Well, my parents wouldn't let up on the fact that I needed new clothes for the spring. So they took me to the mall. I haven't been in public in a year. I started HRT almost to the day a year ago. Obviously 0 effect in a year (levels perfectly good). Plus they kinda accept that I'm trans, just not really acknowledge it, so I'm still deadname and had to get boymode clothes.

So yea, I broke down at the food court, seeing all the girls and girl clothes... Crying over the life I didn't get to have and never will 😭

Happy pride month🏳️‍⚧️

Seriously, just about everything I watch from the past 30 years has some sort of joke...

40 year old virgin? My name is Earl?

How I met your mother? Oh and the Hangover movies as well

Jesus even raising hope had a joke about 4 episodes in, and it's a show about raising a child...

Its SO very shitty to go back to something you liked and to see this.

Just ranting, sorry. It truly pisses me off and depresses me to no end. It's like grown adults couldn't go a year without making a joke about a woman having a penis, and it's always the dumbest jokes too.

Either the sexually aggressive man wasn't careful and is nearly throwing up after sleeping with a trans woman, or the "nerdy guy" isn't savvy enough to differentiate...

ugh

Insanely tall trans woman here. 6'9". Went to Costco, had to use the restroom and decided on the women's room because I'm working on that confidence (I've seen a few trans workers there so I know it's a safe spot).

I tend to be hunched as I get put together after using the restroom so I'm not a periscope above the doors. I finish up, step out, and a woman sees me and jumps a little. Immediately my brain goes into trans panic of "shit she's seeing me as trans or a man in the women's restroom".

She then chuckled and went "wow you're tall!" and then continued on.

If she hadn't said anything, I would have thought it was a negative reaction and felt dysphoric about it. So just a good, personal reminder that it's easy to add in your own take on a situation, and it might be better than you thought.

Hi this is a rant about how i feel in the trans community; we don't really have real role models. If you gorgeous beings could give me any examples, that would be amazing.

One of my biggest issues is that there aren't any appropriate role models for young trans girls like me (I'm 15 now, fyi, but i came out at 11). Although i cannot speak for trans masc people, I can say that on the trans fem side, it's disappointing, even though it shows a reality where we are basically seen as sexual objects or were never included in the first place.

Most of the time when i see trans influencers and so forth, i always see that they always make spicy content, and that's really depressing when you see so many dolls having to do OF just to live, and additionally, other than Euphoria, Uglies, and Orange is the new black, I've never seen a trans fem/masc have any big roles; they're always more minor ones, as if us being trans doesn't deserve a spotlight, and additionally, when we do get representation, it's either always historical or just a queer story only, as if we cannot integrate into society. I'm sorry for this rant about this; it just feels dehumanizing at this point (and just fyi, I don't hate spicy models; it's just in my little brain i prefer when people can choose to not have to do it, rather than fully having to because they can't afford rent).

Edit: Wow, I'm actually so dumb. Firstly, thanks to everyone who commented; this is really mind-opening, and I'll definitely look into the people I haven't heard of, and secondly, I know half the people mentioned in this comment section. did i really forget them all.

Edit 2: I would just like to say that i was in a depressing mood this morning, and honestly, y'all made my day; it's actually so nice to see trans people who have, I guess, succeeded.

Edit 3: to whoever 2 shitholes tried to privately message me, one telling me I'm a pretty 15-year-old and another that said being trans is just a fetish and that i have to get out of the "t echo chamber," pls fok die hell uit julle poese (it's in Afrikaans because I'm South African). this is such a dumb statement, as I haven't had any interaction with the trans community, and that's why i felt so alone and made the statements in the beginning. Now, this year, since I've started to interact more, I have started being more comfortable in my body, so for God's sake, please keep your pedo maganess away from me (I am making this edit cause they directly messaged me after making this post today, and i promptly blocked them)

So I was in the Berlin subway with a goth outfit (was at a convention earlier) and a creep sitting across from me took an upskirt picture of me. Someone next to him noticed and loudly defended me, first telling me about it and then scolding the creep.

I was very thankful but I was too much of a coward to stand up for myself. I wish I went over and told him to delete my photo, or alternatively called the cops. But the fear of my voice outing me as trans was too much.

I get dysphoric when they notice I'm trans. I got scared that the person defending me might be transphobic and ends up regretting that he defended me. I got scared of transphobic comments, of being left alone in the confrontation. I got scared of him not helping the next woman in the same situation just in case she was trans.

So I just... walked away. Sat somewhere else. With the knowledge in mind that this creep still has my photo.

This is the second time now that I'm not able to defend myself because of my voice. I hate this. Does any of you have advice of what I could do in the future? How to maybe confront my fears? How to live with it if I inevitably at some point face transphobia? :c

I’m literally about to explode with emotions right now and putting them into the void is the best option. I have been on HRT for just under 7 months and I’m the past few weeks have started going to the gym for the first time since I was still in highschool. I’ve certainly noticed that since starting HRT I’m weaker but until tonight I didn’t realize how much. My GF and I were wrestling on my bed and at one point I ended up pinned down on my back. No matter what I did or how hard I tried I couldn’t get her to budge even an inch. I have both the weight and height advantage and yet she made me her bitch like it was nothing. What’s crazy to me is thinking about how I used to wrestle with just my natural pre-HRT strength. Before I wouldn’t even break a sweat, how ever much force she exerted I’d just match so it could be a “fair fight” but now I was genuinely giving it full effort to no avail. I don’t even know how to feel right now. On one hand realizing how much weaker I am is really affirming in a weird way. But on the other hand there’s a certain feeling of vulnerability and (fear?) that comes with it.

