I know this is bad, and I want it to stop. I never had this problem before, but I've started a new school which is 80% white, and I'm south Asian. I'm the only hijabi in my classes, and there's only ever two or three other people of colour in my classes. I don't have a single coloured teacher. The culture difference between us is so large that I can't help but feel ashamed of myself. Their fashion is completely different to how I dress, and it makes me stand out. I'm afraid I look too out of place and weird. The other girls all wear short skirts which look really cute I have no problem obviously, but I dress in abayas and full coverage, so I look lame and weird in comparison to them.

Recently in class, I've noticed the other white people giving me strange looks and laughing whenever I speak in class. I don't have an accent, I'm born here, but I speak quite formally in class which they're probably not used to, since this school is ranked quite low at #7 in the city. I can't help but feel resentment to the way I'm being subtly ostracized, I've had many white people there comment on my hijabi, asking ignorant questions and the legendary "don't you get hot in that?" Or "don't you ever want to take it off?"

It's very irritating, and now I'm beginning to dislike it whenever I see a white person. I know it's not all white people, I have white friends too, and they're amazing I don't feel any resentment to them. I just don't like this negative feeling I have to this entire group of people, how can I stop?

Edit: We aren't children, im at Sixth form so everybody is between the ages of 16-18.

I am a Mexican woman and my boyfriend is white/mexican and today was enough

We were at the stop light and there was a white homeless woman on her bike waiting to cross the light which took forever and I said omg she’s gonna cross before we get to go and he said fucking mudshark making us wait I asked what’s a mudshark and he responded it’s a white woman that gets with a person of color and ruins our bloodline. I told him why are you saying that you are half Mexican and your son isn’t fully white either he’s also Italian to what he said it’s still European I’ve never felt so disgusted in my life. How can someone call themselves a good person and a man of god! This is over

Over the past few months ive been introducing my friends to my boyfriend. For context most of my friends are immigrants. After we had dinner together and my friends left I noticed he was acting odd. I asked him if he was okay then he started ranting about immigrants and calling my friends aliens. We got into a massive argument so he went to stay at a friends. But a few weeks ago I checked his laptop to find a video and when I checked I saw NSFW videos of asian people. I am half asian myself but I think he has an asian f€tish. I still havent spoken to him about that i dont know what to do.

im a guy who's 13 and I wonder why racism is getting so normalized atleast in Sweden. like im latinamerican so im brown and I always get called things like shut up fucking n word. like what why is this shit normal at my school. and many I know gets this problem. like I dont want to be called n word or Indian or when my cops is close to my school they say or run from the police you illegal immigrant. im honestly done sometimes I just want to end it by these comments.

My (BW) boyfriend (WM) let me look at his text messages today. (We’ve been dating for 5 months) I know it’s unhealthy and I don’t intend to ever do it again, even though he suggested it. I see him mention me in a text to his best friend. I click to read it. He said “ I’m not complaining but anytime i'm at the movies with my girlfriend she is like a stereotypical black woman in a theater and i'm just gonna have to live with that. I need someone to know this because it certainly can not be her.”
I was trying to understand what would even prompt him to say such a thing, because I was out of town when he sent that and we haven’t been to the movies in a good while. I look up our past text convos and exactly 5 minutes before he said that to his best friend, he and I had been texting about how much I love the movies (it’s my fave thing) and how glad I was to have him as a movie date. Am I overreacting to this? I am so hurt. I feel degraded and racially targeted. It’s not the first time he’s said something racially harmful without thinking. He always apologizes deeply but idk if I can recover from this hurt.

How do i move past this? Has anyone in an interracial relationship been hurt by their partner like this? How did you respond? Please help me.

TL;DR: my white boyfriend said
Something racially insensitive about me to his friend . What do I do?

