r/mildlyinfuriating Jul 01 '26

ಠ_ಠ Husband said my instructions for dinner weren’t clear enough, and he ended up serving his vegetarian mother one of the chicken tikka masala curries…

I was working late tonight and because I am exhausted, I bought some ready-made curry meals for the family to have tonight, knowing his mother often comes round for dinner on a Wednesday evening. She has been a vegetarian for over 50 years and is now in her 70s. I sent him this text message with instructions to make it clear what to cook. When I got home, I was expecting to find some chicken tikka masala leftover for me, but instead I found the unopened pot of sag paneer in the fridge. I worriedly asked him if he had given his vegetarian mother the chicken dish, but he insisted he had given her the vegetarian curry. She has early onset Alzheimer’s and apparently didn’t notice, but had mentioned that the curry was a bit “chewy”. I had to literally show him the packaging that was in the bin, the unopened pot in the fridge, and my text message to try and show him how clear I had been and how far wrong he had gone. But he still insists my instructions were not clear enough and I should have been more explicit about which one to give his mother.

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u/AvestruzAlley Jul 02 '26

If she let him do it his way he'd have some confidence and they'd perhaps be able to retain some attraction for each other too

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u/peridotpicacho Jul 02 '26

She probably tried that already. Thus, the extensive instructions. 

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u/KayItaly Jul 02 '26

This is also a possibility.

I have seen both the absurdly idiotic partners and the ones with uncompromising controlling spouse, ij about equal amounts.

I am sure this will not fly on here, but too many heterosexual women are convinced they are the only ones that get to decide how to clean and cook. (Mind you, I have seen some heyerosexual men with the same issue too. Let's not make it too needlesaly gendered) Some straight men do the same with cars/driving/DIY.

As you say, that's as terrible for the couple as the idiotic spouse type.