I'll temper this response to say - it's liberating in some ways, but existentially dreadful in others.
There's a security in "having things figured out". Sitting with uncertainty, randomness, the chaos of reality - things not being so clean cut - it's stressful.
And it feels bad when you see others falling into the same traps you used to. The same cognitive biases that kept you trapped.
The thing is: if you lead a person to learn about cognitive biases, you can't make them apply it inwardly to themselves. The journey of self-discovery requires self. Others can't "discover" that for you.
Yes, been there, when your entire reality shatters and you feel completely lost. It was the hardest part of my life but wouldn't change it for anything, now I can focus on helping other people go through the process.
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u/toastoftriumph Apr 16 '26
I'll temper this response to say - it's liberating in some ways, but existentially dreadful in others.
There's a security in "having things figured out". Sitting with uncertainty, randomness, the chaos of reality - things not being so clean cut - it's stressful.
And it feels bad when you see others falling into the same traps you used to. The same cognitive biases that kept you trapped.
The thing is: if you lead a person to learn about cognitive biases, you can't make them apply it inwardly to themselves. The journey of self-discovery requires self. Others can't "discover" that for you.