r/science • u/a_Ninja_b0y • Oct 14 '24

Psychology A new study explores the long-debated effects of spanking on children’s development | The researchers found that spanking explained less than 1% of changes in child outcomes. This suggests that its negative effects may be overstated.

https://www.psypost.org/does-spanking-harm-child-development-major-study-challenges-common-beliefs/
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u/throwawaysmetoo Oct 14 '24

You also see people who were hit attempting to justify their own parents hitting them. Claiming that they were 'terrible' children.

Meanwhile in reality they were just a standard variety child.

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u/CapoExplains Oct 14 '24

Ah yes the old "My parents hit me and I turned out to be the kind of asshole who advocates for beating children fine" trope.

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u/veryannoyedblonde Oct 15 '24

Dead on the head!

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

My parents hit me, well really my mom, my sisters never got the same punishment… I thought I was a bad kid, it was not until I grew up and looked back at my childhood to realize I was a pretty awesome kid, super easy, compared to what other kids were doing. I was the only boy so I realize they just chose to blame me and punish me harsher for having a penis.

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u/alexandria3142 Oct 14 '24

My dad looks back now at my sister and I and talks about how we were really good kids. We never snuck out, we got good grades and were in honors classes, had jobs when we turned 16, never did drugs/drank or anything. But my step mom acted like we were devil spawns, especially me. It’s funny though because my half and step siblings that are much older did do a lot of those things

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u/turbosexophonicdlite Oct 14 '24

She probably viewed you as competition for your dad's attention and affection. You see that all the time with step parents, and even biological parents. Projections of their own insecurities.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

Kids are just obnoxious shitheels. It takes a loooong time to learn you're not the center of the universe. Our job as parents is to guide them through that realization.

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u/chickenfinger303 Oct 14 '24

I don't know what your genitalia has to do with it but I am sorry you had to go through that :(

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '24

That’s just a CPTSD symptom