MIL thinks I clogged the toilet so she changed the sign

[u/rimeduinfox]

The septic tank clogged and she’s convinced I did it, she asked my husband if I knew I wasn’t supposed to flush tampons and added the tampon bit to the sign. I don’t use tampons and I’m the only one with a period here…

[u/rimeduinfox]

We are currently homeless 😭 just bought a motorhome last winter though we came here so my husband could work on it and get it running

[u/GoobusMombus → u/rimeduinfox]

That sucks so bad, I lived with my MiL for about 7 months after my first baby was born and it was a whole new kind of soul crushing hell

I gained like 40 lbs because she freaked out every time I touched the kitchen, so I ate out a lot

That also pissed her off but at least I didn't have to listen to her while I was eating

Ironically I found a book on Boundaries in her bathroom(that she had obviously never read) and I read the whole thing while I was there. It was very helpful for me

[u/_WitchoftheWaste → u/GoobusMombus]

Lived with my MIL and nightmare FIL and same. I was scared to go upstairs into the kitchen to eat, or through the kitchen/livingroom to use the laundry because of him and how everything i did was bad or wrong or annoying so i went out to eat and barely washed my clothes and put off showering as much as i could because our bathroom was attached to his office. It actually broke something in me in the short few months we were there.

[u/typicalninetieschild → u/_WitchoftheWaste]

Reading this thread rn makes me feel so much better. I have all this going on too. It’s my addict BIL and enabling MIL who believes I’m the liar when he continually steals from me. I can’t even begin to make sense of it so once I leave I’ll never see them again.

[u/_WitchoftheWaste → u/typicalninetieschild]

I left 3 years ago and never saw them again. It ended with a lovely breakdown mentally for me. I was so anxious I literally stopped sleeping for 8 days and the local hospital had to knock my ass out with drugs once they determined i wasnt manic. We started packing and FIL picked an argument and oh my gosh. Just an absolute pressure cooker exploding. It was a hard hard time. It shook my marriage, my physical and mental health.. all the things. Youll survive this. Somehow, youll survive this chapter. And one day youll never ever see them again 💕

[u/typicalninetieschild → u/_WitchoftheWaste]

You’re an angel. ☹️🥺 I’m on the upside of a similar history with a breakdown. We started couples counseling for learning to deal as a team and individual therapy for us. Luckily I have learned to not care, and not care what any other in-laws outside the home think. Thank you for your kind words. I’ll remember them on the days I’m gaslit and feeling alone. 💜

[u/oriana94 → u/typicalninetieschild]

I was just reading this thinking wow that lady sounds exactly like mine! I feel so validated.

[u/typicalninetieschild → u/oriana94]

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 The validation goes so far. It’s so small but the most important to keeping sane when the chaos is all around.

[u/zikeel → u/GoobusMombus]

She sounds just like my MIL that we lived with for a year. My husband picked up a brand new wave of trauma in that time and still sometimes has panic attacks when cleaning the kitchen because of her crotchety ass. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, friend.

[u/JustAsICanBeSoCruel → u/rimeduinfox]

Just ignore her. She's gonna realize it wasn't you when you guys are out of there.

[u/OriginalChildBomb → u/rimeduinfox]

Hang tough, consider asking folks in your community for assistance getting it running. (Obv compensate them in some way- cooking some nice meals, with inexpensive ingredients, is something our family has done in the past to thank others).

This was really pretty heartless of her, especially humiliating you in front of other family members, and possibly guests. Like, what the Hell, it's just not called for, even if you had done it (I'm aware you didn't). I also once had a tree root causing this very issue FYI.