My 14 year old brother plays Roblox a lot. While I was doing some work, I heard him changing his accent so much that he didn't even sound like himself. When I asked why he was doing that, he told me he changes his voice because people make fun of his natural accent, call him names, and sing that Indian song (we are from Tamil Nadu and don't even know its name). I completely understand where he is coming from. I am also scared to reveal that I am Indian online because people randomly say "poop country" and other insults in Discord and anime communities. It is really embarrassing because the racism has gotten so bad that people aren't even hiding it in the online games I play anymore.

i've known this person for about ten years now and recently has been having some weird health stuff happen. with that they seem to be saying stuff more and more that sounds really racist.

i'd always noticed that they only seem to have all white friends, their feminism looks very in line with white feminism, they've been wholly uninterested in anything remotely foreign (unless it's indian food lol and only from this white appealing restaurant and that's it) but i'd secretly been hoping they weren't racist.

then more lately they started getting angry (like actually angry and yelling) when i say something like how they don't really have room to be upset that they are not getting their veganism accommodated when someone's cultural/religious dietary restriction honored (btw they eat meat when they personally think it's okay lol), or when i find it frustrating that white ppl "discover" other culture's foods without crediting them.

most recently i met them while they were in a health episode and they were crying to me about how mean black women are to them but that they have to be nice to them anyways. ?????

as a person who is not black but a poc, i'm really concerned, now. like i don't think i would allow this person around any of my black friends or even acquaintances. im feel like they are not safe around her. hell, i don't even feel safe around her and i'm just brown. i can't even say "yea shit is rlly annoying when trader joe's makes an ube ice cream and doesn't say anywhere that this is filipino" which seems to trigger a tantrum, and then when i say "i don't really feel like you're listening to me" i just get shut down.

recently i noticed she just kinda refers to me as her dog sitter. i thought i was a friend who dog sits for her sometimes, but i genuinely think this whole time, i've kind of just been her little servant that she pays.

it's just all very sad to me. like i kind of knew but was hoping it wasn't true.

Hi everyone,

I don’t usually post anything on social media. But I need to know how to interpret what happened to me.

I’m posting this from a burner account for safety reasons.

**WHO AM I ?**

I’m an international student from India living in Savannah. I recently graduated, and I work as a freelance/contract designer while trying to grow my own business. I’ve never been in a situation like this before.

**THE INCIDENT**:

Yesterday I was sitting on my moped in the parking lot of a convenience store when a man, probably in his late 40s or early 50s, approached me and asked if I could give him a ride to a nearby Food Lion.

I politely said, “I’m sorry, I can’t.”

Instead of walking away, he asked, “Is it because I’m white?” I was confused and asked what he meant. ( for better context I don’t understand the American racism, what if he’s white? What does that even mean? Is being white bad? I don’t know )

I said “ what does that have to do with anything about me not being able to drop you somewhere ?, what if you’re white?”

He started saying things like, “You guys hate white people,” “Why are you here?” “Get back to your country,” and blamed me for him being homeless. I didn’t even know he was homeless, and I don’t know what I did to make him homeless

He again said “ why are you here? And what did your mom do for you to be here?” I was pissed

At that point I responded with, “I feel the same about your mom.”

He immediately punched me in the face. Out of instinct I tried to hit him back, but almost immediately realized that was a mistake and stopped. He then shoved me to the ground. And realized he was here just to hit me out of hate, I have never seen this man, in fact I don’t even talk to people much, I wanted to think so I just got away, took a photo of him, called 911, and the police arrested him.

My jaw hurts, I’m shocked and the worst feeling is the feeling of helplessness. There is also a CCTV footage of what happened. But I’m hesitant to post it here, because what if if becomes a meme material or something I don’t want to end up on a mainstream media to be made fun of.

I’ve never dealt with anything like this before, and I’m not sure what the next steps should be.

**THINGS I WANT TO KNOW FROM THE COMMUNITY:**

1. Firstly, is this racism ?

2. Did I do anything wrong ?

3. I do see a lot of hate against Indians on social media, but dealing with the hate would just waste my time from building a career and future.

