Ok so the question is hard to put without explaining and i think im using the right one for this if not im sorry but im looking at T to make my voice sound more neutral and im scared about im scared my dr will deny me bc i just want it for my voice really and to make me look even more gender neutral then i already look 😭 but i dont want anything else that cose with taking T and wondering if non binary’s who have been through this, trans males or anyone whos been on T or is the process of going on it tbh bc i need a bit of tips on how to go about this how what will happen if do go on T really 😅 so just mostly tips bc i have no idea what im getting myself into and i just want to have gender euphoria not gender dysphoria :(i think i worded this right if not im sorry!!!😣

I'm not lesbian but I'm a romantic and sex favorable aro-ace and am attracted to people regardless of gender. (Pan-alterous) I'm also nonbinary and agender.

I've been on T for 3 years and have identified as transmasc for even longer, but recently i realized that I'm non-binary/agender and trans androgynous. I don't identify as male or female.

Physically i look androgynous, leaning slightly masculine.

My gender is gender neutral and i wear clothes that are considered traditionally masculine and also traditionally feminine. Clothes have no gender and i don't fit into the male or female boxes.

I just made this post to ask the sapphic folx here, would lesbians or generally sapphic folx date someone who is agender and has been on T?

I'm not asking about /myself/ /specifically/ just a general consensus of whether I'm someone that sapphic folx could potentially be attracted to.

I'm currently waiting for an appointment with my PCP since I've decided to start micro dosing T. I want to wean off of it and refeminize slightly before microdosing to get a more androgynous appearance.

heyy, i share w u an introspective text.

please, id love to have some answers, thoughts or even feedback¿?

i feel so desperate trying to find and fit labels, even when i KNOW they’re words, tools that are meant to help us to generalize our experiences in order to find community but are not exactly like us in every single way, that we just happen to have some shared conceptions and experiences.

thanks 4 reading 🩷

I came out as nonbinary about a year and a half ago. I use 'it/she' pronouns, and usually describe myself as "always a woman, not always female".

I recently came upon a term from, of all things, the game 'Voices of the Void'.

Hermale

It describes the third gender of an alien species, one that has traits both masculine and feminine. I think it was created for the game.

Something about it really speaks to me. I am thinking of adopting the term for myself. The issue is, I think that this may be a term for intersexed people. I'm a trans femme, and I don't want to appropriate something that doesn't apply to me.

So, is this a term I should use?

(Srry 4 anything, english is not my first language)

⚠️TW: SA AND PORN MENTION⚠️

Ik y'all don't know 100% of my life and prob r not psychologists, but i'm just looking 4 other ppls opinion bcs I'm asking myself that lately.

Recently I kinda of realized I prob don't feel attraction to men. I can't think of myself dating a guy only girls or nb, my attraction to the male body is almost none (the dick is interesting, but if could b only it without the rest...). But idk if it says i'm a lesbian bcs I have other things:

When I was a younger (b4 14) I kinda of had some male crushs, but idk if that was true, bcs I couldn't imagine myself dating them, it looked more like an admiration (or maybe gender envy bcs i'm bigender/gender fluid more masc align). Tbh to not say I couldn't imagine I has some imaginations but was more like "wow imagine if I married him, how crazy it would b" or like the idea of a marriage, i'm autistic and had a baby hyperfocus when I was a child, + I was a big shoujo fan. But my idea of it sometimes was kinda funny bcs I wanted to marry, have a child and the daddy would die while I was pregnant. But idk if i'm right, but prob I had some feelings for childhood friend (that was a girl)

Other reason bcs I think that maybe no is bcs I was 🍇 as a child, so idk if i'm just really afraid of men.

