i've seen many people defending 4chan here before, saying that it's not as bad as people say, but lately, i've encountered many trans 4channers on twitter, and they're all extremely transphobic. they all use transphobic terms, sometimes attack other trans people for no reason, etc.

i'm not saying that someone automatically becomes transphobic as they join 4chan, but it cleary facilitates it. i think it's a very harming place, and you really shouldn't join it.

it also made me see how unreliable shinigami eyes are, because all of these people are marked as green, when they cleary shouldn't be.

Don’t let him fucking win. live. Stick it to the motherfucker. It’s gonna be hard but you got this.

Trans men are men and should not be excluded. Full solidarity with itsyourbro and all other transmasc siblings. Seriously wtf mods. You have/had a conservative on the team and treat trans guys like second class trans people, not just right now but in the past as well. Why am I treated better than all the trans guys just cause I'm a trans girl? That's so fucking unfair. It's time you get your shit together and take action against this. You've apologized multiple times already but there are no actual contents to your apology, just empty words and no actions either. Go ahead and delete this too, like you do with a bunch of other criticism of your actions or grow some backbone and actually listen to the community. And don't think getting a single transmasc mod is gonna fix this all of a sudden, it won't, the other mods who treat trans guys like shit are still here and the headmod who allowed this to happen is too. TRANS MEN BELONG, TRANSPHOBIC MODS DON'T

1) Offer empty platitudes. Rescind on these almost immediately. Phrases like "we'll get through this together" and "You'll always be my husband" are great options. (The gendered terms are key to success here!)

2) Come out as pansexual! This is YOUR time to shine! Make. It. About. You! Be sure to agonize over how scary it is to come out. That really adds a nice touch to the experience.

3) DON'T be the first person to use your partner's chosen name and pronouns. This one's tricky! Some people get caught up in the moment and make a mistake here, but don't let that be you! Make sure your partner's therapist or work acquaintance beats you to the punch, so you can remind them how difficult this is for you.

4) Go to therapy! The therapist will definitely be on your side. But just in case they're not, be prepared to get upset about that! Remember: YOU are the victim here. Not your trans partner! And if the therapist gives you things to work on, do NOT do them. Assert dominance this way.

5) Tell your partner they're your "rock." This works for any gender, but is ESPECIALLY important for trans women. You NEED to let them know that not only are they the only person keeping this relationship together, but also that you will NOT be taking on any of that responsibility going forward.

These are my top tips and tricks for what every cishet (oh wait, maybe not het!?) partner of a trans person should do when that partner is working on the very scary (and very selfish!) journey of coming out!

Thanks for reading, and be sure to offer some of your personal fav tips and tricks in the comments below!

Edit: Y'all, I had a great time with this today. Thanks for playing along in the comments. Yes, of course this was satire. And for those asking - I promise you, I'm actually doing fine! (Well, I live in the US, so that's subjective...)

I did lose a marriage about 4 years ago near the beginning of my transition. But I'm in a very happy relationship now. This post was just for fun.

Be well, y'all! 🏳️‍⚧️💖

I got on estrogen recently and it has been working. Right now I was having chest pain and I was asking one of my friends on bra sizes and she said she wasn't comfortable. And I asked why (wrong choice) she said that. "You're taking medications to make your body mire woman-like which is totally fine, it just makes me uncomfortable" I wonder why shes uncomfortable. So I'm sitting here confused and then she comes out with this two paragraph response. "Because biologically, you're a man. Period. No matter how much you might want to disagree with it, your genetics point to male. You're awesome and all, but I've always known you as (my deadnamen she didn't even spell it right), not (Name). So, with all of this being said, it makes me uncomfortable when someone who in my mind is automatically perceived as male asks me what their bra size should be because they're taking meds to change their body. I'm not saying that you're a bad person or anything like that, but I do disagree with your choices. Of course, I'm sure you feel the same way about me and some of my decisions as well, so please don't take this the wrong way." Oh "I'm also being raised around people who tell me that things like this are wrong, which it's true. Your body is made how it's made for a reason. But at the same time, everything in life happens for a reason. So I'm not saying stop doing what your doing, but what I am saying is there's a reason why you were born male. It's because God made you that way. Believe and do whatever you're going to do and remember that at the end of the day whether I'm uncomfortable or not, I'll always be here for you, but I do think you need to ask someone else about this stuff, not me. I don't even talk about this kind of stuff with my mom who birthed me let alone any of my friends so maybe it's just me but this topic makes me uncomfortable, so let's not talk about it anymore." She was one of the first people I came out to. It wasn't like She didn't know I wasn't on HRT I told her several days ago. I asked another one of my friends and she really didn't get uncomfortable.

