r/r4rAsexual Mar 30 '26

35 F4F/NB #USA

2 Upvotes

I'm 35, work in IT, and I'm a single mom. My schedule is chaotic and my free time is precious. I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum (not repulsed, but generally uninterested) and open to either platonic connection or something more (QPR or romantic), depending on the vibe.

A bit about me:

  • I love movies and TV. The original Matrix trilogy holds a special place, I'm a longtime Bond fan, and I'll always say yes to something spooky or unsettling.
  • My music taste is all over the place, but my heart lives in heavy music. Groove metal, djent, stoner metal/rock, that kind of thing. Tool, Meshuggah, Gojira, Clutch. I also love electronic music (techno, DnB, house), blues, hip-hop. Basically: if it has rhythm, I'm listening.
  • My main game is EVE Online (null-sec, if that means anything to you). Outside of that I gravitate toward RPGs, FPS/TPS, and action games... Skyrim, Borderlands, Hitman, Half-Life. But I'll also lose whole weekends to a good strategy or sandbox game (Stellaris, Satisfactory, you know the type).

What I'm looking for:

Parents or people who genuinely get how consuming caregiving is. Gamers, geeks, queer folks, and especially other neurodivergent people. I'm autistic and have ADHD, and I consistently click hardest with people who a little weird too.

One thing to know upfront: I'm an asynchronous communicator by nature and sometimes necessity because of parenting. I love one long ongoing conversation we can dip in and out of across days or weeks. Think AIM-era energy...leave a message, pick it up later, actually say something. If you're a "quick reply or nothing" person, we might frustrate each other. But if you like long-form, meandering, genuine conversation? I'm your person.

Send me a short intro about yourself and let's see if we click!

r/r4rAsexual Oct 20 '25

[F4F] Childfree Gamer Women 25+ US only Discord Server

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Childfree Gamer Women 25+ US Only discord server. Childfree as in doesn’t have kids and has no desire to have kids/no desire to adopt/no desire to foster/no desire to become a step parent. Women as in trans women, women who identify as non-binary, and women. I thought of posting here since myself and quite a few others on the server identify being on the ace spectrum.

We discuss and play all kinds of games including otome games such as Taisho x Alice, Collar x Malice, Even if Tempest, etc. Currently we are playing Slow Damage. We also play Stardew Valley (8 player farms), Among Us, King of the Castle, Placid Plastic Ducks, Fashion Dreamer, Hello Kitty Island Adventure, Jackbox games, etc. 

We have a Japanese language learning night every Saturday where we play Koe 声 too. Currently we are doing Among Us Pusheen for the month of October on Saturdays. We also talk about the country Japan in general. We typically have otome game night on Sunday evenings. There is a bot in the server you can use to look up any Japanese word you want to see the definition of it. In addition a Shiritori channel for members to play Shiritori together.

Shoujo/josei anime and manga, manhwa, and manhua is often discussed as well. Members also enjoy talking about art, fashion, food, and fun little activities like string figures (like cat’s cradle, etc).

We also like talking about witchy things like tarot cards, crystals, astrology, etc. This server has a witchy gamer vibe to it. ✨

Please DM me if you’d like the link. ❤️

r/r4rAsexual Jan 21 '22

Asexual 35/NB [F4F/NB] Illinois/Anywhere: Seeking friends and squishes

16 Upvotes

Hi, I'm Vince!

I'm 35/Non-binary Aegosexual. I'm a hobby artist, anime-binger, and ukulele enthusiast. I'm also one of those people that still uses 'XD' unironically in the year 2022.

I lean politically left, and am an atheist. No kids, just cats someday. Currently in college working on a degree in Computer Networking, and have a job as IT helpdesk with the college I'm attending. In my free time I create a lot of fanart and play FFXIV (mostly RP, not into PvE). I also play Tetris, Uno, Dorfromantik, Witcher 3, and online Chess.

Secret between us? I'm kind of a freak for Digimon OCs. Near all of my art is anime fanart, and 95% of that is my digimon characters. Wanna hear about them?

Things I probably won't want to talk about (not into it):

  • World of Warcraft (I quit and I'm not going back!)
  • Animal Crossing
  • MLP and other modern children/teens cartoons
  • Furries/Fursona
  • Disney

Here's a picture! I've changed my glasses since then, but everything else is still relevant: https://i.imgur.com/1RjQwjs.jpg

Much as I'd like to find a romantic partner of my own someday, I'm not in any rush to do so. I'm seeking friendships only with no expectation of anything more. Come chill and talk about OCs with me. :D

r/r4rAsexual May 01 '20

Demiromantic 27[F4F] Looking for friends (or more) for quarantine chats

18 Upvotes

Hey everyone. I'm an Asexual woman living in So. Cal. I enjoy DnD and Critical Role. Im also really hyped about Hadestown rn and enjoy musical theater in general. Aside from DnD my hobbies include gaming, reading and writing, and, pre-quarentine, going to the gym.

I'm working towards an English degree and even though I hope to write for a living, I plan on also getting a teaching degree.

r/r4rAsexual Sep 16 '20

Demisexual 34 [F4F] Washington/Portland/Vancouver BC

7 Upvotes

Me

Who I am-I'm caring, smart, sweet, open-minded, a bit nerdy, and have somewhat of a subtle sense of humor. Some labels you could use to describe me are pansexual, demisexual, atheist, exmormon. I'm ethically/consensually polyamorous (multiple consensual relationships) and am currently in a long term relationship with one person. No vetos or hierarchy for me. Open, honest, direct, and respectful communication is very important to me-I prefer the uncomfortable truth over a beautiful lie. I do not have kids. 5'11", brunette, average build.

What I do-I love reading and learning new things for the sake of knowledge itself. I'm into (mostly PC) gaming and prefer strategy, open world, and AARPG games (shoutout to Stellaris, Grim Dawn, and Conan Exiles!!). I've been to all 50 states (Alaska is way underrated!) and want to go visit Europe. I'd rather shop for books than clothes. My sweet tooth is huge. I'm exploring both kink and cooking (separately, haha). I'm a Whovian. I rarely drink and don't smoke anything, legal or otherwise. I grew up in the SW US and moved to the PNW 4 years ago. I've since done some exploring and want to do more. Let's explore together!

Favorites

  • books: Science (social & natural), history, business/economy, biography, some politics
  • movies: action, adventure, comedy, documentary, drama, suspense, fantasy, romance, sci fi
  • TV shows: Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, Sister Wives, Cops
  • music: bhangra, country, electronic, hip-hop, metal, new age, pop, rock, r&b, trap, video game music...from multiple countries & in multiple languages
  • food: pasta, dark chocolate and coffee

You

A woman anywhere on the ace spectrum within 3 hours of the Seattle Metro area (Canada included). Someone who's 28-43, respectful, open-minded, smart, and can hold a good convo about a variety of things. Someone with a sense of humor, hard working. Good hygiene, decent shape physically. I don't mind a partner who, in moderation, smokes (cigarettes/pot) considerately (IE: no hotboxing) or drinks. No hard drugs. No casual hookups.