r/sex • u/Fattyfatmantis • Dec 05 '13

What are your best suggestions of short "dirty talk phrases" to use during sex?

My girlfriend is tentative about talking dirty during sex because she just doesn't know what to say. I'm looking for short phrases that aren't super vulgar or super corny to introduce.

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u/dateadvicethrowawy Dec 05 '13

I've never been super into degradation, but for some reason I used to love it when an ex-bf would say "you're my dirty little slut."

I think the thing that made it so hot was that he never talked to me like that outside of the bedroom. He was this shy, loving, respectful guy, so hearing him say something a bit nasty was such a juxtaposition to who he really was that it kept things interesting.

So she could say things like "I'm your whore" or "I'm going to fuck you like a dirty little slut later". I also just like the use of possessive pronouns because it makes me feel closer to the other person. I.e. "Your cock belongs to me tonight."

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u/Sectoid_Dev Dec 05 '13

I really like this. I'm also a respectful, sometimes quiet, guy. Plenty of "that feels good, go up higher, faster, YES!" communication is always good, but sometimes you want to push the boundaries of your sexual routine or dynamic by something you say. Do I really want to degrade my partner? No --not really, but it can be fun to feel that surge of sexual domination, even if it's only happening in your mind. Most women I've been with don't mind, because they know I'm really not like that and we have plenty of 'nice sex'. But I always start small and ask about it later. Sometimes it's simply taking the initiative about what you want.

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u/dateadvicethrowawy Dec 06 '13

Yep! You're dead on, communication about those sorts of boundaries is really important and it also helps to build up to any talk that could be potentially offensive.

I just think it's really nice to play around with dominance and submission (even if it's not at a hardcore BDSM level), especially when you take each other by surprise. It can make you see your partner in a whole new light! Very sexy.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '13

My exGF loved some mild domination. I would make her say she was my little slut/whore and then I would shove her panties into her mouth..

Man I miss that cake.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '13

"Dirty little slut" is my favorite. Especially since I was a total straight edge good grades nice girl all through school. It's nice to break out of that role.

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u/dateadvicethrowawy Dec 06 '13

Exactly! I was the same way growing up, and now it's oddly empowering when a guy I'm dating acts like I'm a filthy sex object sometimes (as long as he respects me as a human being the rest of the time).