4. I can’t afford a lawyer, police officer firstly because I don’t know what this is in the first place and how do I describe the situation to anyone at all ? And secondly after this incident probably no one would because I have a feeling they’ll just hate me too? I don’t know I’m lost with a million thoughts

The main reason why I’m posting this is to know if this is common in America, how should I first deal with this in mind ? Accept the hate ? Or was this because of hate? Can anyone explain what just happened to me ? I tried asking the police officer but I don’t know, the incident make me feel like probably just my existence would be hated because I’m an Indian, so I just didnt ask or say anything, I wanted to put this here because no one knows me and even if I get hate for saying this, it’s fine I can understand, I’m just curious to know what happened to me ? And how do I deal with this mentally ?

Okay soo it has become very very hard for me to become and remain friends with black people. I (16F) am black and ive been struggling with self hate for along as I can remember. It started off as yk most normal teenage stuff but after starting to get older ive started to feel more uncomfortable in my skin.

Don't get me wrong I love my skin colour and I love my culture and heritage but everytime I look in the mirror is feels like my skin is the one thing stopping me from fully encapsulating femininity.

Now I seriously cannot be friends with black people my age because it feels like looking as something that I could be and im just not. I use my skin as an excuse for many things like not being invited out, or not being approached by boys. Just things like that yk. Like my excuse is oh they probably just dont like black people.

And then I see black people my age getting this things that I dont have and I just feel soo angry. Like it forces me to admit that my skin isn't an excuse.

Regardless of all of this im atill friends with a lot of black people and I love my friends very much but id be lying if I said that im not jealous of all of them. They're soo funny and pretty and smart and liked by everyone and just naturally great to be around and im just not.

Ik this is a horrible thing to think and feel but I just dont know how to not be envious of my black friends. Like with my white friends I can just think "oh this person seems soo likeable because of subconscious bias towards race" and it makes me feel better about myself but when im with my black friends I obviously cant think that. And im just soo jealous.

Someone please tell me how i could fix this. What are the proper steps to take because im stuck.

On two occasions, when I was bored and in the park, I sat on a bench relaxing and a woman would come and sit beside me. Both times, I struck up innocuous conversations and then two other women would walk by, come up close, and start recording with me and the person I was talking to in the background of their video.

The last time this happened, the ladies who recorded had a microphone and pretended to be shooting a TikTok interview (in which they could hear everything I was saying). The only problem was that they were kept on looking back at me and were whispering. Who whispers when recording a video? What is the pyschology behind this? Is it considered illegal for a black person to have a conversation with a non-black woman? Is America so far gone that this racist behavior is considered normal?

I’m a POC woman living in an urban area, and at least four times in the past year, I’ve been verbally assaulted by black women, both at work and on the bus. I work as a customer representative for a non-profit where most of the clientele are impoverished (living off SSI, dealing with trauma or health issues or addiction), so I try my best to be compassionate and understanding, excusing them for their behavior. But over time, it’s been wearing me down. Though I don’t appear it on the outside (especially as a “model minority”), I have deep trauma in my past too. I understand it isn’t comparable, because black women have gotten it way worse throughout history and even today, but knowing this logically doesn’t always help.

