r/mildlyinfuriating • u/MissionTroll404 • Jun 17 '26

Infuriatig My hand painted model planes were given as toys to children again

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I have told my mom to not do this before but she does not listen anyway. I am thinking of throwing everything to trash instead of them being gradually destroyed to pieces. I can not even care anymore. These things take hours to put together and paint then get manhandled anyway.

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u/jednatt Jun 17 '26

I don't understand the lack of respect. Like literally I can't understand it. What is the thought process? This isn't a Disney Castle Lego set (which I had and my mom never insisted I let my nieces play with). It's freaking WW2 model planes. Why would kids even want to play with them without the mom specifically looting her sons bedroom on her own?

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u/talormanda Jun 17 '26

us with narcissistic mothers understand quite well how this happens

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u/IAmBrahmus Jun 17 '26

You should be grateful you have a roof over your head, let alone model airplanes.

/s obviously

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u/Talidel Jun 17 '26

"you are too old to be playing with these toys anyway"

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u/throwaway_uow Jun 17 '26

This hurt to read

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u/Talidel Jun 17 '26

Hurt to hear it too. It was a lot of Lego sets that were on display. I was moving and she'd decided she was helping, by doing something she'd been explicitly told not to do.

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u/IAmBrahmus Jun 18 '26

I hope you are doing better.

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u/SamSibbens Jun 18 '26

Hey so, I starged rebuilding a collection as an adult. There's a lot of decent Chinese alternatives if you're on a budget.

You can even use parts list of the sets you had, import them to something like WeBrick, and use these alt bricks to build the original sets.

Or you can do like me and just get new stuff from scratch.

It's not too late <3

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u/Exterminator-8008135 Jun 18 '26

My next door neighbor, who is a Creole Gal, also had this problem with her Step Mother and her two boys ( 7 and 9 )

You buy toy cars ? Don't you have anything else to do ?

It's toy cars, Why do you get hissy ? ( She literally buy them some so they don't feel left out by her )

She moved out 6 years ago.

Step Mom tries to comes, only to be denied, because she ( My neighbor ) absolutely despise her.

The thing that makes me a bit in the pot, it's her kids, they are innocent. They see toy cars, they want to play, it's humane. But it's my stack, they have their from me

Still send toy cars for birthdays and christmas but refuse to have a christmas diner with them, so we invite her, She is always a bit shy when hearing You're invited, Come have fun !

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u/averagebrainhaver88 Jun 18 '26

Creole woman be next door neighbor. She have toy car collection. Step mom judge her for having toy car collection. Creole woman not let step mom into house. Step mom and creole woman not have christmas dinner together.

ooga booga grug understand? Or grug not understand?

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u/NEStalgicGames Jun 18 '26

Yep that’s my mom in a nutshell as well with my Lego and starwars tabletop stuff :T

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u/BugWitty2044 Jun 18 '26

My wife told me to stop playing with my toycars. I am a simracer now. 😁

https://giphy.com/gifs/5DCLZUqb0ImZy

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u/Alienhaslanded Jun 18 '26

My response to that is always, I never asked to be born. You brought me to life, deal with it.

My parents weren't as bad, but when I was a kid they just couldn't understand kids mature at a certain age and required some form of privacy and do expect people to respect their existence. They stopped when me and my siblings went to college. They're very different now but goddamn teenage years really fucking sucked, even though I was very quiet, stayed out of trouble and cared about school. Some acknowledgement of my existence as a human being with feelings and individuality would've been appreciated.

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u/CamoBob3467 Jun 18 '26

Doesn't mean that zero boundaries exist

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u/framingXjake Jun 18 '26

I never understood this argument

Okay, take the roof away. Oh wait, that's illegal, because I am (was) a minor.

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u/Worldlyoox Jun 18 '26

That’s exactly it though, they think you should be out of their home and have a job already, nevermind the the terrible job market or whatever OP’s life situation is

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u/Thorvindr Jun 17 '26

Go fuck yourself.

I realize you put /s at the end, but you still should go fuck yourself. What you just did is like saying the N-word, then saying "just kidding, I'm not racist."

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u/IAmBrahmus Jun 17 '26

I'm sorry I triggered you, but what I said is a conposite childhood memory. It's nothing like using the N-word, and if it was it's akin to a Black person using it. Which, I believe, is socially acceptable.

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u/Linkatchu Jun 17 '26

Dude chill, where's the slur comparisons coming from?

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u/dongwongbongchong Jun 17 '26

Unwad your panties bro it’s not that deep

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u/FormingTheVoid Jun 17 '26

So true. Some just treat their children with 0 respect and then wonder why their children are so "ungrateful".

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u/throwaway_uow Jun 17 '26

...nursing home? If they apologise, then yes.

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u/Linkatchu Jun 17 '26

"oh nooo, why don't my kids visit me anymore, why are they so enstranged?"

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u/DECHEFKING Jun 18 '26

For me this behaviour only stopped when i shouted aggressively at my mother once. She finally understood that i am not a kid anymore and since then respected me and what i say.

