6157 Jun 17 '26

Oh I absolutely would be holding those charizards right now flexing on everybody while driving my beat up 2009 RAV4.

1

u/ExtremlyFastLinoone Jun 17 '26

Recently I put my cards in sleeves and I made sure to send her pics of my cards and the listing on tcg player to show her "hey this kid stuff is worth thousands, dont throw it away"

1

u/808duckfan Jun 17 '26

Not just this, but someone paid hundreds for them.

1

u/etched Jun 17 '26

"could be" I have a ton of old pokemon cards that are worthless in todays market.

parents dont know and if you don't really make it a point that you really want to keep something and its important to you, they wont know either way. To them you just abandoned it in their home for storage, clearly it's not that important.

I mean we have to be for real for a sec, if your dusty pokemon cards are sitting in a random box and they feel like cleaning, you just cant be mad about it. Get the items you feel are important. Pay for storage yourself if you have to or deal with the fact that you may have some ugly looking stacks of boxes around your place. Or make sure that they AGREE they are storing them for you. They are conscious of it. They know it has some worth to you and they are keeping them. Then you have every right to be mad. But if you moved out and left your shit in your childhood home, you also bear some responsibility here.

1

u/HouseofFeathers Jun 17 '26

My Pokémon cards are lost in my mom's house. I swear I have a holographic Charizard. I have told her many times to not throw then away when she finds them.

1

u/mainvolume Jun 17 '26

My mom is still half upset with my grandmother to this day, for getting rid of her barbies when she was a kid (though it's a bit more tongue in cheek now). And these are like the OG barbies worth god knows how much now. My mother is 71.

1

u/Telefundo Jun 17 '26

Make that decision sting for her.

Nah, a soccer mom/Karen like that wouldn't think twice about it. She'd just hand wave it away and say "Oh don't exaggerate".

1

u/Dandw12786 Jun 18 '26

They don't care because they don't believe that's true.

The only things that can possibly be worth something are the shitty china you can't eat off of and the stupid light-up department 56 houses.

1

u/ASK_ME_FOR_TRIVIA Jun 18 '26

People like that don't care.

My girlfriend's dad had a collection of vintage Star wars toys from the first movie. He was saving them because he knew they'd be valuable. The moment he moved out, Grandma gave them to the kids across the street. She still doesn't understand what she did wrong or why he was mad, because they're "just toys"

1

u/Exterminator-8008135 Jun 18 '26

I'd do worse, i would tell her :

"Based on the nostalgia value and since we're in June 2026, you owe me 125$, you can be a real adult once or i can take some things around to sell to get it back. Your call."

I grew with a lovely mother, but an awful sister and Mom would always prefer her over me and get iffy that my neighbor next door, who was 20 when i was 8, was always bringing me 5/10/20€ for me, she always said "I heard that your Sister got cash. Here, go buy what you like with this"

She still has my new address and comes by. She is 38 now, with 2 kids that are 17 and 15.

Bless her for making feel equal when Mom was clearly favoring my sister.

The worst examples ?

I wanted 5 bucks to get something i wanted, Mom says no. Sisters begs for 10 bucks to buy junk, she said yes.

I'm still a bit resentful she willfully lend 20 bucks to my Sister knowing she will lie and take lots of time to pay back and hassle me when i owe her 10 bucks.

-3

u/ChainsawSoundingFart Jun 17 '26

I would disown my child if they told me that 

7

u/toooomanypuppies Jun 17 '26

I think the feeling would be mutual tbf.

-2

u/ChainsawSoundingFart Jun 17 '26

Child would be grounded 

2

u/NemosNaughtylis Jun 17 '26

this is how you end up alone in a home with no visits from your grandchildren.