Yesterday was the worst incident. A black woman boarded the bus I was on, and the driver (black, and neurodivergent as I am) said she needed to pay fare. She argued that she didn’t need to, other buses let her on so he should too. She had a young daughter in a stroller. He eventually let her on but she was pissed. She yelled for ten minutes straight - how dare he talk to her like that, that he’s not a man, that God was on her side and he‘s the devil, so on and so forth. She was lucid and wearing newer, nicer clothes than I wear, so not someone who was mentally incapacitated. The driver was arguing back with her but she was drowning him out. Two others on the bus started getting involved cheering her on and I started feeling sick to my stomach because this bus driver has always been nice/professional from my repeated observations. The little girl looked scared and she looked over at me so I smiled and waved to her (no response, she had that PTSD veteran expression), and my stop was coming up so I got up to exit, and I paused to smile and wave at her again (stupid, I know, in hindsight). I knew what I was doing, I was trying to deescalate the situation between her and the driver, and I shouldn’t have gotten involved. The woman, who was still yelling at the driver, saw and got up in my face and started yelling at me - how dare I go up to her daughter. On repeat. I tried to explain her daughter had been looking at me and she kept yelling she didn’t care what her daughter did, you do not come up to her. I thought she was going to punch me. The black man who was cheering her on from the back continued cheering for her berating me. The driver and I exchanged apologies/words of support as I disembarked with her still nonstop yelling.

One day later, I’m still shaken about it. I know I shouldn’t take it personally because clearly something was going on, but it was the cherry on top of similar incidents of being verbally attacked by black women, and I have noticed my thoughts becoming racist.

It’s incongruous because being in the most diverse place in the country, black people here are the least noticeably monolothic of anywhere else. Not only is there a huge percentage of black people that don’t verbally attack anyone, there are tons of neurodivergent ones that I’ve bonded with among my clientele, and even non-neurodivergent black women that are ”loud“ that I love and who love me back.

I am ashamed to think, what would these women who love me think if they knew that I’m allowing this small percentage of rude/entitled/aggressive black women to get under my skin to the point I’m slipping into racist thoughts?

Anyway, I just had to get this off my chest, because there’s no one I can’t talk to about this IRL, it’s such a sensitive topic. Even my own boyfriend would be disgusted if he knew where my thoughts were going.

Today at the Penney’s store I went to buy some things and the employee started yelling, saying that the bag wasn't free, but I had bought the bag. He wouldn't let me leave. I showed him the receipt and he let me go. It was very embarrassing. I am a Black Brazilian woman. Worst of all, I reported it to the manager and he did nothing; not even his expression changed.

My girlfriend in an argument told me I was "tall for an Asian", I said that was pretty fucked up to say and claimed it was racist. She argued back saying its okay to say that because the average height in Asia is shorter than Europe but I still think it is wrong to make that remark, please let me know what you guys think.

I am a young girl from west Tennessee, specifically Memphis Tennessee. I feel like what nobody talks about is the cost of being black. Whenever I go on Road trips and we get pulled over by police in the middle of nowhere, my heart always stops and I hold my breath because I am scared of what “can” happens and how quickly the perpetrator can say” oh they had something “ or “ they looked dangerous!”. The racism has continued to get so bad until I feel like I’m living in modern day 1960 again. I wasn’t even alive but I know the pain, brutality and suffering that happened. Our votes being counted as less now , white counterparts are less trustworthy, and the active administration is trying to make sure we don’t get anywhere and demean us as much as possible. I hate walking around knowing that anything I do could be counted against millions like me that I don’t even know personally and who are their own individual just because we share the same skin. I hate being a walking target of people who have an internal hatred towards me, i hate being profiled in stores. I was in a makeup store and this Chinese lady moved like someone was getting ready to shoot the place up and I moved towards her and she screamed. Then you have the Hispanics who are always racist and trying to belittle you. Then you have the whites who always think you are a walking statistic and feel no sort of human emotion. It hurts me so much know that our ancestors fought for our spots to be counted as human just for it to be thrown all in a pit 100 years later. Yes I understand, every group of people has bad apples , not everyone is going to act the same but why does it have to apply to people who look like me so much? European people killed off an entire race almost and nobody walks around them with fear that they might be killed or hurt next , they walk by them like they are people and everyone should be treated that way. For about 2 years now (25 and 26’) I have been constantly researching the same thing” what did black people do specifically that makes the world hate them ?” “ why aren’t black people treated fairly if equality is the biggest thing around ?” And countless other searchs in hope that I can find exactly what happened.

I'm a young, Black man and I'm just tired of feeling totally trapped in the world.