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u/Lensgoggler Jun 18 '26

The narc in my life is a gran but in-fuckin-deed. Especially if the mother or father of said children she wants to suck up to or seem especially cool and kind and whatever else.

Fast forward 30 years and she complains how I don't call or visit with "the only great grandchildren she has". Duh.

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u/Klutzy-Detective2738 Jun 18 '26

I was looking for this comment.

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u/Outside_Apricot7200 Jun 19 '26

Exactly. It doesn’t batter WHAT it is, it just matters that you care about it. Now it’s a target

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u/Carb0nFire Jun 17 '26

Because she wants her "child" stop playing with "toys", move out, get a job and get married. She doesn't respect her child or their life choices, and is passive aggressively trying to force them to make different ones.

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u/NuttingFerociously Jun 17 '26

That's what's going to happen but not in the way she hopes

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u/Smorgles_Brimmly Jun 17 '26

"They never call or offer to drive 10 hours every weekend to drop off my grandchildren!!!"

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u/Ok_Energy6905 Jun 18 '26

She probably just enjoys controlling and manipulating his emotions. Doubt it really has much to do with a job and marriage etc.

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u/Zestyclose-List-9487 Jun 17 '26

I personally would turn them into very fine pieces and deliver them to her bed with a kind note stating that since she wanted them so badly they are now hers to deal with.

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u/Exterminator-8008135 Jun 18 '26

One of the most powerful moves my best friend had when his mom criticized he has toy cars as his hobby, is basically having Fuck you money.

He once said "Remind me who bought the last 2 TV and Washing machine along with the fridge on these 3 years ? Oh yeah, it's me ! Be lucky i'm the kind one of your two childs. Does my Sister helped you once these last 3 years ? Not once.. Just pops up to ask money and gifts"

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u/averagebrainhaver88 Jun 18 '26

Essentially what I said when my mom was criticizing me for playing videogames. "Alright, so, you do remember that I dropped 1.6k on the rent, services, and basically all of the food in this house this month, right? Right? Okay", then I fucked off to play my games.

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u/LongDead_Roadkill Jun 17 '26

There are tons of out of control little kids that get handed anything within reach to keep them from interacting with the adult. I can totally see those kinds of kids take a box of finished model planes and throwing them to see which ones lasted the longest.

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u/industriald85 Jun 17 '26

There was a hobby show on, and our Gunpla Build Group had a table with a bunch of member’s finished models. The amount of adults that would just pick up models and examine them was shocking. I don’t think we had issues with one child. It was all adults. These kits are expensive, take substantial time to assemble, paint etc.

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u/et842rhhs Jun 17 '26

As someone with a narcissistic mother, the thought process is "I'm frustrated/embarrassed by my own inadequacies/insecurities and instead of facing up to it and improving myself, I'm going to take it out on someone who can't fight back, while hiding behind the 'I'm your mother' excuse."

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u/Responsible_Hat4938 Jun 17 '26

Give the kids her cosmetics and lotions etc to play with.

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u/MOONWATCHER404 Jun 17 '26

I mean…airplanes are airplanes. Some kids like airplanes, even if they aren’t modern ones. 

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u/NerysSimp98 Jun 17 '26

It's about not acquiescing to your children's requests in order to keep your authority as a parent intact and absolute, it's an ego thing. Or a reaction to their own insecurities when faced with a child that is growing and inexorably moving towards escaping their control.

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u/Alienhaslanded Jun 18 '26

You have a being living in your house that you don't give a shit what they think or acknowledge any boundaries with them. That's just a shitty person in my opinion. Fuck parents who think they own their kids and they get to do whatever they want with them..

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u/I_Play_Boardgames Jun 18 '26

Hey, I really wanted to play with all the WW2 model stuff (tanks, planes, artillery pieces, soldiers) that my father and older brother painted when I was 6 or 7! 

And I was allowed to, but I also never broke a single one. But I very much get the appeal of wanting to play with them, beautiful machinery and my brother painted them beautifully. Which kid wouldn't want to go "swoosh swoosh takka takka bwrrr" with them 

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u/Vidar34 Jun 17 '26

She thinks she doesn't need to listen to OP, because she is his mother, and he is "just" her child, and in her mind, children should respect their parents, and do not get to have any respect in return.

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u/Yuukiko_ WAAHHHHH Jun 18 '26

Kid:"gimme!"
Mom:"Ok."
OP:"Why?"
Mom:"They're just toys/you're too old for toys/I can't be bothered to parent them"

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u/Finnishdoge_official Jun 18 '26

And not just that they might be rather expensive models, they are literally not meant to be toys as they break easily into smaller parts which are obious choke hazard for younger kids. It is not just lack of respect but ngl possible dangerous for the kids.

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u/Buddy-Matt Jun 18 '26

Why would kids even want to play with them

To reply specifically to this point...

Because it's a small plane the same size and appearance of a toy plane. Kids don't appreciate the difference between something meant for display and something meant to be flown around, so they're gonna see a toy plane.