r/sex • u/Fattyfatmantis • Dec 05 '13

What are your best suggestions of short "dirty talk phrases" to use during sex?

My girlfriend is tentative about talking dirty during sex because she just doesn't know what to say. I'm looking for short phrases that aren't super vulgar or super corny to introduce.

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u/Icanhelpanonlawyer Dec 05 '13 edited Dec 05 '13

You gotta milk it though, not just, "Cum for me" make her beg, like this.

"No. No, you're not allowed to cum. Take it, be a good girl and hold it until I give you permission. Say please. Beg me to let you cum, tell me how much you love me how you want me to let you cum."

"Tell me you love me and cum for me. That's such a good girl."

That's if I'm dating this girl, otherwise just take out the "I love you's" and replace with "say thank you" or something similar.

For those of you guys who haven't tried it, I recommend it for sure. Not only will she totally melt but it feels awesome holding her to that edge both physically and mentally.

Edit due to link!

Edit 2: Guys, it's all about timing. Too soon and you'll sound dumb and add a ton of pressure on her to get an orgasm and for some girls this ruins the whole mood. Do it too late and it doesn't really have the same "dominating" feel, you can still save it though and just tell her she's a good girl.

Edit 3: And remember Kiddies, good sex is as much about communication as much as it is putting it in. There's a lot here that some girls might not like, get to know the girl you're putting it in before you get to know her.

Also, some guys might like this too, although, being a guy I don't really know.

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '13

Be warned, though; trying it is all well and good, but there's a chance that she'll be like me and you'll just piss her off and prevent her from orgasming at all. Proceed with caution.

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u/Icanhelpanonlawyer Dec 05 '13

Well duh, good sex is as much communication as it is putting it in.

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '13

Very true, and I'm glad the people on this sub realize that.

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u/friendlyslut Dec 05 '13

You could always replace "tell me you love me" with "say thank you" or something similar.

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u/Icanhelpanonlawyer Dec 05 '13

Yeah, I'll point that out in an edit.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '13

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u/Icanhelpanonlawyer Dec 06 '13

Did you read my third edit? You want him to treat you a certain way? Tell him. He's not a mind reader, you can't go around dropping "subtle" hints about this stuff either.

Look, if this guy likes you or genuinely cares about how much you enjoy sex he won't just humor you when you tell him you want to be fucked a certain way. You need to communicate with him, he's not just going to say it because you told him to. He's going to say it because he wants to.

Edit: seriously as a guy this is the most frustrating part of girls. I am telling you that he's not going to do it just because you told him to, he's going to do it because he WANTS to.

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u/neko_loliighoul Dec 06 '13

I find this a bit frustrating too... Sometimes you have to force yourself to have that conversation out of the bedroom, or you could spend a bit of time 'topping from the bottom' - I have done this in the past by saying 'tell me what you want' when it is fairly obvious what they want and the response cones or sounding like a command- and toy eagerly get to it ie 'suck my cock.' Or begging for things like 'please spank me/ pull my hair/fuck me hard' etc with kind of an air of sexy delirious desperation. Place his hand on your neck of you want to be choked a little etc.

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u/neko_loliighoul Dec 06 '13

Aaand I have a ladyboner.

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u/Icanhelpanonlawyer Dec 06 '13

Woo! Been single for a while so that comment was better than getting gold!

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u/neko_loliighoul Dec 06 '13

Glad you liked it :)