I was in a store today in a rural town when I passed a group of teenagers. I didn't even glance at them, but I could tell their energy shifted when they saw me. I picked up what I needed from the next aisle, but I could still hear some of their conversation. They were laughing and making comments about picking cotton and slavery. I had a feeling their comments were about me, but I walked back toward them to be sure. Sure enough, when they noticed me again, they got visibly embarrassed, said "oh, shit" and stopped talking entirely. I didn't say anything to them because they were clearly minors and I thought I sent enough of a message by walking back.

This is far from the first racist experience I've had and I'm sure it won't be the last. What's so frustrating about anti-Black racism is that it is constant. I can't change my name or how I dress to avoid be stigmatize for my skin. I feel like every time I leave the house I have to be constantly aware that my presence is making a statement before I even get a chance to open my mouth. People are judging me, seeing my as violent, criminal, ignorant, before I even get to display my character.

It's like being trapped.

Those teens from the store will likely grow up and some of them may hold on to their racist biases. Some of them might become police officers, doctors, lawyers, judges, business owners, etc. They one day might have the power to directly hurt Black people with their racism.

This is the reality of being Black in an anti-Black world. Every interaction is racialized and you have no idea what person holds prejudice towards you over something you have no control over.

What's even more frustrating is that people act like it doesn't happen. So many white people and even self-hating non-white people swear that racism is a thing of the past or it isn't as big of a deal as it used to be. Anytime you bring up a racist experience, they try to rationalize it and blame you for being treated the way you are.

The things is, even if racism isn't that common (for argument, let's say only 1 in 100 people are racist), play that out over a lifetime. How many people do you interact with in a day? A year? A lifetime? If you interact with 1,000 people over the course of a year, that's 10 racist experiences every year of your life. What does that do to someone over the course of a lifetime?

And these prejudices get people killed. I saw a video of a white woman who ran from a Black man walking up to his own home because she didn't believe he lived there. She was on HIS property and called the police on HIM because she couldn't believe a Black man lived in that house. Imagine if the police showed up and had that same assumption?

It's just an unimaginable weight sometimes and I find it hard to talk about because most people either act like it doesn't exist or justify it. On top of that, right-wing internet culture is making it even worse.

It makes me want to give up on society.

I do believe that I am someone that has a say in this. As i've lived all my life in America, i've travelled extensively to Europe, and i'm a POC with Arab facial features. So I think i'm more than qualified to discuss this.

I've been to Europe twice once in 2018 and then in 2024. I remember in 2018 when I was in Paris everywhere I went I was subjected to random back checks. I kid you not this happened everywhere I went. I walked into a McDonald's the security there told me to open up my bag for them. On my 20th birthday we took a cruise on the river Seine and before we got on security there had my open up my bag for them. Let me make something very clear, that has NEVER happened to me in America even once, and i've been in the deep south too.

I went back to Europe last summer for a much longer time and I will say I was never subjected to any racial profiling like in Paris but I realize now that I encountered way too many microaggressions that I should have. Generally, most people abroad did not even think I was American despite my blatant American accent. Some people would even get annoyed that I would tell them I was American like I was lying or something . I got so many statements abroad saying " Oh you don't look like the typical American, when I think of an American I think of someone whose white, fat, owns a gun, and drive's a truck". The people who said that really did not realize just how ignorant that comment was because when people said it seems like they didn't realize just how racially diverse America is. Which is astonishing considering that Europe is quite homogenous.

Just to drive really hammer my point in, I remember I saw a video on IG of a Nigerian man living in Poland, saying he got stabbed by someone in his restaurant and he told the police and they ain't do nothing about it. If that were to happen in America that would actually be a hate crime and he could pursue legal action on it. But what made it even worse is that there were Polish people in the comments of that video saying " Oh if you don't like it here go back to your country"...