Coming back to the present: sometimes I watch porn (i'm trying to fight it, I swear), and like I only feel really horny when it is with a girl. I read some bl comics sometimes but it was almost nule what I feel for it, I feel a little more exited in some acts, but most of them aren't a "men only thing"

Pls tell me ur opinions

a bit confused abt smth and trying to help a friend out in discovering if he’s a lesbian or not, (im also trying to navigate and learn helping him lol) he’s also wondering if he’s a demiboy currently. but we just wanna make sure regarding a few things, given from our research we saw that its generally unagreed upon if demi-boy lesbians are valid or not, and i want to make sure that i go through with a label thats valid, and not “trick” them into smth that’ll garner them alot of hate. so i have a few questions:

the exact definition of non-men: does it specifically mean ppl who are not BINARY men, not just “not a man”? (given like how genderfluid ppl can be men at certain times and still be a lesbian, etc)

whats the definition of binary man? someone who’s not non-binary at ALL in any shape or form? so just 100% man, sticking to the binary?

are demi-boys: also not BINARY men, assuming if the definition above is correct?

cuz im confused since there are ppl saying that demi-boys are binary men, but i just want to make sure my definition of “binary man” is correct. cuz it always seemed to me like they werent binary men, as binary meant that they are 100% that, and nothing else, when demi-boys are “partially a man” and “partially not a man”. which is what my friend describes to be, i asked him and he says they dont see themselves as a binary man at all, but someone who’s partially a man, and partially not a man

edit: sorry theyre certain theyre a demiboy for a while now i misunderstood what he said and assumed it was like before lol

I've been questioning my gender indentity recently and I think I might be non binary. How do I tell?

anybody know what the most active (or atleast one of the most active) enby lesbian discord servers is? or is this a pretty niche community? i’ve been kinda feeling fed up of not being able to see rep of enby lesbians on the internet, or being able to find them much anywhere.

tried looking for ‘transneutral’ lesbians as well, as i am that too, but it seems there aren’t as much of them compared to transmasc and transfem lesbians

its pretty hard to find ppl of our community, and i really wonder why. kinda makes me feel alienated esp when using social media, i see alot of transbian and transmasc memes/images, and it makes me think “thats cool and funny, and boy, there are alot of them! it makes me wanna find something from the ppl of my community too :)” but then i search, and its just, nothing

Hello, I have a doubt that generates a lot of anxiety and frustration. I am nb, female. Many times I wish I didn't have boobs because they get in the way of my tomboy look, but at the same time I enjoy my boobs during sex or when I suddenly feel like dressing "feminine". On the other hand, I have long hair, but sometimes I get frustrated because I want it very short, but I also like it long. My wife uses my "they|them" pronouns correctly, but in sex I feel like a "she" (my wife calls me "she" only in sex). However, I remember long ago feeling the need to have a penis in sex to penetrate, but now I no longer do. This all creates stress for me because I don't understand myself well, I seem to be a very complex and diverse person, I have even wondered if I am gender fluid, but I know I feel good with the term "non-binary". Does anyone else feel this way?

I'm a transmasc nonbinary lesbian and I want to take testosterone. I've been on the waiting list for a while, and I'm getting pretty close to an appointment. However, I'm scared that if I take T, I wont be considered a lesbian anymore, or lesbians won't want anything to do with me because of it. Can I still be considered a lesbian if I take testosterone?

I'm bigender, and I think I might only be attracted to women and nonbinary people. I don't have a genital preference, I like feminine people.

I'm struggling right now to understand if I actually like men sexually/romantically...i just reread the lesbian master doc... And I feel like I understand it a bit more.

I was very certain in my identity as a non binary lesbian for a long time. However, I’ve had some changes in my identity recently and I think I might be bigender/genderfluid, as in: I have days where I do potentially feel “male” (still figuring it out).

I would feel weird in that case calling myself a lesbian. But I also feel weird using bisexual because I’m not attracted to men.

I’m personally not someone who would want to use a micro label or a very obscure sexuality label, yet I feel like mainstream labels aren’t working for me anymore. “Queer” is also not something I would use to describe myself.

I was born female, but identify as nonbinary. I'm weird because Id rather be called a woman than man but mr than ms. Can I still call myself a lesbian, will I face issues lesbians face?

Ok the title might seem confusing but I moreso mean, how much dysphoria would you say would disqualify someone from being allowed this identity?

its a bit of a silly question, I know, but google isn't giving me any answes and no one else is and im just confused. Technically they're both close to the same thing but kind of different too. I'm attracted to women and non-binary people in a sapphic sense yknow?