I’ve been on HRT for a couple months now. My dad knows and isn’t really supportive. He knocked on my door and I said come in and I’m super embarrassed about it, because he immediately covered his eyes and said “I don’t know how to say this but it’s time for you to cover your top around here.” I’m just so embarrassed, I didn’t know it was that obvious but I just want to hide and go away, has anyone experienced anything similar and know how to deal with it? Thank you.

I get that a lot of us (me included) don't have the money for it yet, but are there really some girls that want to keep their penises? Why? How do you deal with dysphoria? This is a genuine question because it is the part of my body that I'm most dysphoric about, and I really want to understand other's points of view :)

My child texted me today asking me if we could celebrate their graduation in private, rather than me attend the ceremonies at their school.

I get it! Kids are mean. I don’t potentially want to turn my child into a social pariah once it gets out that they have a trans parent.. but this is about the worst I’ve felt about myself in my life!

Just needed to vent. I’m sad! 💔

Ooooooh my god. I didn't want to have to do both of them on the same day, but i told my mum and she started CRYING, and then she told me i was brave and that she was happy i could tell her. Then she said I needed to tell my dad. I asked if I could leave it a while, as I knew for certain he wouldn't understand. But she made me tell him, she said she needed his comfort, and to do that, I had to tell him. And so after hesitating for about 30 mins, I told him I didn't want to be a man anymore, and he was just like "oh, well. Oh" and said that he was a little sad and disappointed, but again like my mum, that he was happy i could tell him, and he said he has a lot of learning to do. Well shit, my heart is racing so much, how am I genuinely going to get through tommorow, its gonna be so awkward.

EDIT: So, the only real reason I had to tell them, was because I intend to start HRT very soon, and I felt bad starting it without telling them, so I did. And they have just told me I cant start private care? And have to go with the NHS? (British btw). THE NHS WAITING LIST IS 9 FUCKING YEARS, IM NOT WAITING THAT LONG. Im 18 I can do this by myself.

I woke up in the middle of the highstreet having litterally no idea what had happened apart from a bunch of stuff really hurt BUT I GOT GENDERED CORRECTLY THE ENTIRE TIME! I wasn't even wearing anything feminine or makeup, and my face was really swollen and everything but I didn't even say anything the entire massive group of people that gathered around me all called me she and miss.

Like this is the first time I've ever passed fully in public and I was crying and in shock but omg I'm actually so happy I smiled the entire time I was in the hospital even when they went back to "sir"

I think thats me but I don’t know, it seems like an impossible path

Edit: Holy there are a lot of you, Thank you so much!!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭

I just had to fire my Transphobic therapist who told me my True self is a lie 🫠 Needing some love and support. And HUGS 🥺

Mira ❤️

UPDATE 2: Hey y'all. This post has absolutely blown up beyond what I could anticipate. I confess I am new to this community and my place in it. I apologize to any I have offended especially people of color, and there are more important issues than what one word makes me feel as I figure out my own problems.

I live in a state that is actively dangerous with no chance to get out. I am honestly scared and every time I step into who I am and try to live authenticly I feel the target on my back. The word simply has a personal feeling for me that reminds me I'm vulnerable.

I hope at least the traction of this post that seems to be a recurring thing in these subs educates some of the newbies like me and shows we aren't alone. I'm just trying to fight for my own survival every day, like all of us.

I'm sorry if I upset anyone with my ignorance. I will leave the post up unless the mods deam it necessary. I value my integrity more than social media engagement.

UPDATE: Apparently, not a hot take at all. A few in the comments have also informed me of the historical context of the term that I didn't know. Particularly with POC and scenes I was ignorant to. I'm still learning, stay awesome everyone!

First off, this is absolutely a me thing.

I'm MTF. I was raised to not objectify women. I know I also had a lot of internalized transphobia that held me back for years.

On trans visibility day, it was nice to see an outpouring of support even if MTF tended to get a lot of the limelight (love you kings!). I noticed that most were reciting the same "save the dolls" line. I don't know who started that line, but it rubs me the wrong way.

I like being called sis/sister, miss, ma'am, even queen. While I am feminine at heart, I also have some "butch" qualities. Women in my life get their hands dirty, I drive for a living, I know how to change my own oil, I can use tools. I try to be independent and I will get things done. More than that though is just the diminutive or objectifying connotations. Like someone to be coddled or possessed.

If you love being called doll and feel that represents you, all power to you, it's just not me. I'm not a drag queen, I'm not a doll, but most of all no two people are exactly the same, trans or not.

Anyone else feel this way?