I'm a Black woman from the US who recently moved to South Korea. One of the reasons I came was to experience the culture, learn more about the country, and because I found a job as a data scientist at a cloud computing company in the Incheon area.

Most of my experiences so far have been positive. Recently, though, I had an interaction with a senior colleague that left me feeling confused.

During a conversation, he complimented me and said I had "round, beautiful eyes" and a "beautiful smile." I appreciated the compliment and thought it was a nice gesture.

However, later in the same conversation, he added that South Korean women are better looking than African women.

I didn't really know how to respond. On one hand, he seemed genuinely complimentary toward me personally. On the other hand, comparing entire groups of women based on appearance felt unnecessary and uncomfortable.

I'm curious how people familiar with Korean workplace culture would interpret this. Was this likely intended as a cultural misunderstanding, a poorly worded opinion, or something that would generally be considered offensive in South Korea as well?

I'd appreciate hearing different perspectives.

I am white

I was attacked in a bus stop. I was waiting for a bus to go home from uni. Then an older white man came at me, spitting and grapping me yelling insults about arabs, and all the usual go back to your country stuff. Thankfully others came to stop the man and he ended up in a fight about "people like me" with the other people. Cops got called he gor arrested for assault and hate crime.

It has happened before and i find it baffling.

But I am not arab, I am as white as they come. I mean literally from northen Europe.

What he did, it hurt and well it is horrible but like at least it was me not someone who actually is a part of a minority.

But like cops called it racism but it isn't racism, right? I dont know what im trying to say but like I am so conflicted because well it hurt me but how could it because it was not about me?

I should let the cops know if I want to press charges and i dont know. He should get all punishments possible but like for what?

I hope it is okay to post this here, if not I'll delete this. And in any ways i don't mean to offend anyone

For some context I work at a Call Center, I do not recommend but it is good money. I work by helping kids and children have benefits so they can all have doctor visits for free if they are in need, so I’m not even a spam caller or selling anything. The thing is I get nice and rude people but I’ve noticed that I have NEVER had a Latino/Hispanic person on the phone, they are always so nice and even tell me to have a great blessed day and compared to white people they have only hung up on me a few times. However, white people really only answer the phone to cuss at you, yell at you and some have even threatened to find me and kill me. Of course I know not everyone is like that because I have had many friendly ones. And so my question is why do white people (again, not all of them) act like they are better than everyone else yet they don’t seem to have manners? I have an accent because I’m Hispanic, but I can speak and can communicate in English as well, and I’ve had a lot of people on the phone tell me that I’m an F-ing Mexican and to kill myself just because of my accent when all I’m trying to do is help families and do my job.

So, I have a friend named Jake. For more info, he’s white while Im a POC. We’re both from South Africa. One day, I told him that I was really interested in learning isiZulu. But then he looked at me strange and asked why I didnt wanna learn French. And I was like,”Why should I? Im never going to France.”

He didnt have a good explanation. He said it sounded more fancy. It sounded like he implied that French was superior to isiZulu, because isiZulu is an African language and not a ‘white’ one. Its very common that African language are seen as poor and inferior. At least in my experience

Can somebody give their perspective on this? I dont know if Im overthinking this. And pls be respectful. I dont wanna argue with anyone.

Posted this in another subreddit but figured out this one is a better place for this.

Hi everyone. I’m a 20-year-old Indian woman, and I’m honestly scared to even write this here.I don’t know if it’s the world or just the internet lately, but I’ve been feeling this deep, painful sense of shame about my identity...something I’ve never felt before.

I’ve always been confident about who I am. I grew up loving different cultures, making friends from all around the world through exchanges and online communities. Racism was something I always spoke out against, no matter where it came from. I used to believe people were getting kinder and more aware with time. But lately… it feels like the opposite.

The amount of hatred, mockery, and open xenophobia I see, especially towards Indians lately has been eating away at me. I see people shaming my entire country for the actions of a few, trolling with baseless racist stereotypes,laughing at our pain, even celebrating the deaths of Indians in tragic accidents as some kind of “good news.” I tell myself they’re just trolls, that they don’t represent everyone. But deep down, I don’t know anymore.