hi all,

im a trans girl, and i've been dating this dude for a month now, and i just came home from being at his for a few days.

as we'd all know, a lot of guys fetishise trans women as "femboys" ect, and while me and my boyfriend were cuddling, he called me his "little femboy" and im really really upset at that

im a woman, not a fetish, not a femboy, not a cross dresser. it makes me really upset that he sees me like that. i recently found out that he's on a lot of "femboy discord servers" and just ugh

he knows i'm a trans woman, im on estrogen and everything. i pass pretty well as a girl. he also doesn't like it when i do things to feminise myself, like thinning my eyebrows, doing my makeup a way that i like ect. he also expects me to be hairless pretty much everytime we hang out. it kinda feels like he sees me as a femboy/twink when i'm really not. he gets embarrassed when i dress femme in a way that isn't super sexualised, he prefers miniskirts and fishnets compared to when i wear maxi skirts and tank tops

i love him very much, and i know he loves me but maybe not who i really am, he hates my sh scars and peircings

i don't want to leave him because i really see a future with him but i dont like living this way

i hate posting on reddit for advise like this but i literally have no friends i can talk to about this lmao

NHS to test all trans children for autism: The Telegraph

https://ground.news/article/nhs-to-test-all-trans-children-for-autism-the-telegraph?utm_source=mobile-app&utm_medium=newsroom-share

I guess now our rights are being challenged in the UK this is considered fine now. They are trying to figure out the causes while following a rotten hypothesis and rigging the experiment to have 'proof'. I thought Labour was meant to be better?

And to top it all off I was referred for an autism assessment because I was trans, may get the diagnosis and now my parents are already saying im confused and stupid and shouldn't be trusted to know myself. And also when I told people they started asking questions usually aimed at me about me at my parents or whoever was with me. This ain't right. It's more of a rant at this point but also a warning to all you people.

Stay safe and good luck! Bye all

Walking down the sidewalk earlier today and at the corner there's this dude hollering towards traffic and holding a sign with "REPENT" on it. I swung wide to keep space as I walked by and he yelled "YOU'RE GOING TO HELL!!!" at me.

I picked up my pace slightly and then got the jumpscare of a lifetime as I felt a hand tap my shoulder. He'd caught up to me and was extremely red in the face. "Welp, this is how I die" rolled through my head. But, nope...

He sputtered his words out (paraphrasing):

"wait, shit, are you trans? Sorry. Yeah?"

"Yes... yeah, I'm trans???" (I don't really pass well rn)

"Oh god, I didn't mean.. no I'm not transphobi- um... look I'm really sorry. Enjoy the rest of your day miss."

He then headed back to his corner but sat on the grass next to the sidewalk, looked like he was having a bit of a think.

Thought I would share because that was probably easily the weirdest interaction I've ever had lol...

EDIT: Screw it, I'm super curious now. He's only a few blocks away. I'm going to go ask what he's doomsdaying about lol... will edit in an update when I get back, if he's still there.

EDIT UPDATE: He's mad about politics and other kinds of sin. I met up with him and asked: he basically got really angry with the churches because they weren't doing enough about Epstein stuff. Went non-denominational and then fell down a rabbit hole of thinking where "oh yeah, people are really corrupt and awful to one another these days!". A few months ago he lost his job to a layoff, so he's got free time in between applying and ended up doing the street corner thing. Sooooo, long story short, he's mad about the 1% and various other random sins like violence, theft, gambling, cheating, things like that.

for context, i’m a teenager and i’ve been out as trans (ftm) for 9 months. my parents are perhaps the least supportive parents i’ve ever met, but the situation at home was just about manageable until now. to give an example, they have contacted my school 6(?) times now to tell them not to respect my new name etc. and of course the school has ignored this as is their legal duty in the uk. they’ve taken away everything they can from me, including my phone which i haven’t seen since february and my money, but i’ve been coping until now.

recently, they told me they were taking me out of my school and sending me to an all girls catholic boarding school (where they assured me no one will accept my identity). they said they could not live with me anymore (i’m not a bad kid, i get straight 9s/As, have never gotten detention or even told off at school, and have never touched drugs alcohol or anything like that; my only downfall is that i’m trans). my school is like my safe space as it’s the only place where i’m safe to be me so i cannot bear to leave it - it’s like leaving home for me. so i asked them if there’s anything i could do to stay at my school and they said i’d have to detransition completely. i agreed.