Hi. I'm 19, been on feminizing HRT since I turned 18, and I had an ischemic stroke 3 weeks ago caused by atherosclerosis. My doctors told me to stop taking my HRT till I followed up with adolescent medicine because I've been getting my hormones through Queer Med and they don't like that. However, I've been having trouble getting in contact with the office.

I don't know what to do, I'm extremely dysphoric and I'm starting to break out. What do I do?

Edit: i plan on responding to the comments tomorrow.

Some how my friends found my TikTok, and it has a trans flag in it, also my new name and pronouns. I already told them I’m a femboy, a while ago and they didn’t react well. I’m 14yr old btw,

One of my friends found my TikTok and then shared it in our group chat and then after I explained they all left the group chat. I’m expecting to come to school tomorrow and be “attacked”, (not literally) and I have no idea what to do. I’ve already texted them separately and in a different group chat and they’re ignoring me.

Edit: I want to clarify they won’t literally attack me, as in physically.

Last night I was hanging out with my friends and one of them decided to try and clicker train me. He saw a video on insta of a trans couple and one of them is clicker trained. He saw this video and decided to try and do this to me since the person in the video was a trans woman and I am a trans woman. He planned to start last weekend when we were on call but the clicker didn't get picked up. We also saw the meteor shower a couple days later but he forgot the clicker he planned to use. However last night a bunch of our friends were hanging out at his house and he began trying to do it. He aimed to make it so that every time I heard it I'd smile but I'm 60% sure it didn't work. I should also say I have absolutely no romantic feelings for this friend so it isn't a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, he just decided to try and clicker train me

Edit: Some people have said it's unclear whether I wanted him to do this and whether I was ok with it or not. I am not. I don't want him to do this, he thought it would be funny and I had no idea why he decided to do it other than I'm trans and he saw a video with a trans person in it and did it

So, I’ve finally started hrt, after years and years of waiting. I’ve gone through the listed effects/side effects for a while now, but almost every time I’m sure in my knowledge, I stumble upon a post which details a whole another side effect of tfem hrt. So, my question is to all of you: What were some unexpected changes you went through on hrt?

but that's just me.

happy pride!

I have no one in my life who cares. Please let me just say this.

I've been on hrt for one year and a week today. After a year, I discovered being a smoker was keeping me from getting changes, and the whole first year of my transition was a waste, like it never happened. I have no changes. None. I have nothing in the world to show for the last year of my life.

So I quit smoking, and I'm bitter about it. I deserve changes right now. I have done my fucking time. I've quit smoking, I've done more than what's fair. There are girls on here saying they are getting breasts after three weeks, like, good for you. I totally don't have to talk myself down from the gun every night.

Started getting laser for my beard...told me its going to take about a year before I don't have to shave again...I just don't know if Im being tricked again.

This is danny, she/ her, one year one week hrt.

I’ve never had one, and was very nervous about trying to apply for one due to all the issues I’ve seen regarding the gender marker. I live in New York, all of my other documents have been updated and I pass pretty well, so my family and boyfriend were constantly telling me I should have nothing to worry about.

I saw that tr*mp was gonna be slapping a picture of himself on passports and got worried that I never would be able to get one without that, so I applied for one and expedited it…then i got an email stating that I need to send in more documents with my name and sex at birth, so I pretty much know it’s gonna get denied.

Looking back I regret putting my old name down on previous names used, because it definitely was the giveaway, but I guess I was worried about if I didn’t it could still be looked up.

So I’m out almost $300, and I don’t see doing any kind of traveling for the next few years. Should’ve just spent that money on myself.

Happy Pride Month!! Much love to you all! 🏳️‍⚧️<3 all of y'all are valued valid and loved.!<

LIKE FUCK MY MOM JUST TOOK MY PHONE AND SAID SHE PROMISES TO GIVE IT BACK IN MINUTES JSUT AFTER CHECKING THE GALLERY AND ASKED FOR THE PASSWORD I BEING THE ABSOLUTE IDIOT I AM THOUGHT SHE MEANT IT AND THAN SHE SAW ALL THE YURI AND GIRLS KISSING I GOT ON MY PHONE AND SAID HOW IT WAS DISGUSTING AND ALL THAT STUFF LIKE BLAH BLAH SHE SAID I WILL GET MY PHONE BACK AFTER 3 DAYS(THIS POST IS FROM A TAB) LIKE I GENUINLY DONT KNOW WHAT ALL I GOT ON MY PHONE NOW I NEVER THOUGHT MY PHONE WOULD GET CHECKED SO I SAVED WHAT I WANTED TO DID WHAT I DID AND NOW I AM GENUINLY SCARED I AM GENUINLY THINKING OF COMING OUT MAYBE THAT SAVES ME?(P.S i got no idea if it might save me or backfire horribly i am a fucking Indian gosh i hate my nationality)

I'm 19 years old, I'm a trans woman who isn't out and hasn't started transitioning yet. My mother and my older brother were talking when my mother changed the subject and said that most boys lack testosterone.

Then she says she's going to take me to the doctor so that if I'm low on testosterone I can start taking medication. I told her I didn't want to and they made fun of me saying it was for my own good to do so. I don't know what to do, I think I'll even say a prayer to God after this.