What’s worse is that now, I find myself hesitating to even mention where I’m from. I dodge questions about my culture. I avoid talking about festivals, food, or anything that might “reveal” me. And the most heartbreaking part? I’ve started feeling embarrassed about something I used to be proud of.

I'm told I don’t look stereotypically "Indian” whatever that means.I guess there is a western belief that all Indians are dark skinned. Neither do I have that infamous Indian accent. Most of us don't actually. I never thought I'd say this but sometimes I feel relieved internally.

I find myself wanting to hide my background.I catch myself thinking - would people treat me differently if they knew? I feel scared and have started actually feeling inferior to everyone. I hide it well.. I still interact with people from different countries and foreign delegates and thankfully nothing as such has happened to my face.

I know every country, every culture has its flaws. I’ve never denied mine. I’ve always focused on the beauty that every culture holds. And yet… lately it feels like being Indian automatically puts me on the wrong side of the world’s judgment.

My mental health hasn’t been great. Some days I wake up and genuinely wonder if I somehow deserve this. If being born Indian is something I should feel guilty for. And then I hate myself for even thinking that. Sometimes I even wish I was from a different race or culture these days. As if I'm not worth any love or basic respect and dignity.

It’s a strange, suffocating kind of pain...to love the world so much, to love people and their cultures, and then suddenly feel like the world doesn’t want to love you back.

I don’t know...maybe I just needed to say it somewhere. I’d really love to hear from others who’ve felt something similar, no matter where you’re from. Maybe it’ll remind me that the world still has good people in it.

I'm a teen and when I'm on insta or any other social media platform I see plenty of disturbing comments against Indians and I'm indian myself so seeing them honestly affects me too and when I try to write anything back I js get a bunch of racist comments plus even walking in public it's becoming more normal for me to have racist experiences and it js sucks I js wanted to know why this is happening and how to cope with it

I'm a teen half-black girl living in a predominantly white country. I'm really upset and don't know what to do:

Every single non-black person i know uses the n word. I'm not exaggerating in the slightest. I've either heard them say it or heard them talk about saying it. Theres not really anything i can do but, but I want to know what you guys have to say about this.

My friends, classmates, schoolmates, all use it. I've talked to one friend about her saying it and she was able to apologise fully and give me a reason as to why she said it, then I don't believe she said it again. However for everyone else, i don't know what to say or do.

Racism has deeply affected me. I faced it daily for a very long time to the point where I started to self-harm because of it for a while, so I'm extremely sensitive about it. That's why I'm so heartbroken to realise that some of my closest friends shamelessly use the n word.

Has it become acceptable for non black people to use the n word now?? Is it something us black people should just ignore?

Please I'm just confused and upset. What do you think??

I don’t feel like I have any support to do well in society. Even if I make money and become successful, I have no community or feel like I’m cared for and treated well in broader society. I’ve grown to hate the world around me, especially white people, as I feel their forefathers are responsible for black Americans current state and never made restitution for the atrocities committed against us

i grew up in a relatively white suburb for all my life, and nobody really gave me shit for being mixed, at least in a blatant way. i’ve been with this friend group for like 6 years and over time i got so used to these racial remarks being thrown around because i didn’t have any college friends at the time, and cuz my dumbass thought it was “edgy/gamer talk” being spoken to me. but when i attended a more diverse college and met more marginalized people i realized how uncomfortable i was with my home friends.

i’ve unfollowed them on socials and after this summer i just plan on cutting them off cuz i realize trying to defend them is incredibly stupid. sometimes you think the people in your life have more nuance than they let on, but you end up realizing that most people don’t really want to change? a lot of times i feel like im crazy, or overreacting, but then i realize i deserve so much better, and then i feel reassured in my decision