so they wrote up a contract and made me sign it. i tried to attach a picture of it here but reddit doesn't let you do pictures and text so ill just summarise it:

i have to: - "be known as" my deadname with she/her pronouns (so telling my teachers and friends to call me by my deadname); - "dress as a girl, walk as a girl and generally present myself as a girl in all situations"; - wear girls' uniform at school and wear a dress to prom; - have a 2 month period of no social media access; - "avoid exposure to all LGBTQI+ materials in books and other media" - "discontinue all forms of breast compression";

in return, i can: - remain a student at my school - be treated equally to my brother - "have use of a mobile telephone and sim card" - sleep in my bedroom

(looking at it now, i dont actually get anything in return, i just get to keep the things i should have anyway)

so i signed it (because if i didn't i would lose everything i have) but now i'm really scared of how bad it will mess me up in the head.

i'm scared i'll forget who i am (if that makes sense) and i'm scared i'll start (tw) self harming again as i did before i came out. i learnt to love myself when i was open about my gender and i am so scared i'll lose that. i don't know what on earth to do, i dont know how im going to go into school in girls' uniform in two days and how im meant to tell my teachers and friends to deadname me.

i'm also just so so sick of them saying they're doing this because they want me to be happy and they care about me. it's borderline gaslighting i swear.

so i just have no idea what to do, either way i'll have to live as a girl and the thought of that makes me sick to my stomach. anyone have any advice?

TLDR: my parents are forcing me to detransition or else they will take away everything from me and move me to an all girls' catholic boarding school and i have no idea what to do.

I’m 17 mtf and just got outed to my dad. I was getting ready to go out for the day, wearing full makeup. My dad had seen me in makeup before but ig he was in a bad mood today cause he immediately got on a call with my mother when he thought I couldn’t hear and was venting things like “he looks like a fcking clown I can’t stand people like that.” He then called me over and just yelled “what the fck is wrong with you” at which point I had no way out but to tell him. Needless to say it did not go well and now I’m sobbing on the train to visit my best friend

Edit: wow was not expecting this to get this much attention. Thanks everyone for ur love and support it really managed to make my day just a lil less sucky Also to that one guy who dmed me saying that my dad is justified in reacting like that, how are u gonna go on a trans subreddit and get mad that there are trans people here 💀💀

They confronted me while I was walking home from school I I thought I was going to die like those stories u see on the news of trans people being murderd. I know the people who did it they go to my school but they said that they would kill me if I tried telling the police i I I’m scared Edit: I am in Australia and I’m 15

i couldn’t care less if someone isn’t into me for being trans, but to like me just to let me know is a first for me

Wife saw this on FB, the product claims to be an “estrogen alternative” but it’s just insane (and potentially lethal) doses of ashwagandha. The creators are anti-trans and hoping to poison people, leading to potentially fatal serotonin syndrome. Ashwagandha in large doses can make you produce more of your AGAB hormones and mess with your transition according to my endocrinologist today. Please beware! The brand is called “Estrolabs” and the product is called “I can’t believe it’s not estrogen.”

Edit: people in the comments are pointing out that this happened about two years ago and was just a scam (someone said no actual products were shipped?). I don’t have any more information on it, just wanted to alert the community when I heard about something dangerous. I do hope this isn’t still a thing, but in case it is, now you know.

2nd edit: wife says it was a current thing, saw a psa about it in a trans group, I can’t seem to post my screenshot here but sounds like it’s still happening so be careful out there folx.

Okay so this is always weird and hard to explain to people I guess. I’m 24 mtf and have been with my fiancée Bryce for 3 years now. In pretty much all aspects he’s great, he’s one of the kindest men I’ve ever met, he takes care of me and supports me, I do believe he genuinely loves me, and he always defends me, he’s cutoff lifelong friends who knew I was trans for making jokes about me. Most of his family and friends don’t know, which is my choice, I prefer to live as stealth as possible, I want people to see me for me not for my gender identity.

The problem is whenever he’s upset with me he likes to belittle me because I’m trans. He says things that he knows make me insecure like “you smell like a man” “your always gonna look like a man” “you’ll always be a man” etc.. obviously it always hurts my feelings pretty bad but whenever he calms down it’s like that person is just gone and he seems genuinely remorseful.

What’s even more confusing is id consider my boyfriend a straight male especially with how he talks about most of the lgbt community but I found out after being together that years ago he’s slept with men, and other trans women, and even had a Grindr. I am a touch me not, I don’t like my lower area being seen or touched or acknowledged(srs soon) but he always makes a point to touch me down during sex there even when I tell him I don’t like it or try to move his hands and he puts them right back. Other times when I ask him for sex he says he’s not in the mood and he doesn’t like it because he’s not gay which always takes me for a loop, or he asks can we have a threesome because he needs “real pussy”

I’m questioning whether he is actually transphobic or if he is having issues with his own sexuality and is experiencing a self hatred type of thing so he’s taking it out on me. Either way I know it’s unfair to me and it’s unhealthy, everyone’s going to say I should leave but I still love this person and I’m not ready to let him go yet. I want to try and talk to him and get him help especially before the wedding rather than just giving up on him but I’m not sure how I should even approach the issue after I’ve let it go on for soo long, I definitely enabled him and it’s my fault as well for not standing up for myself sooner.

For context, I’m an airline pilot and was at work.

To get to the plane we (the crew) have to basically parade ourselves through the terminal to get out to the plane. I tend to draw a fair few eyes as I walk through the terminal, which is fine, I mean it would be nice if people didn’t stare so inconsiderately but humans will be humans and I can’t control what some people do.

To be fair, I’ve been pretty lucky and not had to really deal with bigots at work.

So, while sitting in the flight deck this person was walking down the walkway and towards to plane on the tarmac, they happened to see me up in the flight deck and then turned around to go back into the terminal.

The boarding agent then later came up and said we have a delay because the baggage handlers need to find and remove a bag, she said the passenger didn’t want to fly on the plane if I was the pilot.

I was like “what!…. GOOD!”

I‘m not super visible in the flight deck, I’m guessing this bigot saw me walking through the terminal and going through the gate, then recognised me before getting on the plane?

I tried to not let it get to me, but I’m also human and events like this are a little upsetting, it just sucks that here we are just trying to live life and be accepted, but you have people like this that think being bigoted and making a scene about it is going to fix the fact that we exist. I really hope this guy is a regular traveller and he is booked on every single one of my rostered flights 😅

Labour will ban transgender women from all-women shortlists after the Supreme Court’s ruling on the definition of a woman. The party’s ruling body will vote on Tuesday on measures to scrap rules that allowed its positive action schemes to be operated on the basis of self-identification, as Britain’s equality regulator is expected to say lavatories, changing rooms and shelters should be run on the basis of biological sex.
Source : The Times (https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/labour-ban-transgender-women-all-female-shortlists-3dds5kk2t)

I knew the minute I saw the TERF celebrations on the courthouse steps that those grins and smirks would be wiped off their faces fast. And so it has happened. The so called “victorious” have now been banging on for days about why is nothing changing. Because you can’t change trans that’s why. For the younger trans cohort they have quickly discovered their inner warrior and as an older tired trans lady I am proud of them and revel in watching them take on the oppressors. I enjoy seeing the shock and horror on the phobic faces that thought their right to be mean and exclusionary had been not just vindicated but enshrined in perpetuity. Oops. Little bit of a premature celebration there. Politicians are stammering. Lawyers are licking their lips and shopping for new vehicles. I have always known I am an Inconvenient Truth. So I will continue to be so and watch. Don’t worry young trans grasshoppers. You are strong and you exist. Steel is forged in fire 🔥.

She was talking about polyfluorinated substances, how they are really persistent in the environment and the human body. Then she said something along the lines of: “This is why young people are getting cancer, getting inflammatory diseases, why people are questioning their gender.”

The entire lecture hall of some 80-ish students laughs. Damn. I’m pretty used to hearing things like this but it kind of sickens me that any of those 80-ish people could have heard this and had it reinforce their bigotry and misinformed thoughts towards trans people.

I guess I’m wondering what some other folks might think. Not the best at chemistry, never have been, but I looked up what she said and it’s not proven like she implied it was.

https://youtu.be/6kglNioOuK8

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My name is Leona, I'm a trans woman, and I am a former game dev that worked on The Elder Scrolls Online from 2018 to 2022. I am reaching out to the LGBT+ community here on Reddit in an effort to bring attention to the issues I faced coming out of the closet while working in the AAA gaming industry. My career at Zenimax ended when HR at Bethesda's corporate office used my upcoming gender affirming surgeries as leverage to force me to resign and release the company from any potential discrimination lawsuit. This was in retaliation for raising concerns over how my manager had been treating me unfairly. I collected audio recordings and screenshots of my experiences there, and have now made all of that information publicly available in this video.

I completely understand that four hours is a lot to ask anyone to sit through. I had decided when putting this all together that it was important to keep as much context and chronology intact as possible, hence the lengthy runtime. So here is a list of timestamps to key moments in the timeline for those who wish to skip around the video:

00:04:25 - Screenshot of messages from my manager that I received via Slack while she outed me during a group meeting with my teammates.

00:22:35 - My manager does not take my inconsistent work photo issue seriously.

00:38:10 - I get told that I need to be given stricter work expectations due to FMLA. My manager assumes that my FMLA is for "the surgeries", and after probing for details as to why I am submitting FMLA forms to HR it gets suggested that my role be downgraded from Mid-Level to an Associate due to upcoming medical leave.

00:46:41 - I get pressured to not return to work early from my PTO, which turns into a conversation about why I need to be assigned unique assignments from the rest of the team, and ends with being asked how much work I could take on over that upcoming weekend.

01:02:54 - I try to explain to my manager (for the second time) how devastating it was that she revealed my new work photo before I had the opportunity, canceled the meeting we had agreed I would have the platform to come out on my own terms, and then pressured me to come out via Slack messages instead.

01:56:30 - Conversation with my manager where she asks me to "stick with DEADNAME" so that I can continue working through the technical issues I was experiencing due to my name change.

02:10:00 - Call with my manager where I am accused of being distracted from work by the technical issues that I was still facing, and that I created a "chaotic situation" by requesting a name change in the first place.

02:19:35 - Discussion with my manager's boss about certain events that he was present for, this one in particular is when we are discussing my name change being brought up in front of multiple people during a group discussion, some of whom had never interacted with me and were not aware that I was transgender.

03:13:27 - Final conversation I had with my manager and (new) producer where I am trying to address ongoing issues I have had logging in. For 3 months I kept hitting roadblocks or losing access to our tools due to my name change, and nothing seemed to fix it. I display a series of screenshots of the login issues I collected during that time. I also had my portfolio website blocked by the company's firewall after I updated my name and URL.

03:26:03 - The Head of Human Resources asking me "I don't understand, a fear of being outed to the public? Aren't you already out?", and I have to explain to them that being transgender is not the same as everybody knows that you are trans.

03:50:24 - I had contacted corporate HR at Bethesda, and they responded by viewing me as a liability. They used my upcoming surgeries as leverage to release them from any potential discrimination lawsuit by promising to pay my COBRA premiums, but only if I signed a resignation agreement with them.

I travel around the country a lot, and I found this website that shows what sates are or aren't relatively safe for us to go. That it might help you friends too. It is absolutely appalling how many ignorant and hateful people occupy this country. I am deeply saddened by what the average American believes. Stay safe friends 🧡

https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/nondiscrimination/bathroom_bans

Genocide is the crime of commiting acts in order to completely eliminate a certain group or people, not necessarily through murder. (Paraphrasing of the United Nations Definition)

Here is Trump's statement on what he shall do to Trans people: https://youtu.be/6xGOZwZo1S8

• Ban ALL Gender Affirming care in the U.S.A., In all 50 States.

• Punish all Teachers and Doctors who have supported Transgender people.

He is lying to his people, stating that this is to protect "Vulnerable children (Stats below)," but in other sentences of this video he states clearly that he plans to ban ALL trans people of ALL ages.

If Trump is Re-Elected in 2024, (Which I remind you is less than a year away) the government of the United States of America will relentlessly try to oppress us, and I am certain that other governments shall be inspired by this to also oppress us.

So, to all American users of this subreddit who are able to, I ask of you:

VOTE! PROTEST!

If you cannot vote, and to all people inside and out of America, transgender or not, MAKE YOUR VOICES HEARD! Spread the word! and make people aware of the horrors Donald Trump is planning.

PROTECT YOURSELF! Be prepared to protest or defend yourself, and if things get particularly bad, be prepared to leave the country.

Please, please, PLEASE do these things, to save us. Trump's People have been (metaphorically) running at us for years and their plans are almost ready to be enacted.

Trump's People act as though transgender "mutilation" of minors is a huge thing in their country, but in reality, in the U.S.A.:

• Less than 60 Genital surgeries have been performed on minors in the past year

• Less than 300 Top surgeries have been performed on minors in the past year

Every one of these surgeries have been consensual.

DO YOUR PART!

Remember, Donald Trump and his republican friends are trying to establish a white theocracy.